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writes:My long distance bf broke up with me. He said that he was getting too down and upset because he couldnt see me and that cause my mum wasnt letting me go down for another 2 years said it was going to be too hard as he wouldn't be able to see me every month. I understand why he did this but it still hurts so much cause we both wanted to have a future together. He says he still loves me and miss me and that his feelings for me havent changed and his friends around him dont understand why hes done this cause they havent seen him so happy in all his life and cant believe he's done this, they say he will realise what he's done and wait. He says that he wants us to be friends but we have agreed the now to leave each other alone for things to calm down. I want to give us another chance but my parents are totally against this, i dont mean the now but maybe a few months later. He says he couldn't stand me with another guy and i said i couldn't stand him with another girl so what to we do?do we leave each other the now and try again after a while or what? and any advice on how to stop the heartbreak??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx for all ur advice really cheered me up :) we've talked again and i asked him what are we doing and he said well i think we on a break/pause so at least get the comfort of knowing it isnt entirely over just got the family to sort out though but probably going to leave getting back together for a while as i still wont be allowed down and i dont want this to happen again. I probably wont tell family we on break so it still best we dont fone one another or what??
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Seems to me that the both of you just put this relationship on pause for awhile and are wiling to pick up where you've left off. If the love is still there and if the only reason the both of you have broken up was because of family issues then i dont see why it shouldnt be given another chance. Your young so have fun for now and maybe when the time is right and the both of you are ready then give this relationship another try. Keep in contact with him. You dont want to lose something so special.
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reader, Megan Deetes +, writes (6 December 2007):
 ouch :( i know how you feel- when i first went to germany i got together with this guy because i was there for two months, lots of the others all had boyfriends as well but they all broke up when we went home, we carried on but about 4 months after i was back in England i got frustrated, he always told me how much he loved me but there was nothing i could do so there was one day that i got particularly frustrated and broke it off. were very close friends now and he says that one day one of could move countries to be together. i think were too young to be thinking about that but because your older i think it might be a good idea to see how much this man really means to you. Could you imagine YOURSELF with another man? If YOU had someone else would YOU feel better. You need to consider yoiurself at this point in time because by breaking up with you he seems to have demonstrated this frustration i felt about a year ago. By bieng woth someone else you could make him realize just how much you really means to him. As for your parents, maybe talking to them could help you, after all if they know exactly how you feel maybe they could come to a descion and respect your maturity for trusting them. The fact that you remained close with his friends is a turning point for him to want to get back together with you. Good Luck and feel free to message me if you need further help :)xxx
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