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writes:i'm starting to get suspicious of some behavior of a guy i'm dating. he claims he loves me and we spend most of our free time together but lately he's been secretly speaking to an old girlfriend, disappears for a few hours without a call etc.. and telling me he was visiting family, attending an event that his former girlfriend would be at and just failed to tell me thats where he was, just leaving parts of his schedule totally quiet. Not that he owes me a minute to minute accounting of all his time but just out of courtesy, like I do with him, let him know where I'll be and when I'll return. It seems as though he use to early on but now doesn't feel the need. Reply to this Question
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reader, samanthaf +, writes (11 April 2011):
wow,thank you guy for all these answer. that happen to me the second time after i loose my virginity, i was so embarrassing,but my boyfriend seem to be ok with it. i was about to go to my doctor for that, but no need for that. now i know its normalthanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Don't only follow your gut...follow your man! Be one step ahead and check his cell phone, as that is usually how you catch a rat! If he is cheating or intending to dump him before it does it to you.
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reader, elsie  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 big no no.your reactions are totally normal.its easier said than done but try busying up your schedule without giving him explanations.change your behaviour to throw him a little just like hes done to you.he may feel secure enough with you because you always tell him where you are,times etc thats common courtesy.i think men in general like to have this feeling of still having a bit of mystery so that they dont feel too couped up by a woman.the ex-girlfriend bit sounds bit fishy.how many times has that happened? have it out with him. start as you mean to carry on. good luck.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 I think women have a gut feeling when it comes to cheating.If it was me I would feel exactly the way you are, especially if he has been secretly speaking to an old girlfriend. Follow your gut and have it out with him you should have some idea by his reaction.
Good luck,
Aunty t
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