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writes:I love a man that is 14 years older then me. I think about him all the time but I don't know if he loves me. He always talks to me and makes me feel that he loves me but sometimes I wonder. But there is one other slight problem he is my father's best friend. Do you think it is love taht i feel for the man or admiration?
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reader, jez28  +, writes (14 December 2008):
its normal but just keep it fantasy if you can.
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reader, SilverSun +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Hey I had a crush on the mail man last year, THAT DOESNT MEAN I LOVE HIM. Dude it is just a crush it's normal for girls our age to have crushes on older men. It's just a crush it will pass
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 It's just a crush. At your age, your hormones are all over the place and there's nothing wrong with having a little thing for an older man. We all get them.
As long as you don't act on how you feel, by say, trying to seduce him (Big NO NO!) then there's nothing wrong with the way you feel. It'll go away eventually.
The "loved" feeling you get from him is mostly likely fatherly love (since he is your Dad's best friend and has probably been around since you were a baby) or he just thinks that you're a cool kid and enjoys talking with you.
Hope this helps
XO
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reader, southernsweetie15 +, writes (25 July 2008):
I think it's just admiration or a crush.
Sorry but I think that "loved" feeling youre getting is because he thinks of you as maybe one of his own or likes that you two are maybe close like a father/daughter relationship.
Maybe you're just a cool kid and he likes to hang out with you like dad's do with their kids
but if you still think you may love him then at least wait until youre 18... no use in getting him in trouble with your dad or the law.
Hope that helped at least the slightest =]
-Kate
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reader, domino21 +, writes (25 July 2008):
 It sounds like it is just admiration. But how long have you felt this way?.. Then again crushs can last a very long time. Please be careful not to read into more than whats really there. If you start thinking of it as love your going to be very let down in the long run. Just remember its a crush and he may care about you. But for him to form that kind of relationship at this age wouldnt be the best idea.
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Admiration, infatuation, a crush... call it what you like, it isn't that uncommon for girls your age to find themselves attracted to an older guy.
But, you also have to be sensible about it and it sounds like you are being. I'm sure you know it would be very wrong for a guy like him to be interested in someone as young as you.
Talking to you does not mean that he loves you, and nor should it. He's your dads friend, and he'll talk to you because your his friends daughter. He might think you're a cool kid even (hey, better than him thinking you're an annoying brat!), but that's all.
Before long you'll look at him and think to yourself "I used to have a crush on him? Yuk!" and be glad you were sensible enough to recognise that's all it is now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): no i thin it could be an obsession in a way. i kno i dont kno much and that we r around the same age but it could become a form of obsession.and it is bad if it is ur dad's friend.but if u think it is love talk to him and ask how he feels about u and maybe takl to ur dad about it even though he might blow it out of proportion but i think he has the right to kno
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