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writes:Ive been seeing my girlfriend for a while now. She is away at college and recently when visiting her I discovered messages on her computer between her and a few other guys. She suggested to most of them suggested phone sex and meeting up behind my back. We havent been together for so long, she claims they are a mistake and that she would never have met up with any of them. What should I do?! Does she deserve a second chance? Thanks in advanced for your advice!
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Yes - carry on seeing her, you might as well carry on having sex with her. Meanwhile start looking out for someone else like she is, get a few phones numbers. That way, if you later find out she is lying you've got someone else. If she isn't lying, maybe she does deserve a second chance after a few months of having a clean sheet.
Just to be on safe side though you ought to wear a condom and avoid oral sex with her because if it is true then sounds like there's been a few of them.
Take care
Richard
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help guys!
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Well it seems to me that she isnt taking this relationship as seriously as you do due to the fact that you guys arent really together as much. She is taking advantage of the liberty she has. Cheating doesnt necesarily have to be just physical. Phone sex? IF she can have that with guys she's never met before then clearly she can do it in person. She is letting the distance between you both causing you to drift apart. Let her float her own boat then. Give her space.., a break. Maybe she just wants to have fun. Talk to her about it and foound out what she really wants and needs. Be wise on this. For the sake of your own feelings as well. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): If you two havent been going out with each other for very long then she may not of seen you are being a serious relationship therefore the bit of fooling around. I would give her a second chance. Have a chat with her and tell her how you feel about her and if this is serious relationship then she hasnt to do these things again or you are off out of the door for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): No i dont think she deserves a second chance....This might come accross as harsh but once you hooked int this internet cyber crap you will always have the urge to do it again trust me ive been there . My advice is let her go but tel her in detail why you doing it and if you guys were ment to be she will stop and go back tou you .... Dont take it lightly my girl did the same i gave her up to 6 chances because i loved her but to no avail.... i left her she ended up being the most popular on the site.. hope this helps a little bit ....
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