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writes:This isn't a relationship question, although when it comes down to it, it can be. I can't do this anymore and I just can't afford a therapist. I don't have health insurance and my job doesn't give me enough hours to apply for it. I was wondering if anyone could tell me where to find a website I could PM someone about two or three days a week and just have them listen. I know my problems are not nearly enough to make me eligible for a mental hospital, but I just need someone who will listen to me. For free. Online.Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 August 2008):
You sound like you just need a friend to be honest not a therapist.
I think you need to have a sit down chat with your boyfriend at a time when you are both calm and tell him how you love him but there are certain things he does that make you want to leave him.
If he's telling you that you just need therapy then that is not a good thing. Any guy who says you have to go and change to be better for him does not love you.
You say 70% of the time he is great. Is that all you really think you are worth? 7 out of 10?
Talk to him and he won't work with you then you have to wonder whether he's worth fighting for if he won't fight for you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 I think you're not giving enough detail for me to know whether you truly have issues, or he does. From your description of what he says about you and your family, it seems he likes to provoke your anger. I think he is the one with the problem here. He seems to enjoy making you jealous and angry. This is not a problem that would require a therapist, though. You don't sound like you need a therapist, either. On the basis of this information you give, I honestly think you should dump the bastard. At least I would get furious if someone kept doing those things to me, too.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (3 August 2008):
 You could always try bubble popping, if it's stress... but you haven't atually said what's got you down! We will always help you, but we need some guidance!
Jelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, it mostly has to do with my boyfriend claiming I have issues. I get mad easily, but he provokes it because he's always talking about other girls and how hot they are and then he calls me a bitch for freaking out about him telling me all this crap I don't want to hear! And what really makes my blood boil is when he tells me 'I could say something right now, but I won't because you'll get pissed'; seriously, are all guys like this? Oh and he also bashes my family like you wouldn't believe. After a year and eight months, he's met my family maybe three times and each time was like a minute long, so he knows close to nothing about them.
Now, all this may (and most likely does) sound horrible and that we should break-up and all that crap, but the thing is, he's also so nice and smart and does the proper boyfriendly crap with me about 70% of the time. He wants me to be more "fun", but our definitions of fun are like polar opposites. I just want to know what I should do about this. I don't want to break up with me, I just want some way to make my situation a little less stressful.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (3 August 2008):
I don't know of any website like the one you want. I've been on your shoes, wanting someone who just will listen to me. But that was because I already knew what I had to do and just needed a little comfort to getting the courage to do it. To give you an example, it was as if I knew the doctor had to cut one of my legs, but needed to talk to someone before I got the courage to do it.
No therapy consists of just listening. Therapy is a way for you to talk about your problems, so that another person will look at them in an emotionally detached manner and will give you clues and hints what to do, so YOU can learn how to handle with your problems. That is what Dear Cupid does, only most of us are not therapists but normal people (pun fully intended) who have come here for different reasons.
Why don't you just ask a question about your particular problem?
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