My lesbian friend suggested we have sex before I can be her gf. Is this how it operates?
Q. I'm a virgin and a lesbian. There's this girl who goes to the same college as me and she's also a lesbian. We met in our history lecture and have become tight. She's been out for 6 years and has had lots of girlfriends. She keeps telling me that...
A. 30 January 2011: How old is this girl? It sounds like she's trying to be a sex predator. Get away from her.... (read in full...)
My wife want's a threesome with a younger woman as her birthday present. Seeking pointers to achieve this aim please
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, Good afternoon. So glad to have located your website because I need some help/advice from some of your other members. I am writing and submitting this post, mainly on behalf of my wife. I am married to an exceptionally wonderf...
A. 28 January 2011: I've gotta say, if you do go through with this, it's a good thing that you have no children. I know of several married couples who've done the "bring in another woman to spice things up" bit, and in every case the marriage ended: usually, the woman ... (read in full...)
We were tipsy when we met the first time; will the first official date be OK?
Q. So I'm a female that's just beginning to explore my bicurious side. I'm very excited about it because I've always loved women! A couple of weeks ago I met a lovely girl at a bar and we ended up making out for the night, I had such a blast. We ...
A. 20 January 2011: The thing about age differences is, it only matters if you don't have common interests. If you like the same things that she does, then there's no reason other than a manufactured sociatal taboo that an age difference should matter.... (read in full...)
I want to be straight
Q. I'm in love with a woman I can't be with because she is straight. I have accepted this and I'm trying to move on. Over the last week I have been checking dating sites and stuff, but it's no good I'm just not attracted to lesbian women, often they ...
A. 15 January 2011: The other comments are right, you're either not looking in the right places, or you're puting society's limitations into your own mind. I mean, if you're not attracted to masculine, why the heck would you date a man? That's just a huge ... (read in full...)
Was my grandmother trying to tell me something in my dream?
Q. Well I know this isn't necessarily a relationship question but I didn't know where else to ask. My Grandmother passed away in May of 2010. I was very close with her and am still somewhat coping with her death. Recently me and my boyfriend have been ...
A. 11 January 2011: I agree with SJ92. Dreams are actually produced by increased dopamine and melatonin output in your brain. These hormons act, quite literally, like haluceneginic drugs. So, when we dream, it's pretty much the same thing as if we're having an LSD ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the rumors being spread about me?
Q. hi am 15 and i have been having a hard time at school a girl has spreaded a rumor about me, the rumor is that am a lesbain it was ages ago but ever since then everyone has been shouting names at me like lesbo lesbain it really upsets me my mum and ...
A. 11 January 2011: I know this is a late answer, but hopefully you'll read this. What you are experiencing is bullying, and what you need to do is NOT just walk away. You need to talk with your guidance counselor about this, and tell them that you want it to stop.... (read in full...)
I'm dating my lesbian cousin and I'm scared...
Q. i'm dating my lesbian cousin and i'm scared... i mean, i like her but i'm scared of what the family will do... when i told my mom i was bi, she almsot sent me to a different state to live with my grandmother... if i tell her ...
A. 11 January 2011: Wait. Why wouldn't your dad like an adopted grandchild? He has no choice if the child will be a boy or a girl, he has no choice in any of it. Would he not love a grandchild born naturally in a hetero relationship if it has a physical or mental ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her of my feelings or just keep them inside?
Q. Hi everyone :) So this may be a long post, for which I apologise in advance. Ok well it was late 2008 that I first met the absolute love of my young life, I shall call her L. The problem being that I was a year 9/10 student and she was my 30 s...
A. 5 January 2011: Hrdrh is right. If you're punching things when you hear her name, you may need some help learning to control your emotions. It would NOT be cool if you had a girlfriend in the future and started becoming physical with her when emotions run high.... (read in full...)
Lesbian, confused, married women lesbian affair
Q. i am at the end of 20s, i have developed attraction to girls and boys since my childhood, likely to be bisexual but attracted to women more, not any women, to mentally mature, brain sexy type" brain seducing type". am an honest, responsible, not ...
A. 5 January 2011: I hate to say this but your statement about your girlfriend dating another woman, "I hate betrayal," demonstrates pure narcicism. What the heck do you think you're doing to your husband? If you hate betrayal, why do you stay married? Do the ... (read in full...)
I want to convince my girlfriend to go farther
Q. I'm not a virgin. My girlfriend is. I feel really bad about this because I think I love her and I want to sleep with her, but she says that she isn't ready yet. I asked whether she thought oral sex counted she said yes, so nothing. We kiss and ...
A. 5 January 2011: I've got to comment on your statement that "two girls can't have proper sex." That's just the kind of closed-minded sentiment about lesbian/bisexual women that I wouldn't expect from someone who's gay/bi. Sorry to say, but if that's your opinion ... (read in full...)
I'm still in high school and she's a mum!
Q. I'm a 17 year old female living in the UK. On New Years Eve I went to a pub with my mates and ended up getting completely and totally hammered. I hooked up with a much older woman, who is 39 years old and has a five year old daughter (she is ...
A. 5 January 2011: First of all, there's nothing wrong with what you and she did. I don't drink, but from what I've learned about drinking, people usually don't do anything they weren't wanting to do but were held back by inhibitions. So, she and you did what you ... (read in full...)
Forbidden relationship with teacher
Q. i am in relationship with my teacher.... it's been a week and im still nervous and scared to be caught.. i dont want her to lose her job.. but on the other hand im soo happy. no way im letting her go.. she's the most beautiful thing on earth. t...
A. 3 January 2011: An important thing to consider in all teacher-student relationships is that true love waits. You can be friendly, even informal friends, but you must not have any sexual contact with each other until you graduate. Once you graduate, it's your ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my straight best friend I'm in love with her
Q. I know this is a bit of a cliche but I could really use some advice. Here goes. I'm an 18 year old female. I met my best friend at school when we were in y7. I first realised I had feelings for her when we were about 13. I've tried to ignore m...
A. 3 January 2011: I know this is an old post, and you may have already decided what to do and either done/not done it, but someone else might see this and take my advice.
For people who are questioning their sexuality and are currently with a member of the opposite... (read in full...)
I am trapped!
Q. I am trapped. I need help desperately. I formed a very close relationship with one of my school teachers and, well, we ended up kissing. Just once. But my ex saw. And now he's using what he saw as an excuse to blackmail into everything - from doi...
A. 3 January 2011: OK, the age of consent in UK is 16, so if she's over 16, back off on this, people!
As for the blackmail, there's such a thing as turnabout. Set up the following scenerio with your teacher: You get the blackmailer into a secluded area with you... (read in full...)
In love with my band teacher's wife
Q. i fell in love with my band teachers wife. me and him are sorta close. should i tell him how i feel? or should i tell her how i feel? or should i keep it to myself...
A. 3 January 2011: While there is absolutely nothing wrong with being in love with someone of the same gender, or even one who's older, even much older, it is not OK to try to have a relationship with someone who's married.
I suggest that, if you haven't already,... (read in full...)
Attraction to my daughter's teacher
Q. I really fancy my daughters teacher I can't stop thinking about her. I am a women so that makes things so difficult, there is chemistry between us most definitely what do I do? ...
A. 2 January 2011: There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with your daughter's teacher. In my school there are two teachers who are married, and their daughter is a student here. Does that make them wrong for having a relationship with their daughter's ... (read in full...)
Am I confusing the signals?
Q. Im a 16 year old female and over the past 3 years ive had feelings for my female 29 year old pe teacher.The past year has got out of hand, ive grown to love her. Sometimes i wonder if she feels the same way.... Ive been reading a book on body lan...
A. 2 January 2011: I was in a similar situation. I eventually did figure out that this particular teacher wasn't interested in me that way, and thankfully I did it without revealing that I liked her. So, we're still friends.
Have you figured out yet if she like... (read in full...)
A crush on my assistant principle?
Q. Well, ever since September I met my assistant principal, and ever since then ive been becoming more and more attached to her. My friends think im obsessed with her and a suck up. But the truth is i think i have a crush on her. I dont know though, ...
A. 31 December 2010: I was really sad to read about the (Jan 7) post, where the neighbor moved away andyou lost touch. It sounds like she fessed up to her husband about kissing you, and that prompted him to move them away. Something like this may have also happened to ... (read in full...)
I have been in love with my teacher for over two years... when do I say enough is enough???
Q. I am sorry that there is loads of topics like this, but seriously this is the only place i can post this where you won't get laughed at!!!. I am in sixth form and 19 years old, and for the last 2 years.. (since about jan 08) I have had feeling...
A. 31 December 2010: I hope you're still around to read this.
If have already graduated, then it is perfectly acceptable to have a relationship with a former teacher. Ten years age difference really isn't anything. Several women date older women, even much older wo... (read in full...)
Disturbed by my pedophillic urges, help!
Q. Okay, so I'm on the upper end of 16-17. I'm a pretty screwed up person in general... but I'm going to ask about one problem on this occasion. Should I be disturbed by pedophiliac urges? Yes, okay I probably should be... stupid question. I would ...
A. 31 December 2010: I agree with RJ in that there are a lot of good things that never would have happened if people hadn't acted on urges. The thing is, there are also many bad things that came because someone acted on an urge.
When it comes to the safety and emot... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my teacher is in love with me?
Q. I'm in love with my teacher who is of the same sex and 15 years older than me. She pays alot of attention to me during school hours and outside school hours. She winks at me and grins at me alot and she talks to me in a different voice compared to ...
A. 31 December 2010: LOL. It only took a few minutes to type. I play piano, so I type really fast...my brain has trouble keeping up some times. I'm glad I could help. Email me if there's anything else I can do.... (read in full...)
I want to teach at my high school some day, would it be okay to date a fellow teacher then?
Q. So I was just looking for some opinions on this one: This year, I developed a tiny bit of a crush on a teacher, I realize this is nothing to act on right now, but I'm not the type that gets a crush that often, I'm 15 and this is only my second c...
A. 31 December 2010: I hope you're still around to read this:
The most important thing to remember is that even if the school has no policy forbiding teacher-teacher relationships, it is absolutely important that you do not let your students know about it. It's OK ... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 31 December 2010: Oh, geeze, people, this isn't karma. This is something called poetic justice. You have a relationship with a guy who is cheating on someone to be with you, and now you're upset because he's not cheating on you to be with someone else? Serves you ... (read in full...)
Help! My religious beliefs prevent pre-marital sex and my boyfriend's demands are so scary!
Q. hey The guy he loves me he is not from my country,,,well i luv him and he luv me alot he said 2 me he want 2 have sex with me and i was shocked because he knowing that i cant have sex before marry its forbidden in my religion then he said ok (i wi...
A. 31 December 2010: You say you love your boyfriend. Well, he does not love you if he is pressuring you into something you're not ready for. How many times have I seen where someone say, "But I love him?" I had a boyfriend who never pressured me for sex, and we ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to feel or do?
Q. I'm in such an arkward situation, I really don't know what to feel or do. I've just left school and I have had this particular teacher throughout the whole time i've been there- 5 years. She's always been my favourite, I like her alot. I discover...
A. 31 December 2010: I agree with samy, in part. It's important to really know someone on a personal level, and I mean outside of any professional setting, before you can say if it's even starting to become love.
My advice, if you're still around here to read it,... (read in full...)
Disturbed by my pedophillic urges, help!
Q. Okay, so I'm on the upper end of 16-17. I'm a pretty screwed up person in general... but I'm going to ask about one problem on this occasion. Should I be disturbed by pedophiliac urges? Yes, okay I probably should be... stupid question. I would ...
A. 31 December 2010: OK, this is going to sound a bit strange, but when I first was attracted to girls, I was about 7 or 8, and was only interested in girls my own age, and a couple of years older (I remember this one girl who moved into the area when I was 8 who was ... (read in full...)
Is my ex-teacher crossing a line with our friendship?
Q. So.., this is a little longer than I intended, haha, sorry. I left Junior High just this summer and am now in grade ten (Grade ten...eep!). Anyway, there's this teacher at my old school who is, in every way possible, perfect. Now, I know that soun...
A. 30 December 2010: The two most important things to keep in mind are 1) never do anything that could harm someone else and 2) never do anything that could harm yourself.
You mentioned he is married. That means that if you persue a relationship with this teacher,... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my teacher is in love with me?
Q. I'm in love with my teacher who is of the same sex and 15 years older than me. She pays alot of attention to me during school hours and outside school hours. She winks at me and grins at me alot and she talks to me in a different voice compared to ...
A. 30 December 2010: Good point. If you're worried about her calling your parents about having a crush on a teacher, just say that it's on "someone at school who's a bit older." Remember, start off vague, and watch how she reacts---look at her body language, facial ... (read in full...)
What should I do after graduation?
Q. ok... i know there are alot of questions on her about this, but i need some input. i am a senior in college, about 5 months from graduation and i have a crush on my professor. I know nothing can happen right now because of the whole teacher-st...
A. 29 December 2010: I'll tell you what one of my professors told me (after I asked him what he thought about this one professor in the department marrying a graduate student in another department):
"If she's not in your class (snapped his fingers, winked and pointed-... (read in full...)
He is married now but wont leave me alone
Q. He's married now, why wont he leave me alone? ive tried and tried but i give in, i love him sooooooo much and know that he has a wife now, but he keeps coming and coming, i keep letting him, what do i do when the love is so strong for a married man, ...
A. 29 December 2010: If he's married and he keeps coming to you, then he doesn't love you, he just loves having sex with you. Tell him, "If you want to ever be with me again, you will go tell your wife that you're with me and that you're leaving her for me." If he ... (read in full...)
I think I'm bi..and I have feelings for my cousins wife!
Q. I'm 18 and in college..I'm a Muslim so being bi is frowned upon by everyone..it's hard enough having to keep sucha big secret from my friends and family but now I'm having feelings for my cousins wife, they've been married for 3 years now no ...
A. 29 December 2010: Viva, that's the right thing to do. There are some movies you might enjoy on this topic: Fire, Chutney Popcorn, I Can't Think Straight, Fremde Haut. Most movies on this subject aren't about Muslim women (they're about Indian women), but Indian ... (read in full...)
Why does my teacher act so weird around me?
Q. So there is this relief teacher who has just been accepted into my school and i know for a fact that she is only 19. I'm 16, a girl, and i'm the senior in my school. When i first saw her, i was blown away because she was really quite attractive. She ...
A. 29 December 2010: Section 153 of the Criminal Code of Canada prohibits the sexual touching of a person under 18 by a person in three circumstances: if he or she is in a "position of trust or authority" towards the youth. The term "position of trust or authority" is ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my teacher is in love with me?
Q. I'm in love with my teacher who is of the same sex and 15 years older than me. She pays alot of attention to me during school hours and outside school hours. She winks at me and grins at me alot and she talks to me in a different voice compared to ...
A. 29 December 2010: You should talk with her, alone but not in a place where you're completely isolated, like after class, and ask her for some advice. Tell her that there's a teacher you might have a crush on and that this teacher (don't use any words to say the ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my teacher is in love with me?
Q. I'm in love with my teacher who is of the same sex and 15 years older than me. She pays alot of attention to me during school hours and outside school hours. She winks at me and grins at me alot and she talks to me in a different voice compared to ...
A. 29 December 2010: You should talk with her, alone but not in a place where you're completely isolated, like after class, and ask her for some advice. Tell her that there's a teacher you might have a crush on and that this teacher (don't use any words to say the ... (read in full...)
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