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writes:I have been dating a man for about 6 months. We have probably had intercourse 5 or 6 times. Mostly we just fool around - he says he has erectile issues. He made an appointment to seek help but then cancelled and rescheduled it for months out. earlier he was given viagra, almost never takes it and when I asked him to, he said he can't find them. He has had 3 other relationships before me, each lasting 1-2 years and a marriage that last about 10 years. All 3 cheated on him or found other men. When we first started dating he said he gives me 2 years tops before I dump him. I'm at a loss.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 This guy is extremely insecure and needs some help. I dont know what he is playing at. If he loves you he would want to make you happy and he knows that by going to get help he would do this. I think he is expecting you to leave but he is extremely selfish. Tell him you have no intention of leaving him but you have needs. Tell him to arrange another apointment as soon as possible and make sure he keeps it. I think he has emotional issues which could lead to his erectile issues. Dont let it drop there is light at the end of the tunnel but he has to get help now.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (6 March 2007):
 He`s certainly suffering from low esteem from what you say, which, yes can manifest itself in erectile problems; but there could an underlying health problem too. I think that`s the first place to start, at the doctor`s (many impotency problems are treatable). If you can rule out a health problem, then the cause may be psychological, which can also be helped; especially with lots of patience & love from you. Also, of course, different people have different sex drives. What is frequent for one man is infrequent for another. You`re still in the early stages of your relationship with this man, and I hope you can continue to be as supportive & patient with him, as you have been. Encourage him gently to seek help, not just for him, but for the both of you, and Please reassure him over and over that you`re not about to dump him! I`m sure, given time, you`ll see his confidence soar! Kind Regards, Heather.
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