I'm scared my girlfriend is going to break up with me because of the distance
Q. Dear friends Well I'm quite scared my girlfriend will break up with me. I have had three relationships and the previous two both progressed the same way. It was perfect for a while, then they started to criticise me, act a bit cold. Then one day...
A. 18 February 2017: Keep in as much and regular contact as you can. Phone, skye, face-time, text, even write letters if that is practical. Email photos.
While 4 months is not long in the grand scheme of things, it can seem like a lifetime when you are missing ... (read in full...)
Is he right to be annoyed? He was asleep, while I watched porn. He said that what I did was a form of cheating
Q. Okay so My boyfriend always takes the mick out of me that I want sex too much. I do like it every day but I don't think that's a problem.. Anyway, that's not the issue. Last night he fell asleep when he knew I was horny, which isn't reall...
A. 17 February 2017: Well, it is his "right" to be annoyed about anything he likes, but it does not mean he IS right.
If you had used the porn instead of having sex with him when he was actually up for it (no pun intended!), then that would be wrong. However,... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling so very angry with my ex boyfriend? ?
Q. Hi , I used to be in a relationship with this guy , we started off as being friends he was all pleasant he even sat alone with me to have lunch . But then things started to change, we both developed romantic feelings for each other, we both fel...
A. 17 February 2017: Hold onto that last thought.
The guy is a player and a user. You already know you are better off without him. Luckily you saw through him early in the relationship.
The opposite of love is not hate; it is indifference. Next time you see him... (read in full...)
I don't feel the 'spark' anymore. Is this reason to break up?
Q. I am quite young and have been going with a guy for 4 and a half months now. Sometimes i feel really attracted to him and can't wait to spend time with him, but recently i just don't feel that "spark" anymore. However this is definitely not a re...
A. 17 February 2017: I suspect relationships at your age are a bit like seeing something nice in a shop window. You get very excited about it, absolutely MUST have it. Then, when you get it, the novelty soon wears off and it no longer excites you. Yes, it is nice to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps texting a female co-worker and it's getting inappropriate. Am I overreacting?
Q. So my boyfriend has a female co-worker. He told me a couple weeks ago that it was pretty obvious to him and a few co-workers that a supervisor was trying to get with this female coworker, let's call her "B". My boyfriend told me that he told B "I ...
A. 17 February 2017: As someone who works in a mainly male workplace, I have the mobile numbers of quite a few colleagues and find myself having text conversations whenever anything is going on, like after a night out to see how rough they are feeling or if something ... (read in full...)
The woman in my boyfriend's porn collection look nothing like me
Q. My bf has a lot of porn on his computer of women who all look nothing like me . I am chubby and older and they are invariably young and thin. Now I've read in a lot of places that men will often look at women opposite to what they have at home but ...
A. 16 February 2017: Unless men have particular fetishes, I don't think they are really bothered what the women in their porn look like. It's just porn, not a dating site.
He is with you because he likes you as you are. The porn is something completely separate... (read in full...)
Should I explain to my ex? Or just let him think what he wants?
Q. Well, It all started when the guy I was seeing for a 1 1/2 years dumped me out of the blue... I moved on and met someone else who was going out of town for 2 months.. (New dating by this time) This new guy is nothing like my ex.. he's sucessful, ...
A. 16 February 2017: So your ex has now effectively dropped you twice and you are still hankering after him?
He is your ex for a reason. Leave him in the past. Why is it important what he thinks? He is right in so far as you were lying to him (I assume you forgot t... (read in full...)
A straight friend wants to have sex with me. Should I?
Q. Hi.i have a friend who i would like to have sex with.he is straight i am gay. What should i do?ahead thanks....
A. 16 February 2017: What are you planning on doing? Jumping on him and forcing yourself on him? I assume not. Or at least I HOPE not.
If he is straight, the thought of having sex with you will probably horrify him. What if a female friend of yours came along an... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag if a woman has been 3 or 4 times and says all the marriages were abusive?
Q. well asking a question, if a woman, a man started dating, tells you they been married three or four times, is that a big red flag, my own opinion is that they all couldn't be bad,one or two maybe,an if they say all three men were abusive ...
A. 16 February 2017: You know how it's said that there are two sides to every story? Well, personally I think there are THREE side, especially when it comes to marriages: HIS side, HER side and the truth.
If all her marriages were truly abusive, then she may just be ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 15 February 2017: What else does your husband convince you is normal in a marriage? I do wonder as you don't seem really that put out by this request. Has he had you doing "favours" for any of his friends before? Did he just marry you to pimp you out?
Most men woul... (read in full...)
Would I be doing myself a favour to just tell him how I feel?
Q. When should you tell someone how you feel? A friend and work colleague kissed me a while ago and told me had feelings for me but it all went wrong as he had an ex in the same work place and didn't want to make things awkward. I have been trying...
A. 15 February 2017: He had no business telling you he liked you to then tell you he would not date you. This guy is not available. He is in a prison of his own making. He CHOOSES not to be available.
Why are you drawn to someone who chooses to mess you about in... (read in full...)
Where Can I Find A Guy To Date Casually?
Q. I moved to a new city recently so don't know too many people outside work (I do have lovely good friends, but they're mostly older women who can't introduce me to many guys) and not many single guys my age. I'm inexperienced with guys too, never ...
A. 15 February 2017: I think as long as you are honest and up front about not wanting anything serious, just casual dating, then internet dating could work for you. All I would say is be very VERY careful about letting guys know where you live or work, in case they turn ... (read in full...)
It's been impossible to move on from my ex. He's in a relationship now, yet is concurrently sending me texts. What should I do?
Q. im in need of advice, I am being confused with random contact from my ex. my ex and I have been on and off for years. Four to five months ago he disappeared to date someone else, broke my heart. i was always the one wanted to get back together an...
A. 15 February 2017: He's keeping you as a Plan B in case things don't work out with his new girlfriend.
How do you know he didn't have a Plan B while he was with you?
Feel sorry for his current girlfriend, block his number and refuse contact with him. I know it's... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's grandmother died, should I go to the funeral?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years grandma recently passed away. He's asking me to go to a funeral with him to comefort him. I told him I would feel out of place and not comefortable because I never really knew his grandma or other relatives besides his ...
A. 14 February 2017: This is not about YOU. This is about HIM.
Can you put your (relatively minor) discomfort aside and go to support him, as he has asked? It is obviously important to him, otherwise he would not have asked.
Admittedly a funeral is not the best ... (read in full...)
Anxiety from a previous relationship stops me moving forward!
Q. I like a guy but ever since i realised i like him I'm just stuck in this vortex of anxiety and fear. We went out on a date and it was fantastic but I'm feeling even more unsure of myself. I had a previous relationship where everything was going ...
A. 14 February 2017: You have to remember that not all guys are like your feckless ex, who didn't have the backbone to finish your relationship face-to-face and admit he had met someone else. Luckily guys like him are in a minority. You were very unlucky to have met ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like the picture of my (deceased) husband being on display
Q. Hi,i just have a question, specially for a man out there. Please just let me know what can you really say about this, im a widow, i have a boyfriend now for almost two years. He is divorce cos his ex wife cheated on him. Thats not my point here. ...
A. 13 February 2017: Congratulations on handling a very tricky situation so sensitively.
Your boyfriend has to understand that you had a life before you met him. Just because your husband died does not take away from the happy years you two shared. You have already ... (read in full...)
I fear our cultures will clash too much!
Q. Dear agony aunts Recently I have been seeing a guy that I really like and starting to have feelings for, we have been on several dates and been seeing each other for the last couple of months I like this guy so much but he is English living i...
A. 13 February 2017: Have you actually sat down with him and discussed your fears? Are his long term plans to stay living in your country or will be be returning home at some point? Or possibly moving elsewhere in the world?
Does he actually see the issues you worr... (read in full...)
We barely talk and when we do its all negative!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are constantly arguing atm. I put it down to my hormones and that's why I've been more argumentative. However, it's starting to feel like we actually hate each other! We've been together dead on a year and things have been ...
A. 13 February 2017: What are you getting from this relationship? What is holding you together? If you are already like this after just a year, how will you be in a few years?
If you honestly believe this is all down to your hormones (although, in my book, it takes tw... (read in full...)
My parents are very critical of friends and boyfriends.
Q. I have 2 very loving and involved parents. My one complaint is that they can be too judgmental of the people in my life. I have always been very cautious and responsible. But I do have a history of choosing lousy boyfriends/ accepting way le...
A. 13 February 2017: Why are you constantly afraid of being dumped? That is not a good way to be in a relationship. Is this something to do with your boyfriend or with the way your parents are?
Your brother has the right idea, especially given that you are an adult. M... (read in full...)
She made me wait until marriage for sex, but we are now married and still no sex!
Q. I know these questions get asked plenty of times - and I know there is no cut and dry answer, but here is my story. I'm 34 years old and my wife of 5 years is 24. She wanted to wait until marriage to have sex which was more than fine for me seei...
A. 13 February 2017: The only other marriage I know of where this happened was when the wife was trying to hide the fact she was gay by marrying a bloke she thought (rightly, as it happened) would put up with no sex. Not saying your wife IS gay, but it is one option to ... (read in full...)
How am I meant to deal with these people ?
Q. A little background history; my bf and I got together when I was 16 and he was 17, broke up when I was 20 and got back together (with encouragement from his parents) when I was 23. Im now 24 turning 25, and he's 26. It's always been a long distance ...
A. 12 February 2017: By finding somewhere else to rent FAST and putting as much distance between yourselves and them as you can as fast as you can.
If you can afford to rent from them, then I assume you can find somewhere else to rent? Somewhere where you will be ... (read in full...)
Shall I forfeit the money and not go on this holiday abroad next month?
Q. About a month ago my friend and another couple and their friend (who I know but not really friendly with) agreed to go on holiday abroad next month. My friend and I had gone on a holiday together the previous year with another group and in that ...
A. 12 February 2017: If a large group of you is going on this holiday, are you friendly with anyone else in the group? Could you get in contact with them before the holiday and have a chat before you make any decisions? Will you have other people to talk to on this ... (read in full...)
He doesn't have the same feelings as I have for him from the beginning until the end
Q. My aunt introduced me to her husband's nephew 9mos.ago,he is a 4yr divorced man with 2kids,I also have a 13yr old son that's why get along so well. We were talking,messaging online for 8 mos until we decided to meet in Barcelona last week,he flew ...
A. 12 February 2017: Sorry, but you seriously don't see what is "drama" about crying and begging?
You hardly know this man. Let him go. He is not for you. Draw a line under the whole experience and forget him.
Look for someone nearer home.... (read in full...)
Friend uploaded video of me saying things when drunk. She won't take it down but I'm worried
Q. My friend uploaded a video of us playing drinking games when we were at hers. In it, I am slightly tipsy (as we all are) and I can be heard saying rather inappropriate things which I feel could implicate my future. I've told her I'm worried abo...
A. 12 February 2017: This is not friendship. This is bullying, pure and simple.
Ask her one more time to take it down - not in a joking way but in a way that she is left under no illusions that you are serious. If that doesn't work, get your parents involved if you c... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him?
Q. How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him? Is that even normal for a guy to feel? Early in our relationship, he was disappointed that I wasn't a virgin. Then he was weirded out when he found out that he wasn't ...
A. 12 February 2017: Sorry but my first thought was that I hope you are using more reliable contraception now than with your ex.
What do you call people who use the withdrawal method of contraception? PARENTS! It is not reliable as semen can escape well before a... (read in full...)
His parents caught us in the shower together!
Q. I've been dating my bf for 10 months, his parents really seem to like me. Yesterday his parents came horn earlier then we excepted and caught us in the shower together. I feel so embarrassed. My bf said that they were disappointed that we let ...
A. 12 February 2017: Whoops!
The "D" word - disappointed. Always guaranteed to make people feel guilty.
I think the important thing to take away from this incident is that your boyfriend's parents are not comfortable with you getting up to that sort of thing in... (read in full...)
A year after breaking it off with me he wants my phone number, should I give it to him?
Q. So I have a question I'd like some help with. I'm really confused as to whether I should get back with my ex. I was with my ex for 9 years 15-24. There were no issues everything was great almost perfect but nothing is perfect I guess. I loved h...
A. 12 February 2017: Absolutely not! Tell your sister to tell him to sling his hook. Just because nobody else wants him does not mean you can be his safety net.
Nicely as this man broke up with you - and all credit to him for that - what happens if you put weight o... (read in full...)
Our arguments often lead to physical altercations!
Q. ive been in this relationship for about five months now and things are definitely not the way i thought they would be. I care deeply about this man but the communication is limited. We get into arguments which some end in physical altercations. Both ...
A. 12 February 2017: What is wrong is that you are staying in a physically abusive relationship. At least, I assume it is physically abusive. From what you have described, it is not very clear. Does he hurt you when you try to leave? Do you think he will hurt you? Or do ... (read in full...)
I think he might want more than to be my friend.
Q. Does my male friend fancy me?. I have spoken to him about my ex boyfriend sometimes. He kept saying that I deserved to be treated better than how my ex was treating me. We had a night out last night. He touched my leg with his foot in a jokey way a ...
A. 12 February 2017: The question is, how do YOU feel about it?
He could be either a flirty person who is comfortable and relaxed around you, or he could be cautiously testing the water to find out if there could be more to this relationship.
If you are happy to... (read in full...)
Should I keep contact with my aggressive, hardline parents?
Q. For the past 33 years, I have had a very rocky relationship with my parents, especially with my Mum. I do believe my Mum is narcissist who is unforgiving and selfish and I've only realised this in the past 3 years, since I've been with my boyfriend. ...
A. 11 February 2017: Your mother sounds like a nightmare. However, you too sound to have either a stubborn streak or a disability to learn from your mistakes.
For instance, telling someone how to set up their Xmas table in their own house - even if well intentio... (read in full...)
Is It Time To Ditch My Toxic Friend?
Q. I've only known her for a few months, at the start she was OK but she has become nasty. She is always oneupping me in conversation. For example if I make a casual remark about how I like a dress or something, she'll be like "Oh that dress isn't for ...
A. 11 February 2017: In recent years I have noticed that many people seem to have lost the ability to hold a real conversation. They only seem to listen to people - if they do at all - so they can jump in and brag about themselves or something of theirs. People like ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should start dating again right after a break up!
Q. I have posted before about my long distance relationship. I believe it has come to an end as the guy told me he wasn't ready, wanted to be single and told me not to wait for him. For the last week I have been completely devastated and tried ...
A. 11 February 2017: Sweetheart, you are hurting and are trying to heal the hurt by dating someone else. This relationship would be totally on the rebound from your last one and would not be fair on you or the man involved.
Meet up as friends perhaps, but make it ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous that my male best friend had beenseeing someone!
Q. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 12 years old. So about 9/10 years now. We've always been best friends. Never argued etc.. he was there for me after my terrible breakup from my ex boyfriend. (He would tell me he will always ...
A. 11 February 2017: Why on earth have you two not tried being in a proper boy/girlfriend relationship? What is scaring you?
What better foundation for a relationship than being best friends?
Life is too short to look back with regrets. Listen to your mum. She is... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend who I've seen on the dating site?
Q. I have just joined a dating site and all is going well . My best friend met a guy on a night out and started seeing each other , even tho there is no official 'label' between them (boy/girlfriend) He did say to her and she agreed they would see how ...
A. 11 February 2017: If you are sure he is active on there (and that this is not just an old profile he hasn't got round to removing), then tell her. Absolutely.
She may actually be ok with the information, as they have possibly not agreed to be exclusive, but she ... (read in full...)
It shouldn't be this difficult only 6 weeks into a relationship
Q. recently started a new relationship we've been together now around 6 weeks. he's 40 I'm 32 and we both work together. we've known each other for around 6 years now but we were always both in different relationships until recently. so at the ...
A. 11 February 2017: My gut instinct would be to end this relationship myself - you will feel so much better for taking back control of your own life - and then get help with coming to terms with your past.
It sounds like this guy thought he could "heal" you, but... (read in full...)
I think the married co-worker I've been flirting with is just looking for a fling, but I can't avoid him because we work together. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I have recently started a part time job which i love. Everyone is so lovely but I have found myself flirting with this guy. We text a lot and he says very flattering things but he is due to be married in a few weeks. He has two children with ...
A. 11 February 2017: Sweetheart, take it from one who is a lot older and more experienced than you: if you "go there", you will regret it.
As soon as his fiancee/wife-to-be gets wind of anything going on between you, he will dump you like a hot potato and blame th... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with his brother's wife and now she's saying her child is his. Do I stay or leave? We have children of our own.
Q. i just found out my husband of 17 years slept with his brothers wife on his wedding night. This is the most disgusting thing I have ever heard or had to endure, the pain that i am going through is so unbearable. His brother met his wife 3 years...
A. 11 February 2017: HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG.
First of all, there is a lot at stake here so you need to think calmly and work out what is best for everyone, especially your children. You need to be strong so, tempting as it is to withdraw into drinking... (read in full...)
Would ladies be interested in a night of hot foreplay but no sex?
Q. Question for for females who could possibly be open to casual sex or males with experience. I think similar has been touched on before here. You see a guy in a bar or wherever and are really attracted to him. Both agree to get together or go s...
A. 9 February 2017: WOW! THERE'S a chat-up line you don't hear every day!!!!
Personally I don't do one night stands as I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone I have only just met, so I may not be the best person to answer this. HOWEVER, trying to put myse... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret dumping a nice guy for a jerk?
Q. my question is do women, ever look back an wonder? they have been in a relationship for a while and the guy isn't very nice to them, not a gentleman or romantic, before him they were seeing a guy who was, but he wasn't a challenge,they thought he ...
A. 9 February 2017: I think you should just concentrate on being the nice guy and you will then, hopefully, attract a nice lady and be happy.
We all make our own choices in life and regret is a pretty pointless emotion as it changes nothing. Everyone looks for diff... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend has problems he pushes me away
Q. My boyfriend is going to his cousins funeral tomorrow. He said that I could go with him at first, but then he told me not to go as the service will only be for about 30 minutes and there won't be many people there. I feel hurt that he said I could ...
A. 9 February 2017: As you suffer from depression and anxiety, you probably feel empathy for your boyfriend. However, admirable as it is that you want to support and help him, you cannot force him to accept that offer if he prefers to cope with whatever his problems ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? Whenever I invite a friend over she invariably does not show up
Q. I have a friend I've known for several years. She has a very frustrating habit in which she will set a day with me to meet up, and then not show up. I really don't understand how you can simply disregard to tell a person you are not coming and let ...
A. 8 February 2017: I think you SHOULD keep making plans - but do the same as she does and simply don't turn up. Sooner or later she will actually turn up and phone you and you can cheerfully say "Sorry, couldn't make it, but hope to see you soon".
But then rudeness... (read in full...)
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