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How can I help her overcome her fear of sex toys?

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Question - (4 December 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2007)
A male Australia age 51-59, anonymous writes:

what is the best way to help my wife over come her fears of useing a sextoys

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007):

this is a hard one as you havent really given us much info to go on!.

Ok I'll have to fill the gaps myself.

If shes afraid of them because she scared they might hurt, then get a small toy that stimulates the clit. That way she will start getting used to using a toy before using one internally.

Then the next step is to get a small non vibrating toy, small in length and girth. This allows her to experiment on her own before she is comfortable using it with you.

After a while your wife will be able to use a larger toy without fear of it damaging, or hurting her.

The important thing in all this is for your wife to agree to using toys, otherwise she will feel pressured and not want to do it at all.

If your wife doesnt want to use a toy, and shes adament that she doesnt want to explore using toys then you just need to except it. Its really not a big deal if a woman doesnt want to use toys, and if you pressure her into it then you'll just create unease.

Ok I hope I have helped,

Good luck in everything you do.

xx

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A female reader, bqagirl2692 United States +, writes (5 December 2007):

bqagirl2692 agony auntFear is a feeling that takes time and effort to overcome. Fear is not easy to get over. If a person is willing to overcome it then its only up to that person. Try to understand your wife. Dont force her to do anything she doesnt want to. This is all up to her. Talk to her about it and tell her she should try it on her own at her own pace. We tend to feel more comfortable trying new things when we are alone so that we dont feel pressured knowing someone is there watching. If and after she does that, simply ask her if the both of you can try together although you must take your sweet time so that she can get comfortable and get the hang of it. Have patience with her and accept her decisions.

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