His secret admirer...
Q. hi guys, ok ive been in love with this guy in my year at school since last year but i was hoping that this year to give him a valentines card but the thing is im not ready to tell him i like him yet so i was just gunna put from ur secret admirer, ...
A. 2 February 2010: Hm... Does he have a desk? Or do you know where he lives? You could mail it without putting a return address... Or do an virtual card, lol. Make him one on your computer.... (read in full...)
Baby blues at 16!!!
Q. I'm 16 and I really really want a baby, have done for like 2 years. My boyfriend's almost 19, we're engaged and hoping to move in together when I've finished my A levels. I don't have a job at the moment but I'd like to get one part time. He's got 2 ...
A. 2 February 2010: Then, don't get it out of your head. Just keep it as a long-term goal. It is good to have a balance of rational and optimistic. Know and plan to have your baby when you're really ready to take care of one.
If you start feeling like you can't wa... (read in full...)
Is marriage REALLY that important?
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for over 16 years now (since we were 11 and 12) and engaged for eleven years. We have two children (2 and 4 with another on the way). Up until quite recently, I had no intention of ever setting a wedding date. ...
A. 2 February 2010: "Up until quite recently, I had no intention of ever setting a wedding date."
Why did you ask her to marry you (or agree to marry her) if you never intended to marry her?
The importance of marriage varies from person to person, and it is not "n... (read in full...)
I let her have the brunt of my feelings and I shouldn't have done it. How can I make amends?
Q. I had a really bad night last night because of some family problems and our car broke down out in the cold afterward. When i finally got home it was too late to study when for the test for collage i have coming up and i basically went to bed with a ...
A. 2 February 2010: All you can do is explain the situation to her, and hope she understands.... (read in full...)
How do I get my parents to like my boyfriend?
Q. Ok guys so I just got back together with my boyfriend and my mom who said that she would support me in any decision that I make is not really happy about it. She hasn't really liked him since the first time I brought him home. Since she did not ...
A. 2 February 2010: "Do I tell her that I lied about a lot of things that happened between me and him and hope that she* doesn't just think that I am making excuses for him?"
So, your mother doesn't like this guy because he has mistreated you in the past? I don't th... (read in full...)
Help!!! Another pupil/teacher crush...
Q. I'm fourteen and i'm really in love with my teacher ! It is so bad, seeing him at school knowing that i can't get him. It started last year but i thought it was just a chrush that would pass by but after the summer holiday i just really fell in love ...
A. 2 February 2010: Your teacher does not have feelings for you, unless he is sick (aka a pedophile).
It is normal to develop crushes on your teacher. However, you can not act on them until you are 18 (in the United States anyway), no longer attending that school, ... (read in full...)
Family arguments are making me feel low...
Q. I've been feeling low lately because of arguments between mainly with my family. First of all, my family don't spend much time with me as I'm 19 so 'too old'. As I have a boyfriend and friends they reckon I should be moving on to only spend time ...
A. 2 February 2010: Oh my goodness! I am so sorry to hear your family is treating you that way. I feel sad just thinking about it. I can definitely understand why you feel hurt/low.
I would say try opening up and talking to them about your feelings, but they really d... (read in full...)
I'm scared to get married again...
Q. I left my husband for another man, after our marriage became passionless and I no longer loved my husband. I didn't rush into divorce, but moved in with the new man and things have been rocky but we love each other very much. Gave myself some time, ...
A. 2 February 2010: You made a mistake by cheating on your husband. Divorcing him will be the moral thing to do, because it will allow him to move on with his life.
That said, I don't think you should marry the new man until he gets better control over his emotions... (read in full...)
I need christian advice about living together.
Q. I need the christian advice. I have been dating "Ted" for 6 months now and he is a wonderful man. He is so important and special to me. Due to the economy a couple of months ago, his business failed and he needed to find somewhere to live. Due to ...
A. 2 February 2010: I am not especially familiar with the bible. However, I believe the unacceptable behavior (according to Christianity) is having sex; not just living with each other. As Christians, you should support him in his attempts to be celibate until m... (read in full...)
My partner keeps changing his mind about commitment.
Q. My partner keeps changing his mind about commitment. We have been seeing each other for 7 months and have both got a child each. We live over an hour from each other but manage to spend most weekends together and a couple of nights in the week. We ...
A. 2 February 2010: You should not move him with him. It is one thing to be scared, and another to act on the fear. His tendency to "bolt" without talking to you could put you in an unfortunate position.
The fact that you all make time to see each other so often, d... (read in full...)
It ended too soon and now I want him back!
Q. there was this guy who was a year younger than me in school but age wise only 6 months. ever since i saw him i fancied him then when he started noticing me he was messing around pretending to love me and stuff (i think it was pretend any way) . ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think that all you can do is ask him if he wants to try again. Ask him when he is alone, and in a casual way. It is not uncommon for relationships to be rather immature and short at this age range. If he says no, then look at other options. I'm ... (read in full...)
My ex got cheated on by a woman with her own ex. Now he has asked for contact, ..could it be he is missing me that bad?
Q. My ex(he broke up with me,we lived together for 3yrs)We haven't talked in 9mths when the other day he asked my daughter to ask me to call him. He's always been painfully shy. He did date someone while we where apart that went horrible wrong. He ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think he could really be missing you. It seems that you broke up because he wasn't in a position to be in a relationship (the mentioned depression). If you give him another chance, you should treat it like a fresh start. Not a continuation of the ... (read in full...)
Ideas needed for a friends 21st.
Q. hey all, its my mates 21st birthday this weekend... due to family issues and commitments i cannot make her night out, but i was hoping to go round hers or something during the day tie and do something fun... this can include drinkin but not just a ...
A. 2 February 2010: You can go to lunch, take her shopping, play miniature golf, ride bikes and have a picnic, take her to a matinee, etc...... (read in full...)
Help I have a Frigid Husband
Q. I have been married for over 8 years, 7 of which have been totally void of love, sex and affection. I became pregnant 7 years ago and all attention was switched to my daughter. I am very angry with him for destroying my life as I have continued t...
A. 2 February 2010: When you initiate sex/affectionate actions, he just says no? Walks away?
Have you explored whether he is still attracted to you?
You say something is eating him up inside, does he appear unhappy? Or is he just dis-affectionate with you?
Hav... (read in full...)
I'm so down about my love life, at 36 will I ever find love?
Q. Please help, I have cried myself to sleep the past 2 nights. Im 36 single and just unable to find love again. Since me and my ex, of 5 years split up 4 years ago, Ive gone from one disasterous relationship to another. I don't want him back, b...
A. 2 February 2010: It is normal to feel upset/jealous when your ex appears to be doing better in some way than you. I say appears, because you never really know what exactly is going on in someone's life. I assume you guys aren't close friends that confide in each ... (read in full...)
Guy friend sleeping over at girlfriend's place
Q. My girlfriend has a guy friend she has known since she was really young. Since she is going out with me, the guy friend still wants to stay over at my girlfriend's place all the time. I felt a bit awkward. Is this normal? ...
A. 2 February 2010: You say "still", so I guess they are just continuing their relationship the way it normally went; which is less suspicious.
You should talk to her about it. I doubt she would be "understanding" if the shoe was on the other foot.... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 1 February 2010: So much of your followup indicates a poor relationship, especially:
prompted her to take some cheap shots at me like proposing that we measure my dick size (btw I agreed to it on the condition that we measure it down her throat)
What she does isn... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 1 February 2010: I think you're overreacting. Girls look at pictures of hot guys with their friends. I doubt she was thinking "Oh, let me see if I can create some penis insecurities in my boyfriend".
You should explain your intentions so she can move on. If she w... (read in full...)
How do I cope with cold feet?
Q. Having second thoughts about getting married a 2nd time. Been together 5 yrs. We're both late 40's. Have lots in common, good sex life; but b/f is high-strung at times, which wears me out. I know no one is perfect, least of all me, but feeling ...
A. 1 February 2010: Just don't get married right now? If he truly cares about you, he will understand.... (read in full...)
Why does my relationship with my cousin hurt my family?
Q. About five months ago, I started talking to my cousin (first cousin once removed), who's about the same age as me(16), after being apart for quite a while. Before this, we would have occasional awkward 3-4 minute conversations, because we never ...
A. 1 February 2010: It hurts your family the same way you doing anything else that is wrong and shameful (according to our society) would.
You point out their Christian, but incest is considered disgusting by most people; regardless of religion. It's even illegal ... (read in full...)
Do I honestly like him enough to be going out with him if my feelings change all the time?
Q. me and my bf have been going out on and off for the past 2 years, when we break up it usually only lasts a few days or a few weeks max but I'm always the one that breaks up with him. My question is do I honestly like him enough to be going out with ...
A. 1 February 2010: What are some of the reasons you don't want to be with him? Maybe breaking up until you aren't turned off anymore isn't a good idea. Try addressing what is causing you to cool off, and seeing if he can fix it. ... (read in full...)
How do I cope when I see history repeating itself ?
Q. Oh my god, this is so petty, but I'm reliving memories I just don't want to relive at all!!!! A few years ago, my boyfriend and I partially broke up because he met this girl who got to a part of his soul. It wasn't the only reason, but she ...
A. 1 February 2010: OPPS EDIT:
You guys broke up early last year**, it's time to move past it.... (read in full...)
Family do not like my boyfriend after our past- how can I resolve this?
Q. I have had some problems with my boyfriend which resulted in him asking me to leave our home last year, at this time he also quit his degree course which he was doing well at, and enjoying. Since then we have re-kindled our relationship, and thin...
A. 1 February 2010: As an outsider, it seems that he wants you to take care of him. He doesn't have a job, so (I assume) the bills will fall on you. I think you should continue to date him, but don't move in for awhile.... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 1 February 2010: Just sit her down, and tell her. I commend you for wanting to keep it; pro-life.... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm so confused...
Q. I met my ex on a dating site after a few months of chatting. We decided to meet our first date went very and end up dating. For nearly a year all was going well until I went out one night I was raped was a virgin. After that I went through ...
A. 1 February 2010: I don't think you should get back with your ex, because of guilt. I think you should get together with his friends and/or family to get him help. What he said was scary, and shouldn't be ignored.... (read in full...)
How do other couples spend time together and feel connected when it's just a lazy winter day and there's really nothing to do?
Q. Puzzled by b/f's behavior. This happens a lot. We're stuck inside. B/F is surfing the web on his laptop. I sit on the couch with him, and play a video game with volume turned off. After an hour he wants to watch TV. So I turn off the game but can't ...
A. 1 February 2010: We watch something together (take turns compromising on what show/movie to watch), have sex, talk, or nap. Or I will read a book, while he plays Madden.... (read in full...)
I'm a bit stuck! What to get him for valentine's day?
Q. im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months, we love each other so much x and its going so well... its coming up to valentines day and have thought of some stuff to get him but dont want them to be too mushy..., i was thinking about ...
A. 1 February 2010: You should write him a love letter, and do the photo frame.... (read in full...)
Is he more attached than he let on??
Q. Hello: My boss is like 44 yrs old. He is very immature.. Well, I have been pulling away from him for some time because of an attraction between us. Needless to say - It went to HR. He asked to stay cordial with me and wanted us to sti...
A. 1 February 2010: Maybe he is truly attached to you. Maybe his pride is just hurt. Maybe he's crazy. What matters is that you speak to HR again, and get a solution that prevents you from having to interact with him in any way.... (read in full...)
I am always nice to girls, but they don't seem attracted to me.
Q. No girls seem that attracted to me, i am always nice to them, being a gentleman what else can i do, ...
A. 1 February 2010: If you have the personality down, you can try paying more attention to your appearance.
They don't seem attracted? Maybe you should try asking one of them to hang/go out sometime.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my REAL age?
Q. hey you guys i have a question that i want to ask im 14 soon to be 15 in june and my boyfriend is younger than i am i want to tell himm that im older than him but im way to scared that he might reject me becuse of that. please tell me how should i ...
A. 1 February 2010: Desperate? You are 14 years old, there are many other things you should be worried about at this time.
That said, you should tell him the truth. It will come out eventually. I think he will be upset about being deceived, rather than about you bein... (read in full...)
Would having sex with her change the perameters of our relationship?
Q. Hi. I'm an 18 year old virgin. A girl I know, who is a close friend of mine, has said she will have sex with me if I want, so I can gain experience. I really like her, and I wouldn't say no, if you get me. But she's one of my closest friends ...
A. 1 February 2010: I don't think starting a no-strings-attached relationship with your closest friend is a good idea. It will also make things awkward if and when you get a girlfriend. Someone who would normally be "just a friend", is now your first lover.... (read in full...)
I am tired of my boyfriend being too relaxed on the weekends to go out.
Q. I have a demanding 4 year old boy and a boyfriend of 1 year. We see each other twice a week. Half of the time he calls to say his shift happens to be short that day so he could see me. The other times we call on the weekends and hope we would meet ...
A. 1 February 2010: You can try to express all this to him. If he doesn't respect your wishes, that will tell you all you need to know about him.
I can't tell if you want to spend more time with him, or get out and do more things period. If the later is correct,... (read in full...)
Why is she talking about how hot her body is after I creeped her out?
Q. I was really hung up on a good friend of mine. I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too but no thanks. Later I got really drunk and sent her an email about how much I liked parts of her body and how seeing her for a couple of minutes ...
A. 1 February 2010: Maybe she has moved past the incident as well, and is just proud of her hard work paying off? I wouldn't take it as a come on.... (read in full...)
First kiss difficulties...
Q. dear cupid: how do you have your first kiss with a boy who hasnt ever kissed any one either cos everyone has told me to follow him but wot if he was expectin to follow me ??? x...
A. 1 February 2010: I think you guys should both just lean in, with your heads tilted in opposite directions (left/right), and press your lips against each others. No need to try tonguing, and all that, at this time.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend became violent and doesn't tell me what is the matter. Can you help me?
Q. hi. my boyfriend is a very nice person and is very caring. recently he has been quite violent and aggresive. i dont know whats wrong. ive asked him and he says nothing is bothering him. can anyone help me please. ...
A. 1 February 2010: If he doesn't want to talk, there isn't much you can do. I can suggest asking his family/friends if anything significant happened. Or trying to take a better, more calming, tone.
If by violent you mean he has physically hurt you, you should t... (read in full...)
My sex life is just one big stress!!!
Q. I am soo stressed about this. I'm very young but I love my bf. I don't know if I should wait or go for it but I have a feeling that this time is right to have sex but when it comes to this I get very stressed out I tremble and I can't breathe. I ...
A. 1 February 2010: I say wait! You definitely aren't comfortable with it, and your focus should be on many other things at this age.... (read in full...)
Why do men like anal sex so much?
Q. I have a question for the guys. Why do men like anal. And why do men like to play with women's buttholes. ...
A. 1 February 2010: Only some men do. If you are curious, you should ask why the particular man/men you are referring to like it...... (read in full...)
Oddly attracted to cousin...
Q. Well, how can I explain this... recently, I have been very "oddly" attracted to my female cousin. I don't know why, but I need to know. Is this wrong? Please help me out guys, I'm waiting....
A. 1 February 2010: It is not uncommon to develop a small crush on a cousin. Do not dwell or act on it.... (read in full...)
How do I cope when I see history repeating itself ?
Q. Oh my god, this is so petty, but I'm reliving memories I just don't want to relive at all!!!! A few years ago, my boyfriend and I partially broke up because he met this girl who got to a part of his soul. It wasn't the only reason, but she ...
A. 31 January 2010: It doesn't seem like he is hooking up with anyone who is actually your friend. You guys broke up a few years ago, it's time to move past it. It doesn't seem like you can just see him as a friend. Maybe you should just break all communication off...... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating everytime I go overseas! What can I do?
Q. I have a seven years old relationship with a gentleman who is accusing me of being unfaithful to him everytime i travelled overseas. I went overseas three times since we are together and he thinks i am having sexual intercourse with guys in those ...
A. 31 January 2010: I don't think there's anymore you can do. You told him the truth, and he is choosing not to believe. If the trust isn't there, there's no reason to continue.... (read in full...)
He told me he's territorial and doesn't want me hanging out with other guys! What does he mean?
Q. hey i gotta question whats it mean when my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't want me hanging with other guys or really talking to them.....he told me hes territorial...??...
A. 31 January 2010: It means he will think you're cheating if you hang out one-on-one with other guys. You have decide whether or not you can deal with that insecurity.... (read in full...)
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