Am I wasting my time and energy giving my love to someone who will never return it the way I want?
Q. I have known "my boy" for 20+ years. We grew up together, our parents were friends, etc. I moved away for 13 years, and when I came back I fell for him, as he did for me. He is married and has three children, but only stays in the relationsh...
A. 16 March 2007: i feel sorry for the wife and children.you know that what you are doing is wrong and would totally devastate them if they found out.he committed to her.your"boy"had 3 kids with her.doesnt it tell you a whole lot about his character that he can sneak ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him or do you think he and his wife are back together?
Q. Dear Cupid: I've been seeing this gentleman for 1 and 1/2 years now. At first he pursued me day and night. After about 10 months down the relationship, he tells me that he and his first wife are now friends. He says that the kids think that they ...
A. 16 March 2007: I wouldnt bother playing any game with this man. He's being sneaky in one respect probably hoping he can keep you in the background in case his wife dumps him or he gets bored who knows? God knows what excuses he's giving his wife when he pops out ... (read in full...)
His ex showed up and now he won't talk to me, openly-not sure what is going on! What should I do?
Q. I started going out with my boyfriend at christmas, all was going great, we only get to see eachother at weekends because he lives a fair distance away n works all week. last week however he seemed a bit distant and off when texting me i thought ...
A. 15 March 2007: How horrible for you and how bloody convenient for him. He cant even give you the time to explain himself. I think that reeks of guilt. The fact he said he doesn't want to hurt you by explaining the situation obviously means that you definitely ... (read in full...)
He's too insensitive--is there a way to make him understand that he needs to be more sensitive?
Q. I am just wondering how to make my boyfriend of 2 years more sensitive towards my feelings? Often he's very blunt and rude with me, and it really is upsetting. I've tried talking to him, and he just tells me Im overreacting. He also said that I ...
A. 15 March 2007: Sounds like a tough one. In general women are more sensitive but we don't want a brute. Is he rude to everyone or is it just you? If it's just you then he has issues. You have spelt it out in black and white and he still wont listen. My partner ... (read in full...)
Visitation troubles..my ex expects me to deliver and pick up our son! What can I do?
Q. I am divorced and have put myself out to make sure my son has a good relationship with his Dad. This has meant keeping things going with his parents too, who have helped a lot. When he lived 30 miles away I did one journey up and back, to either ...
A. 15 March 2007: This setup sounds bad all round. You dont mention why you split up. If it was mainly you that instigated the divorce or caused the reason for the split then it sounds like he is carrying a lot of anger and bitterness. I've been through similar ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken---how can he have fallen out of love with me so fast
Q. I'd really appreciate any feedback on this I can get. I'm 20 years old and I started my first proper relationship over a year ago at a new job I started. He was totally besotted with me.. couldnt take his eyes off me and stuttered whenever he sp...
A. 14 March 2007: i think a lot of warning signs were there at the start.the classic scenario of the charmer.he reeled you in(that's not to say he didnt want you)overpowered you with all these'i love yous'and has then been shown to be a liar.he may have started to ... (read in full...)
We were together until the ex said she was pregnant so we broke up and she moved in. Turns out she's not but he doesn't want anything serious now.
Q. I started to see my new room mate one weekend, but his ex found a way to get him back using the "I'm pregnant" excuse. She ended up moving in and we put our relationship on hold. A couple weeks later, we find out she's not pregnant, they break up ...
A. 14 March 2007: funny how he's getting his head straight by going out and looking for casual sex?all the while you're getting your head mashed wondering what could of been.stop waiting in the background.if you really are desperate then ask him out ... (read in full...)
I find it insulting that my gf still does things with her ex bf! How do I handle this?
Q. I finally got my life on the right track and have had a steady and stable girlfriend for the last 2.5 months. I think she is the one. However, she is still in contact with her ex-boyfriend, who also happens to be her mechanic and is one of her good ...
A. 14 March 2007: while there's nothing wrong with being friendly to an ex things can go too far.they are called EX for a reason.you wouldn't want to go to the pictures with an ex friend so why go with an ex lover?the way i look at it is in the past you have slept ... (read in full...)
My ex always goes running back to his sister!
Q. Hi me and my ex split up last year after i met his sister as it all got to much for me, we have been trying to get back togther but never get anytime just me and him, because everytime we arrange something his sister makes him babysit her kids ...
A. 14 March 2007: uuurrrgghhhh ive heard some excuses in my time but that just takes the biscuit.how about you arrange a date between the pair of you which remains private?or does his sister keep tabs on every move he makes?in which case he isnt relationship or even ... (read in full...)
His Ex wife is contantly harrasing me!! Shes making our lives miserable, what can we do !?
Q. I'm dating a divorced man with two children. We both have permanent jobs and he is 7 years my seniour.His ex-wife is currently harrasing me even though I try to be civil to her for the sake of her children. She sends me sms's which are problematic, ...
A. 14 March 2007: why do ex's behave like this? they don't realise in the long run they are the one's who are degrading themselves. Not much consolation but she must be eaten up with jealousy,bitterness etc,sad really. Why not change all your no's? Cut down the ... (read in full...)
Why do men vanish??
Q. Why are men really into you one minute and then all of a sudden you don't hear a thing from them, they don't call or reply to your text's twice this has happened to me completely out of the blue!...
A. 14 March 2007: do yourself a favour and erase his numbers. If two people like each other normally they cant wait to see each other. Guys dont like pressure. You will look back on this one day as a distant memory,let him fade out of your mind. I bet he's loving it. ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up with me to think things over, Does he not love me or does he want to date other girls ??
Q. Hey, I have a problem which has recently reli been getting me down. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and he is now saying that he is contemplating breaking up with me, because he needs time to think about things. But i knw im only young bu...
A. 14 March 2007: im not saying everyone's the same but in my experience 'i need a break'means youve reached some sort of bottleneck with your feelings. Your guy doesnt seem to have explained in detail why he needs a break. I dont think its very healthy to keep ... (read in full...)
How could he of wanted to sleep with another woman if he still wanted me back?
Q. I finished a relationship a while back because i felt it lost its spark etc,it lasted 4 years but my fella wouldn't take no for an answer,anyway we have got back together because i started to miss him and wanted to work out our differences. Anyway, ...
A. 14 March 2007: ive had the same sort of treatment only my guy decided to sleep with me and then tell me afterwards he'd been with someone else.he's come clean.i bet all the time he was with her he wanted you.ofcourse he must have had some feelings for her ... (read in full...)
Are there any girls in my situation who love their ex and are willing
Q. Hello again. I know that I've got a lot of support from everyone here. But I wanted to know if there were anyother girls in my situation. Someone to talk to. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. We just decided to take a break because he's ...
A. 13 March 2007: plwase wake up and smell the coffee.its embarrassin to read how much this guy is taking the pee out of you let alone being in it.the reply from tygersdream was fantastic read it and read it again.... (read in full...)
He still keep in contact with the ex and it makes me sick to my stomach.
Q. Help, i feel sick when ever i think about my partner being nice to his ex. He says it is just because of their son, aged 14 who lives with us. She lives 100 miles away with her husband and when she phones up he always has time to chat to her. They ...
A. 13 March 2007: i can understand how you feel but at the end of the day its only phonecalls.isnt it better that they dont hate each other if only for the sons sake.do you ever listen to these calls?are they out in the open?you mention that shes 16years younger than ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to get suspicious with him. Should I be worried?
Q. i'm starting to get suspicious of some behavior of a guy i'm dating. he claims he loves me and we spend most of our free time together but lately he's been secretly speaking to an old girlfriend, disappears for a few hours without a call etc.. and ...
A. 13 March 2007: big no no.your reactions are totally normal.its easier said than done but try busying up your schedule without giving him explanations.change your behaviour to throw him a little just like hes done to you.he may feel secure enough with you because ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of three years didn't throw out his nudey pics of his ex! What does this mean?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He is divorced...he got burned pretty bad we're 27/25 years old... Anyway... He was going through some of his old junk and got rid of alot of stuff, EXCEPT for, I found this out today, some nude pic...
A. 13 March 2007: theres only really one issue here and that's the fact there are nude pictures?were there any other ex's letters,photos etc.if they were on there own then i'd be pretty dam angry.burn or rip them up infront of him.his reaction will be your answer.if ... (read in full...)
I've tried to throw him out but he claims he has no where to go, I have 2 kids to consider here, what do I do?
Q. Hi I have only just found out that my partner of 11 years has been cheating on me and got another woman pregnant, as you can imagine I am totally gutted, he says he wants to stay with me and loves me but I keep finding text messages on his phone. ...
A. 13 March 2007: you'll be considering the kids by chucking him out.i guarantee you'll be fighting and eventually probably end up hating him.at the moment you are still in shock.your mind is grasping at reasons for him to stay.think of all the emotional turmoil in ... (read in full...)
I found out he had been over at his ex's house, asked him and he admitted it. What do I do?
Q. I'm 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend whos 20 for almost a year...On march 5th I found out he went to his ex girlfriends house. I acted calm and asked him to come over to my house right after so we could talk. He said he just wanted ...
A. 13 March 2007: Sorry but i think lifes too short.iknow exactly where you are coming from because ive had it done to me.my ex kept camcorder tapes of him and his ex need i spell it out?the fact he kept those pictures on his phone is what would worry me.Does he have ... (read in full...)
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