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writes:I've known this guy for a long time, we used to date when we were in junior high, but after that I lost contact with him, 12 years later I contact him and we start seeing each other, but it wasn't nothing serious, it was more like a "friends with benefits" kind of thing. So he's in a popular band and one night I was really drunk and I slept with someone from the band. He found out (everybody found out) and he was furious at me, would not accept my "drunk" excuse, told me he was dissapointed and that things will never be the same, and that he could accept me sleeping with anyone but his band members. Thing is he never looked me up, I was the one always calling him, seems like he never cared about me and I was the chaser, so I don't get why he's so mad. I guess he was hurt. How do I get him to forgive me? I care very deeply for him and don't want to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): whay do you think it was no big deal sleeping with his band member? as he rightly said, sleep around with anyone, but not his band members. Meaning, do not sh1T on his doorstep! your excuse was indeed a lame excuse.
"Bro's before ho's.", yes Dirtball perfect saying.
How many band menbers are there? Two down.............
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): You can call it ego if that's the only way you can understand it. But lots of people without ego problems would have the same feelings in the position he is in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): Anonymous, it's an ego thing. He doesn't want her he's just annoyed she laid one of his friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): The Walkin Dude said: "It's just an ego thing for him"
No, it's called evolution. Men don't want to share women they care about because then they won't be sure who fathers her kids. Our male ancestors who didn't have this "ego problem" didn't reproduce nearly as well as the ones who did.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 January 2011):
The last time he was your boyfriend was in junior high. Now, you are nothing to him. You two HAD a FWBs, that is NOT a relationship. It's just sex with no strings attached.
So you got drunk (yes you are responsible for your actions when you drink) and slept with his bandmate. That makes you look like a groupie. Groupies have a tendency of breaking up bands and causing major issues. Yoko Ono is the most infamous one. Therefore your fuckbuddy decided to end the arrangement before the history of the Beatles repeats itself.
All you can say is you're sorry, you already did that. So what's next? Moving on.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Don't want to lose him? You never had him!
You fucked one of his close friends. He'll never forgive you. It will be best if you move on.
How does that old saying go? Oh yeah, "Bro's before ho's."
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): You don't need to be forgiven because he's not your boyfriend. You didn't cheat on anybody and you're free to do what you like.
He's probably just jealous because one of his friends got with you. He doesn't want you but he doesn't want you to be with anyone else either.
You said before, you chased him. It's just an ego thing for him, it's hurt his ego that you went with another guy, that's all.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 You don't his told you already his disappointed in your poor judgement dont incite the situation any more by pushing contact to apologise i agree with him though in all respects "I was drunk" is the lamest excuse for betrayal in the books.
It doesn't matter how drunk someone is your still in control of your actions and if you don't have self control and dont remember your actions from drinking then thats a sure sign you need to steer clear of alcohol.
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