He said he doesn't know what he wants and he distanced himself from me. I don't know why.
Q. Hi everyone, After being single from a guy I really loved for over 6 months I finally met a really nice guy. His names andrew, hes 22 and Im 27. He works as a care worker and I am a teacher, we have lots in common and get on very well. We have me...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi Craig,
I think you might well find the answer in him being 22. You've had fun dating, and the next step is to get serious about each other and that probably scares him a bit. How many guys at 22 are ready to make a commitment?
Even if you'r... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend, now married, tells me he has wanted a divorce for a long time. Should I just avoid him?
Q. Let me start by telling a bit of the past. Many years ago, approximately 14 yrs ago I had this boyfriend and we were pretty serious and very close. We dated for almost a year and we broke up because my Mother demanded that we do so and would punish ...
A. 30 July 2008: There is a danger that what he feels is driven not only by nostalgia but by comparing memories of being happy with you against the feeling unhappy with his marriage.
In other words, whatever he may be feeling it might be false, driven not out of l... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend won't come and meet me and wants me to go there. Is that normal?
Q. hey Im 15 I have met this girl on the internet and i really like and she really likes me to. She live 2 houres away from me by train but only 45 minutes by car. I asked is she could get in her car and come and met me but she said no she want...
A. 30 July 2008: You are, or should be, aware of the standard advice given to people meeting someone off the internet. Meet somewhere public, with plenty of people around and so on. All these things are said so that you can ensure that you are safe.
Part of the r... (read in full...)
I have a wonderful boyfriend,but I don't feel happy or like my emotions have changed!
Q. OK,this month,I met a boy on the internet.He's 13, really sweet,and has always made me feel special.I asked him out yesterday,and this morning,he said yes.I was excited when he said yes,but it feels like nothing's changed.I don't feel different.I...
A. 29 July 2008: Do you, perhaps, feel this way because deep down you know him saying "yes" doesn't actually mean anything?
With him living so far away, and the fact you are both so young, what difference does it make if he's "a friend" or "your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm 3 months pregnant and my boyfriend is avoiding my calls. I don't know what to do.
Q. hey im 18 and just found out a week ago im 3 months pregnant i told my boyfriend but he's just completely avoiding me he doesn't answer my calls and wont text back i know this mite sound stupid but i dont wanna tell my parents as ive not reli ...
A. 29 July 2008: If you are 3 months pregnant, then in 6 months time you are going have a baby.
That might seem an obvious thing to say, but when that day comes around don't you think your parents are going to notice? Of course realistically they are going to... (read in full...)
He loves pornography, if I start behaving in bed like a porn star, will he stop watching the pornography?
Q. I know my boyfriend loves me, but if I start acting like a porn star in bed and doing all the acts he enjoys watching in porn, will he begin to lose interest in porn and stop watching it altogether? I've lost weight and now I'm thin like the girls ...
A. 29 July 2008: Be as creative, adventurous and down right kinky in bed as you feel comfortable being and enjoy doing. But do it because you enjoy it, not to try and stop your boyfriend watching porn. If you start doing things for that reason you will end up ... (read in full...)
We broke up, have had no contact, saw him at a function, he said nothing, just looked at me, and left early, I want to be friends, but cannot bring myself to contact him, what should I do?
Q. Hi there. I am hoping the great agony aunts can help me here. The answers are great and so prompt so thanks in advance. My ex and I had a pretty fiery breakup at the beginning of June. I was upset, he was upset and we have had no contact at all f...
A. 29 July 2008: It takes time, frequently a long time, after a break up before we can be friends with an ex. Sometimes it never happens. Before a friendship can start both people have to have recovered. You identify that you are still hurting and from his behavio... (read in full...)
The word 'cousin' is keeping him apart from me, I've never felt love like this before!
Q. I have fallen totally in love with my 1st cousin and he feels the same but he feels he cant move forward with me because of the word cousin,we have always had a special bond between us and have only just recently meet up at a relatives funeral after ...
A. 29 July 2008: In the UK nothing you are proposing is illegal. You could live together, have a sexual relationship, have children (though that isn't relevant for you) and get married. In fact everything any other man and a woman who fall in love can do.
Of co... (read in full...)
What is sexual contact, and is it illegal to have any sexual contact with someone under 16?
Q. i just wondering if u could help me what is sexual contact??? is it illgal to have any sexual contact with a person who is younger than 16? ...
A. 29 July 2008: Firstly given your age and the nature of your question if you are at all concerned that someone has behaved towards you inappropriately or you are upset about something PLEASE speak to a responsible adult as soon as possible. If you don't feel y... (read in full...)
My friend has been withdrawing from me...how hsould I handle this?
Q. First, let me start by saying I'm not a teenager, instead a woman in her 30's. I have fallen head over heals with a friend of mine, but have NO CLUE what he is thinking!!! We have known each other for almost 10 years. We were more 'friends of a fr...
A. 29 July 2008: I sense that you need to know the answer, and know the only way to find it out is to talk to him. But that isn't easy, and it means making yourself vulnerable as Baby duck says. He might reject you, leaving you feeling hurt after all. So you a... (read in full...)
How do men know we've decided on an open marriage when neither of us has said anything?
Q. my husband and i have started having an open marriage about 4 months ago. i haven't done anything with another man yet and my husband is eager for me to get started. i am too, but i am looking for the right man to be my first. i don't think i ...
A. 28 July 2008: A huge part of communication is non-verbal and subconscious.
Things like your body language will have changed, and it will be signals like that which you aren't even aware of that will be hinting to these men that you are available and approach... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my fear of attention from boys?
Q. Im 15 and really confused. i never have boyfriends enymore and it puts me on a all time low. Plus to make it worse i have never properly snogged a boy.All my friends have and they have done other things too. i gt scared when i get attention from ...
A. 27 July 2008: Just because your friends are doing things doesn't mean that you have to be doing them too.
You are just not ready yet for a boyfriend, and there is nothing wrong with that. It might also be possible that you just haven't met the right boy - an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is uptight and volatile! I know no relationship is perfect but is this too much?
Q. please can anyone help. i dnt know what to do about my relationship with my long tearm boyfreind. most of the time he is nice, he is affectionate, gives me cuddles, is faithful, cleans and cooks, he always tells me i look nice and stuff but when he ...
A. 27 July 2008: Communicating is a skill, something that we learn and can get better at. One of the hardest parts to get right is how we communicate when we have something negative that we need to say and as such lots of people get it wrong.
Arguing is never ab... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get mad at my boyfriend for checking out another girl (but a famous one?)
Q. is it wrong to get mad at your boyfriend for checking out another girl but it was at a concert and it was a famous person(carrie underwood? should you trust your boyfriend when going out with him when there will be girls?...
A. 27 July 2008: Yes, you should trust your boyfriend - unless of course he has given you a reason in the past not to.
All guys "check out" girls they see to some extent or other and it's nothing to worry about - and especially not when it's someone famous. ... (read in full...)
My husband is addicted to porn and I'm fed up
Q. My husband of 25 years has been using pornograpy off and on since we've been married and has always had problems keeping erections. Doctors have never found any physical problems. We've been to counseling and he says that he loves me but he just ...
A. 27 July 2008: Lots of men enjoy pornography, and using it "off and on" doesn't sound like an addiction to me. However much you may or may not like him doing so (and everyones opinions in it differ), having tolerated it for 25 years he is unlikely to see why he ... (read in full...)
How do I find someone to practice my English skills with?
Q. I want to find someone to practice my oral English .But I don't know how I can find (him or she) to teach me English on the Internet . ...
A. 27 July 2008: If it's just to practise your oral skills, instead of looking for one person to practice with why don't you try joining some of the chat rooms that allow voice chat?
That way you will get to hear plenty of people talking, and get to talk to lots ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to have pictures of of celebrity on his cell phone?
Q. my boyfriend has pictures of Vida Guerra in his cell phone, it bothers me, but should i worry.....
A. 27 July 2008: It's perfectly normal, and nothing to worry about.
He will enjoy the pictures, and they will represent something of a fantasy image to him but that has absolutely nothing to do with the way he will think about you or your relationship.
It's ju... (read in full...)
My friend has been withdrawing from me...how hsould I handle this?
Q. First, let me start by saying I'm not a teenager, instead a woman in her 30's. I have fallen head over heals with a friend of mine, but have NO CLUE what he is thinking!!! We have known each other for almost 10 years. We were more 'friends of a fr...
A. 27 July 2008: It could be that he felt things were going too far with you, and he has backed away because he just wanted a friend. Or, it could be that he really likes you and wishes your relationship was a lot more than just friends but is scared of being ... (read in full...)
Having trouble socially...any advice for me?
Q. I'm really depressed over the fact that I had never had girlfriend.Several hours ago I was crying and feeling incredible pain,just like always.A bit later my best(and only) friend calls.I was in no mood to talk because of my depression,which he ...
A. 27 July 2008: The good news is you won't be a third wheel forever.
The bad news is the chances are you are not going to go out tomorrow, and end the evening as part of a couple. Sure, it might happen, but the chances aren't great. That's nothing to do with you... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend not being ready to have sex? I'm tired of waiting.
Q. Okay - So, I've been dating a girl that studies with me (collage) for about 10+ months already, and we haven't had sex yet. We are both virgins - believe it or not! I really like her and I know she really likes me, but I don't know why she doesn...
A. 27 July 2008: I can understand you must find it frustrating, baffling even, but you are just going to have to be patient.
When we are nervous or scared our muscles contract, and that is why even fingering will be hurting her. Until she is relaxed and comforta... (read in full...)
Why would she ask me out and not call me back? I felt stupid waiting...
Q. Today a girl called me see if I wanted to go out to eat for dinner. She told me that she would call me back when she was ready to be picked up. However, she never called me back. She has been interested in me for a while and broke up with her ...
A. 26 July 2008: The obvious question is have you called her to ask why?
The answer could be one of a thousand things, such as some emergency cropped up for example.
As for the intention of the arrangement, again you won't know how she feels until you commun... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my girlfriend will be scared off by my parents! they yell all the time.
Q. Sorry, this is gonna be long but I need your help. Please. I’m 15. great parents but they don’t get along. Constant yelling and verbal abuse. Mom yells 24/7. dad has made me grow up too fast and routinely gives me 30-60+ min speeches on how ...
A. 26 July 2008: I think there's two issues here, the first being your parents and the second being what to tell your girlfriend.
You do sound pretty mature for a kid of 15, and I guess with everything going on you've had to grow up pretty fast. But, you'll n... (read in full...)
I get picked on and I'm mad at one of my friends for saying something. Why would she do that?
Q. I get pick on a lot because people think I'm gay (which I'm not.) the "popular" kids shoved me into lockers, beat me up. One day I talking to my friends (who hadn't ditch me to be popular) until those guys push me into a locker and I started ...
A. 26 July 2008: She did it because she cares about you and it was the right thing to do. No one should have to put up with being "picked on", and certainly not being assaulted which is a criminal offence. The behaviour of these bullies is completely unacceptab... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get withdrawal symptoms if you stop masturbating?
Q. i know you hear of people gettin withdrawal symptoms from smoking, drinking etc, but when its that one week out of the month and mastubating would be a REALLYY messy job so i prefer not to do it, i get realy snappy n stuff, and i get so horny its ...
A. 26 July 2008: Some things, like smoking and drugs, we get addicted to physically and the body can't cope any more when the substance is no longer there and that causes the withdrawal symptoms. But it is possible to get addicted mentally to pretty much anyt... (read in full...)
Should I leave? I cant handle this coldness between us anymore!
Q. I've been Married to my wife now for seven years , we have had a little girl who is 3 years old now and the joy of my life . The thing is that my wife and i hardly talk to each other anymore . I am to blame for our current financial problems due to ...
A. 26 July 2008: If I said "Yes, leave her" would that help you? Would it somehow make it easier to do, and give you a feeling that your actions were validated? I'm sorry, but it is impossible for anyone to say if you should leave her, except in circumstances wh... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a baby if you are an overweight smoker?
Q. im a bigger girl and i smoke i know its bad and i just want 2 know if there is any other bigger girls that smoke that ever had a baby bcuz i know if ur overweight and smoke its harder 2 concive and i wanna have 1 so i just want to know if it is ...
A. 26 July 2008: Is it possible? Yes, of course it is. If you have unprotected sex then it doesn't matter how many things there are the make conception less likely, there is always a chance.
Is it advisable? No, not really. You know that smoking can damage b... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do about this friend that is being bullied!
Q. My friend is being bullied (just teasing) and told me not to tell. Should I tell anyway or listen to him? Once stood up for him and now the bully thinks his "girlfriend" need to protect him. He got very mad at me and say your a f***ing bitch, Why is ...
A. 26 July 2008: Why is the bully such a jerk? Well, there can be lots of reasons why people do it, but often they need help to learn how to be happy without being nasty to people just as much as the people they are bullying need help in getting it to stop.
Bully... (read in full...)
Am I wise to keep seeing this man?
Q. This past September I broke up with my fiancee. We were dating for five years. We broke up in the worse possible way because we are still spending time with one another and behaving like a couple. However we no longer refer to ourselves as ...
A. 25 July 2008: You, and your married man, have had a very close shave. Next time you probably won't be as lucky.
I think you know the answer to your question already. Are you wise to be involved with a married man? No, of course not.
Just what are you hop... (read in full...)
I'm only 5'7", will I ever have a growth spurt?
Q. Hi. Ive never had a growth spurt, and im 17 and 5 foot 7. Will i get a growth spurt/grow more? My mom is 5'2, and dad is 6'0. Also my brother is 15, yet he is 5'9, is this normal? I know this might seem silly, but its depressing me. Thanks for all ...
A. 25 July 2008: The age that we stop growing is different for each person, so the answer to your question is... it depends! At 17 you are around the age where growth can stop, but some other people carry on until a bit older.
Our height is just one thing we can't... (read in full...)
I have an amazing boyfriend but I'm miserable because I don't have any other friends.
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice, and to spare u anymore agony my dearc agony aunts, im gonna make a long story short. Im miserable, I have an amazing boyfriend that I love and really enjoy spending time with but other than him I don't really have any...
A. 25 July 2008: When we're at school we're surrounded by people who are the same age as us, with similar interests and going through a shared experience. Making friends doesn't really require much effort because they are just there.
But then we grow up, and it s... (read in full...)
Is doubting a relationship normal? Do all couples experience it on some level?
Q. Hi all, I'll try to make this as brief as possible! I broke up with my partner last year after being together for 3 years. I had spent a great deal of time obsessing about our compatibility, and I realised that life is just too short to spend s...
A. 25 July 2008: I would say it's pretty normal to experience doubts at some level on occasions, but it's not normal to constantly feel them and to the extent you break up with someone you really want to be with. I wonder if you aren't feeling over committed t... (read in full...)
I cyber-stalk my boyfriend's ex to make sure they aren't talking to each other. How can I not worry so much?
Q. Alright, I tend to get a bit obsessive when it comes to my boyfriends Ex-girlfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years and I know I shouldnt worry. But I get so paranoid when it comes to her and ONLY her. Like I have to go to her profile and ...
A. 25 July 2008: He might have been ready to marry her, but that was before she showed her true colours by cheating. That's enough to make most people change their minds about someone. And as for talking on myspace, well, I talk to some of my ex's. Once you'v... (read in full...)
I cyber-stalk my boyfriend's ex to make sure they aren't talking to each other. How can I not worry so much?
Q. Alright, I tend to get a bit obsessive when it comes to my boyfriends Ex-girlfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years and I know I shouldnt worry. But I get so paranoid when it comes to her and ONLY her. Like I have to go to her profile and ...
A. 25 July 2008: The trouble with snooping is that sooner or later you are going to find exactly what you are looking for.
Not that there is anything to find, but you get yourself so paranoid that there is that you look at the most innocent "evidence" and begin to... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and might be in love with my father's best friend... or is it just admiration?
Q. I love a man that is 14 years older then me. I think about him all the time but I don't know if he loves me. He always talks to me and makes me feel that he loves me but sometimes I wonder. But there is one other slight problem he is my father's ...
A. 25 July 2008: Admiration, infatuation, a crush... call it what you like, it isn't that uncommon for girls your age to find themselves attracted to an older guy.
But, you also have to be sensible about it and it sounds like you are being. I'm sure you know it ... (read in full...)
Missed birth control pills, could I be pregnant and is it too early to take a test?
Q. ok, i have big drama. to begin with,i started taking my birth control incorrectly, instead of starting the sunday after or the day my period begins, i started the day my period ended. I spotted the whole first month and never got my period. 2nd ...
A. 25 July 2008: If you miss a pill, or lower the effectiveness of the pill (such as by taking St Johns Wort or some antibiotics etc) and have unprotected sex then it is always possible that you could be pregnant.
How likely is it? Well, that's pretty much imp... (read in full...)
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