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Help! I turn into a bumbling idiot just thinking of him!!
Q. I've been a regular patron of a lounge in my area for about 5 years now. In the past I have casually dated a few men I've met there, however try to keep things just friendly as I don't want my life to play out like a bad season of "Cheers" lol. ...
A. 8 December 2007: Simply be yourself. If you try to hide your usual personality and act different, it will make him feel awkward and maybe not enjoy the night as much. He accepted to go out with you on two occasions so this is a big step. IT means he is feeling ... (read in full...)
I'm so hurt and don't know what to do.
Q. I've been seeing someone for about 8 mths. things go great for a couple of mths then all of a sudden he pulls away and hardly speaks to me. This has happened twice and after the last time I wasn't going to bother with him any more as this hurts me. ...
A. 7 December 2007: Dont waste your time on a relationship that leaves you behind and walks in and out of your life when they please. He is being very immature and you dont need this negative attitude. Walk away from this, i mean he is pushing you as far as you can go. ... (read in full...)
Can you tell me signs when a guy likes you?
Q. Hi can you tell me what the sings are that a guy likes you? Because i like this lad at my school but haven't known him long. I wouldn't say we talk a lot but we do talk. just today i could really tell if he was looking at me or sort of looking ...
A. 7 December 2007: Everyone has a different way of showing that really like someone. They can either be very obvious or very discreet. Eye contact can be one hint as a person may be interested in you. If you notice he really pays attention to what you have to say and ... (read in full...)
Should I run from this guy, he seems a little too good to be true?
Q. Ok ! I PRETTY MUCH know what im doing when it comes to men . I was married to the BIGGEST and WORST kinda PLAYER in the book ! I got involved with him at the age of 15 and married him at 18 and divorced him at 33 im now 36 . Ive learned ALOT and ...
A. 7 December 2007: Well, just because you've made one mistake does not necesarily mean you'll continue to make them. Dont assume he is a player just because you've had one before. People can be different and if you keep assuming the worst out of someone, you'll end up ... (read in full...)
Should I let him know how I feel or will this ruin our friendship?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for approximately 15 years, when we first met we did have a little thing going but he broke it off because he didn't want to get between me and the guy I was seeing. It ended we remained quite good friends, through ...
A. 6 December 2007: I believe you should tell him how you feel. This friendship of yours has been close for 15 years you say so im sure you both must communicate and understand eachother well. There was something going on between you both in the past so maybe there is ... (read in full...)
Should I let him know how I feel or will this ruin our friendship?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for approximately 15 years, when we first met we did have a little thing going but he broke it off because he didn't want to get between me and the guy I was seeing. It ended we remained quite good friends, through ...
A. 6 December 2007: I believe you should tell him how you feel. This friendship of yours has been close for 15 years you say so im sure you both must communicate and understand eachother well. There was something going on between you both in the past so maybe there is ... (read in full...)
Friends doesn't seem like enough...do I like him more than I thought??
Q. I have a male friend who told me last year that he liked me. It came completely out of the blue and i wasn't really sure how i felt so i spent some more time with him. The more i got to know him the more i liked him and we get on really well. He...
A. 6 December 2007: Give him a chance on being in a relationship with you. Tel him you just want to try having a relationship with him and see how things go. Seems to me that if being his friend isnt enough then maybe moving on to the next step just might be it. You'll ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend broke up with me, but says he still loves me
Q. My long distance bf broke up with me. He said that he was getting too down and upset because he couldnt see me and that cause my mum wasnt letting me go down for another 2 years said it was going to be too hard as he wouldn't be able to see me every ...
A. 6 December 2007: Seems to me that the both of you just put this relationship on pause for awhile and are wiling to pick up where you've left off. If the love is still there and if the only reason the both of you have broken up was because of family issues then i ... (read in full...)
I think I want to break up, but he becomes very emotional when even talking about it. What can I do?
Q. i have been dating a man now for six years. Two years ago he moved in with me. He is so totally needy and becomes very emotional if i ever mention breaking up. I am not working at this time and am not able to support myself so i admitt i depend on ...
A. 6 December 2007: Well, my advice is to do what your heart tells you to do. Follow that gut feelings of yours. Dont stay with him because you feel sympthy for him, otherwise you'll never be happy. Do whats right by you, Not him. Yes it will be hard seeing him sad but ... (read in full...)
Am I being impulsive or is only caring 'a little' after 8 months not enough??
Q. After 8 month, he said he only cares a little about me, is it time to move on? Me and this guy has been going out for 8 months. It is not an official relationship. Although we do everything a couple does (sex etc etc), I have never once referred...
A. 5 December 2007: This is something you have to discuss with him. It seems to me that he likes you but people have different ways into showing them. It seems like he is the type of person that sorta hides his feelings so he wont get hurt ( such as yourself). I mean ... (read in full...)
How do I find an opportunity to tell my friend how I feel??
Q. I want to ask out a friend of mine out. I want to tell her my feelings. I think she may like me, i've picked up a few signs that she comes and talks to me alot, and plays with her hair, is near me etc Anyway i never get the opportunity! How can i cr...
A. 5 December 2007: Simply have the courage to ask her when she is available to hang out. Your friends so its not like it isnt normal for friends to hang out. Something tells me she wont deny it. Have fun with her where there is a big public. If you two are alone then ... (read in full...)
I was coping but he said he would change and I got back with him...now how do I get over my grudge against him and tell my family??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and eight months. We've planned to get married, have children, own a house, and grow old together. We've been through so much together. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend was talking to ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well, if you admit to yourself and your family that he is holding you back and he has hurt you so many times then why suffer? You realize he is holding you back from life but yet you let life pass you by. Your family cares for you and they want ... (read in full...)
We have been dating for 8 months but he is always bugging me about how I supposedly like other guys.
Q. Me and this guy have been together for 8 months and we have been happy for so long but she is just starting to be jealous all the time, It kind of bothers me because he bugs me about how he thinks i like a whole bunch of other guys. What should i ...
A. 5 December 2007: He's jealous because of his own insecurities. Let him know and show him that you care for him and convince him he is the only one that has your eyes and heart.When in doubt, all a person needs is to be shown that they are cared for. Speak to your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone too much??
Q. I feel as if i'm truly in love with my boyfriend the only problem is that im going through love trauma. I fight and throw things when i can't see him. Is it harmful to love a person too much? It's like he got something over me, it's like he likes it...
A. 5 December 2007: When you love someone, there are no limits into how much you can love them. You just have to control the fact that sometimes you cant get things your way and thats what you are probably use to. Try not give into him so much that he gets the wrong ... (read in full...)
What do I tell him about why I didnt reply??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out over a month now and I know he loves me but I'm always the one punishing him, I mean playing hard to get still which I know I shouldn't be doing. But I want to know how far or what he would do, He hasn't heard ...
A. 5 December 2007: Finding excuses means lying to him and thats not a way you want to start off your new relationship. Simply talk to him and explain to him your feelings and HONESTLY let him know why you dont answer. You seemes to explain clearly on here so try and ... (read in full...)
Should I choose him or her??
Q. Alrite, i know that i tend to use this site alot but i am a very confused teen (15). I just wanted to say thank-you to everyone who is takin their time to read this and attempt to help me out. Alrite, this is the him or her question. First of all, ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well sweetie, seems like your in a wreck. Since you cant seem to make up your mind, my advice is to just leave things how they are for now until you get your head straight. I cant tell you who to choose because i dont know either of them and it ... (read in full...)
He dumped me saying he loved another girl...now he is saying he loves me.
Q. I have a boyfriend,and for the past week he has been trying to get rid of me b/c he was "in love" with another girl,i begged and pleaded for him not to leave me,but he insisted. When i decided to leave he asked me to come and talk to him. Now he i...
A. 5 December 2007: Drop this guy as easy as it was from him to drop you. Hate to say it but it seems like your just plan B...a second choice. Give yourself more dignity and leave this guy out the picture. Besides, isnt that what he asked for? He doesnt really care for ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him but he still hasn't backed-off...what does this mean??
Q. hi, I like my flatmate at uni, but recently he found a note under my bed saying that i liked him. He basically was taken aback so i lied and said that i used to like him but not anymore because that was the only option i had. I told him that i ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well maybe he doesnt have a problem with you liking him. Maybe he feels the same way or a slight interest in you as well. Seems to me he shares a special bond with you that just because you like, it wont drift him apart. Keep talking to him as ... (read in full...)
I am totally in love with my gf but last night I slept with another girl.
Q. Hi, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 months and am absolutely in love with her. However, last night I kissed another girl and stayed the night in that girls bed but it wasn't really a one night stand, im feeling attracte...
A. 5 December 2007: Seems to me that your not all in love with your girlfriend as you thought you were. My advice is to stop being selfish and think about who you want to be with. You must tell your girlfriend what happened between you and that girl. If you have some ... (read in full...)
Everybody says we would look cute together...I don't know what to do because if I wait too long won't he be taken??
Q. Hello. I am 13. I'm not really interrested in any one right now. I hang out with people who are mainly 15 and 16 (people my age are retarded lol). Well I met this guy; and he is 16. He doesn't seem interested in me nor I in him, but he is very s...
A. 5 December 2007: Act if you are interested for YOURSELF.,,, not for what people think. If your interested in him then talk to him a little. Become friends with him and see what goes from there. But if you want to hook up with him just because people say you look ... (read in full...)
How can I help her overcome her fear of sex toys?
Q. what is the best way to help my wife over come her fears of useing a sextoys...
A. 5 December 2007: Fear is a feeling that takes time and effort to overcome. Fear is not easy to get over. If a person is willing to overcome it then its only up to that person. Try to understand your wife. Dont force her to do anything she doesnt want to. This is all ... (read in full...)
I have insecurities, and that's now causing me to become jealous and controlling
Q. Hi. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and during most of our relationship we would see eachother everyday, fall asleep next to eachother every night and wake up next to eachother every morning. A few months ago I had to move 3 ...
A. 5 December 2007: Your going to have to trust her a little more. She is with you because she loves you and despite of how you may look to yourself, she see's you for who you are. Let her know how you feel. Tell her about your insecurities. It may help her understand ... (read in full...)
We stare at each other a lot, so how do I get confident and talk to him?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and recently I've had a fair few guys who I find attractive show an interest in me, but I never know any of them well enough. I'll meet them at college and we'll talk for a bit, then we just sort of... go our separate ways. It never ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well in order for you to get to know somebody very well, you must find the courage to speak to them. Yes there may be sources that can tell you what that person has done and what they think about that person but you'll never really get the inside ... (read in full...)
I love my bf but fantasize about this other guy? What do I do?
Q. I am 17 and have been with my boyfriend (let's say Ashley) for over two years, and until recently I was very happy about it. We have seen each other 6 days a week since we got together, and on the seventh we spend hours on the phone. I realise how ...
A. 5 December 2007: Your right! You dont want to have something perfect and settle for less. There is an attraction between you and Sam but its not an attraction that will last a lifetime. We can be attracted to almost anyone in the world but we only give our hearts to ... (read in full...)
She claims she's never met these other guys online..so do I give her a 2nd chance?
Q. Ive been seeing my girlfriend for a while now. She is away at college and recently when visiting her I discovered messages on her computer between her and a few other guys. She suggested to most of them suggested phone sex and meeting up behind my ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well it seems to me that she isnt taking this relationship as seriously as you do due to the fact that you guys arent really together as much. She is taking advantage of the liberty she has. Cheating doesnt necesarily have to be just physical. Phone ... (read in full...)
This older guy is ignoring my texts and emails...I'm so confused!
Q. Hi, i'm struggeling with a guy!!! I'm not with him but i think that he is my soul mate!!!! i love every bone in his body and i want to look after him!He isn't sure if he wants a relationship right now. There is a large age gap between us i'm 20 and ...
A. 5 December 2007: Keep yourself balanced. Dont fall on top of this guy to much or else he'll get the wrong impression. Give him some space until he tries getting in contact with you. If he ignores you than obviously he just wants you whenever he pleases and you let ... (read in full...)
My bf and his close galpal are touchy-feely and they have this 'term of endearment' they use-do they have deeper feelings with each other?
Q. My boyfriend has a close girl friend..before i came in,they are best of friends. at first its ok,but suddenly I notice that their closeness came out of boundaries, they became so touchy with each other, to the extent that they both have this term of ...
A. 5 December 2007: I feel that there maybe some attraction between them. You should investigate more on this and see what kind of "PAST" they had together. If your boyfriend refuses to tell you then you must take it into your own matters. Second of all, they can just ... (read in full...)
She won't do anything more than kiss me, now--is this relationship falling apart?
Q. Me and my Gf have been going out for 4 months now and we have always been very open with each other. We decided not to have sex, so we go very close to doing it, but not all the way...our relationship has been awesome until someone told her that ...
A. 5 December 2007: Accept and understand her beliefs. Being in a relationship is much more than sexual encounters. You have to understand that if she doesnt want to have anything else but kissing then if you care for her, accept that. Show her that you'll be by her ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me but the guy I dumped him for slept with my best friend!!
Q. Argh! I don't know what to do anymore. I think i'm losing it. I'm just completely depressed. I just dumped my boyfriend for this other guy as bitchy as it sounds. And he's like stalking me! The guy i dumped him for had sex with one of my best f...
A. 5 December 2007: Well sweetie, sometimes we are gievn signs that try to open our eyes and see all the negativity that surrounds us. First of all, that " friend" of yours isnt much of a true friend nor girlfriend. She doesnt have respect for you, her boyfriend, nor ... (read in full...)
I'm attractive, athletic and confident but I've never had a gf! What am I doing wrong?
Q. Here's the situation - I'm 20, fairly athletic, my friends who are girls say I'm attractive, I'm fairly confident, and have a good sense of humour, and I can keep a converstaion going by asking questions and getting involved. Yet I have never had a ...
A. 5 December 2007: What you are doing wrong is not the question. Maybe its just the wrong time. Everyone has their own time in falling in love and getting involved in a relationship. Some people get it early, some a little late. Just be a little patient and she'll ... (read in full...)
I want my wife back..so how do I go about doing that?
Q. Hi me and my wife recently broke up. We had been together since we were 16 and up until this past year when we had afew disagreements and just seemed to be very distant. it was quite an emotional goodbye and was very hard. we were fine after that, ...
A. 5 December 2007: Well since the both of you still want to be with eachother then there is no reason for the both of you to beat around the bush about it. Let her know how you feel. Tell her, show her that you still want to be with her. Let her know before its too ... (read in full...)
He shows off with his friends...but when we are alone its different...does he like me??
Q. Does he like me? He always smiles at me and is joking around. But he shows off when hes with friends, hes sooo nice when its just us and he acts like we've got a thing going on but he gets annoyed at me when i talk to his friend and not him!! ...
A. 5 December 2007: I feel that he likes you but he is just being a little immature with the fact that he gets annoyed when you talk to his friend. Seems there is a little jealousy going on here. This is something you have to talk to him about. Tell him that he is ... (read in full...)
I feel like he doesn't give of himself....how can I tell if he cares??
Q. I have been dating this guy for four months now. I do not know if whether or not he likes or care for me the way I do. I want to be in a relationship with this guy, but I feel that he is not giving any of himself to me...
A. 5 December 2007: Sweetie, some people dont put themselves out there as easily as other do. Some of them take time to see the whole side of them. Just because he hasnt fully shown his whole side to you does not mean he doesnt care for you. Give it some time. Give him ... (read in full...)
Is he going to break up with me??
Q. My boyfriend has been very depressed lately and he has been starting fights with me all of the time over small things......like making mountains out of mole hills. He recently told me that he needed some space and time to think about everythi...
A. 5 December 2007: I dont believe this is the end of the relationship. Give the guy a break. He is just going through some self problems and needs some time alone to think. When people are really stressed over things, they let so much build inside of them and tend to ... (read in full...)
I want to go out and have fun...but he always wants to stay in....I feel like we've grown apart.
Q. I've bin with my boyfriend for over a year now but i think i dont love him anymore. We have grown apart, i what to go out and have fun but he wants to stay in and watch tv. I do enjoy a night in but not all the time and when i do want to go out i...
A. 5 December 2007: Give him a chance to change. Let him know your feelings and explain to him that you both need to go out and breathe away from the t.v! Relationships need excitement time to time because when you begin to let go, thats when the doubts start kicking ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend strips and I'm ok with it but the 'private room' bothers me...any advice??
Q. My girlfriend strips. She is doing it to make her way through school. She is pre med , full time credits, and doesnt have much time to do things outside of school. The club gives her an oppurtunity to make decent money choosing her own hours. i...
A. 5 December 2007: As long as you accept her for what she does then thats all that matters. Who cares what anyone has to say about what your girlfriend has as a job. A job is a job and it does what needs to get done. Its good that you trust in your girlfriend a lot ... (read in full...)
How do I turn down one guy for another without hurting his feelings??
Q. Well i am in a bit of a mess. I was seeing this boy Sean we had half a dozen dates and latly we started to have sex. He is damn good. He wants it to be more asked me to be his proper girlfriend a few times and i keep saying am not sure yet i ne...
A. 4 December 2007: Well, we cant just make decisions because itll make others happy. I say that whoever and whatever makes you happy then stick to it. Dont let nothing stop you from being happy and living the way you want to. If you want to be with this guy Paul then ... (read in full...)
Do people say 'I love you' and not mean it??
Q. Is it possible for someone to really not be in love and just use the word? I've had many relationships and last year, well 3 months ago i was in love. We had an 8 month relationship he ended it abruptly and im still in love with him. I see him ...
A. 4 December 2007: Unfortunately, people do tend to say " i love you" and not necesarily mean it. People confuse the 3-lettered phrase. Why do they say it and not mean it you may ask? Well people sometimes say it because they feel as if they are obligated to. Such as ... (read in full...)
I feel like I need a break from my bf and fun with other people but I don't want to lose him. Am I being selfish??
Q. I am currently in an almost 2 year relationship with a guy I really love. However, we are both spending a year in a different country together, and since we got here about 3 months ago, we are arguing more and more. Possibly because it's the firs...
A. 4 December 2007: I wont call it so much as being selfish. Maybe your just not ready to settle down for a while. When people tend to skip the " HAVING FUN" stage in their life, they tend to want to go back to it. You just need your space considering you and your bf ... (read in full...)
She wants a break but I cant help thinking she wants to be with the guy from work.
Q. Hi My girlfriend and i have been going out for 7 months before i met her she had another boyfriend who treated her badly so when she argued with him she would go and get really drunk and cheat on him she would also self harm. So when she ended i...
A. 4 December 2007: Well give her what she wants. If she wants her space then give her space. This tends to happen when relationships move too quickly. Seems like she isnt ready for nothing serious. Not to make you feel bad or anything but think about this. If she left ... (read in full...)
I can''t be around him because he doesn't respect me....should I just ignore him or tell him??
Q. Last night I talked to my ex that I was in the process of reuniting with and dating again and I had said that I looked at his myspace and was pretty offended that he had all these pretty new girls as his top friends when I knew he barely knew ...
A. 4 December 2007: Well since this isnt the first time he has claimed he's changed then sorry honey but he isnt the one for you. A person changes because he volunteers to and it seems to me that after al this time he is stil the same person and he doesnt care about ... (read in full...)
Help! I turn into a bumbling idiot just thinking of him!!
Q. I've been a regular patron of a lounge in my area for about 5 years now. In the past I have casually dated a few men I've met there, however try to keep things just friendly as I don't want my life to play out like a bad season of "Cheers" lol. ...
A. 4 December 2007: Well you've known this guy for quite a while so maybe its time that you take it up a step. Your being sort of shy but thats ok. Its normal for us to feel this way when we are companied by a person we are very interested in. You'll never know where ... (read in full...)
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