My husband pays far too much attention to his brother's chesty girlfriend
Q. My husbands younger brother has this girlfriend she's quite pretty and has a large chest and everyone loves her and all the rest of it bla bla bla. My husband openly stares at her in front of everybody it's like he doesn't even try to hide it even ...
A. 19 April 2017: Comparing you unfavourably with this lady in front of others is just out of order and your husband needs to be told in no uncertain terms. It shows lack of respect and a sick sense of humour if running down the mother of his children is what he ... (read in full...)
When I try to talk to my girlfriend about her flaws it always turns into an argument
Q. Okay so i have a girlfriend and i love her to bits but sometimes she can doing very annoying things, but whenever i bring them up she acts like its a massive problem and it always turns into an argument....
A. 19 April 2017: Are these "very annoying things" deal breakers for you? If so, you may as well get out of the relationship NOW because it does not sound like she has any intention of changing. If not, learn ways of not letting them annoy you so much. Remember, we ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend travels constantly and has friends and family he refuses to let me meet
Q. I'm 44 years old, my boyfriend is 53. We have been dating for 4 years now. He has 2 jobs. One job has fee flying perks. So far in 4 years he has gone to Costa Rica, Dominican Republic, Mexico, Philippines, Thailand, Japan, he went to Las Vegas and ...
A. 18 April 2017: What are you actually getting from this "relationship"? Your gut instinct is telling you there is something badly wrong. For crying out loud, LISTEN and dump this user.
There is no way you are his "one and only". I would bet big money he is marri... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I am 19 years old and I still hang out with my parents ?
Q. Hello, Well, i am 19 years old, i am studying in college, but still living with my parents. The thing is i don't hang out with my friends: i still don't drive and we live far away from the city, and there's no public transport nearby. So whene...
A. 17 April 2017: Are you worried about the time you are actually WITH your family, or is it the fact that you feel you are missing out on social life with your friends? If the former, then I really would not give that a second thought and just enjoy yourself ... (read in full...)
Is it worth breaking up over this situation?
Q. Alright so this is kind of a confusing situation for me and I'm really in need of opinions/advice. I've been with my fiance for a little over 3 years. A couple months ago, I found out that he was talking to another woman basically the same way...
A. 17 April 2017: Interesting that it didn't actually bother you that your fiance would scam women, just that he was sharing intimate texts with this woman. So if he had been scamming her but not sending her the intimate texts, you would have been ok with marrying a ... (read in full...)
Ho do I deal with her speaking FOR my Dad all the time?
Q. Dad's girlfriend is always speaking FOR my dad. She comes off very possessive but in an enthusiastic way. Constantly bragging about how she is with my dad. I didn't think much of it at first but overtime I have seen more signs of her narcissistic ...
A. 17 April 2017: You dad is an adult and (we assume) of sound mind. What does HE think of all this? Is he happy for her to do all the work and make all the plans on his behalf? Some people are happy to just sit back while others sort out their lives for them. It is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's casual sexual encounters are bothering me
Q. My gfs sexual past has been bothering me more and more recently. When we first started going out she was my first, I have no sexual experience with any other women whatsoever. So when I found out she'd slept with 8 other men, including one night ...
A. 16 April 2017: She was free and single at the time she had these encounters. It was not like she was cheating on you. It was her body to share with who she pleased.
On the plus side, she has hopefully got these wild encounters out of her system and apprecia... (read in full...)
I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 16 April 2017: While I understand you wanting to keep your children away from him until you were more sure of the relationship, not even admitting to them was (in my opinion) out of order. It was a LIE. Your children are part and parcel of any relationships you ... (read in full...)
Is it all in my head or do I have something to be worried about?
Q. So to be completely honest I'm 16 and I'm worried my boyfriend came in me about 3-4 weeks ago.. it's really been messing with me.. I took the morning after pill as soon as I could which was the third day but a little bit after 72 hours. I asked him ...
A. 15 April 2017: Nobody can tell you whether you are pregnant. You need to go and have a pregnancy test AS SOON AS POSSIBLE so you know for sure.
What I CAN tell you, however, is that the morning after pill is NOT a form of contraception but an emergency measure ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of my fiance?
Q. my fiance in the past has been drugged while at a club, drives 1.5 hrs from clubs after drinking.. all i ask when out on girls night out or on our dates is that i get texte,called or snapchatted to know she is home safe . i get: i fell asleep,phone ...
A. 15 April 2017: Your fiancee may be trustworthy but she is thoroughly irresponsible and inconsiderate. What would happen if she was in a driving accident after drinking? Whether it was her fault or not, she would be in trouble. What if she killed someone while ... (read in full...)
I believe I am the one for him. Is his staring at me significant? He likes this other girl who doesn't like him back.
Q. In school I really like this boy who is my best friend's ex. He always stares at me and told my friend I was pretty but he likes this other girl who doesn't like him back. I really want to talk to him and make him realize that I am the one for him....
A. 15 April 2017: Are you the same girl who posted recently, with the same question, but put your age as 13-15?
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Husband comes home drunk with his underwear inside out and stained. Is he cheating?
Q. Yesterday my husband came late from work again. This time it was far worst than the last time ... He works at a restaurant , he is a waiter. Three weeks ago he came home 6 hours later after leaving the workplace, He doesn't use a cellphone since he ...
A. 15 April 2017: Are you the same lady who already posted on here a few weeks back, asking a similar question about cheating? Surely there can't be TWO women who post on here, who freely admit to sniffing their husband's dick to check if he has been cheating.
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Should I message him just one more time?
Q. I went on a date with a guy who i really fancy ( i had already met him before so not a stranger ) He also said i was better than he thought . I left him a message on the dating site we are on saying if he wants to meet up again to contact me, ...
A. 15 April 2017: You left him a message but he didn't respond. Presumably he could work out how to contact you if he really wanted to. The guy is simply not interested but doesn't have the manners to say so. He is therefore, in my book, not a very nice person and ... (read in full...)
How do guys cope with knowing their Gf's ex was well endowed? Do girls miss it and just settle ?
Q. Hello all, I have always struggled with intimate things as I would be worried about if my partner had been with very well endowed men. I know that statistically most guys will have to deal with that. But how do they? It always seems like...
A. 15 April 2017: It always amazes me how many men fixate on this one small (no pun intended) part of their body, instead of things that matter like kindness, personality, generosity, humour, etc.
Yes, I am sure there are a few women out there who actually... (read in full...)
I have my ex husband's last name. My current boyfriend wants me to change back to my maiden name. Should I?
Q. My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband. It is just easier as my child's last name would be the same as mine. My boyfriend said it does not matter if my child's last name is different from his mother. I ...
A. 15 April 2017: Do YOU want to change your name? I am guessing not, otherwise you would already have done so. My sister in law went through a bad break-up with her ex husband but chose to keep his surname as she had had that name longer than her maiden name and it ... (read in full...)
Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?
Q. I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...
A. 14 April 2017: "I just can't take any more" you say, but you are STILL there.
Regardless of what others say or advise, you will stay until YOU are ready to leave. I am not surprised his family don't want to get involved. It is not necessarily because - as you b... (read in full...)
The father of my children is unwell. What strategies might help me cope with his behaviour, actions and his stalking?
Q. Relationship stArted 7-8 years ago sent peaches and cream but the first couple months were beautiful. I met him at a time of my life i was hurting and separated from my husband. Anyway I been recalling thinking heavy on our relationship. We...
A. 14 April 2017: Why indeed? I was horrified reading your post. WHY are you still allowing this man to stay in your life?
If not for your own safety, then for that of your children, CUT ALL CONTACT AND STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Given his erratic behaviour, I would NE... (read in full...)
Am I selfish and bad to be feeling so disappointed that he reneged on his original decision to aim to propose to me soon?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a while, and a few months back he told me when he'd hope to propose. I was getting very excited. That time-frame hasn't happened yet, however now he is saying he simply cannot afford the ring...
A. 14 April 2017: I think your disappointment comes from having been led to believe this would happen at a certain time, which you were understandably looking forward to, to then having the rug whipped from under your feet and the goal posts moved. Like you, I would ... (read in full...)
Why is it a sought after fantasy, that satisfies so many men, to want to watch women hurt and degraded during a porn film?
Q. With the proliferation and popularity these days of extreme hardcore porn much of which depicts violence towards women , do men still see women as worthwhile individuals or are we just sexual objects for their gratification? Although I understand p...
A. 14 April 2017: I can only liken this to men who constantly watch violent movies; most of them actually deplore violence and cruelty in real life.
Sadly I can make no suggestions on the way their brains work as, personally, I HATE violence of any sort and find... (read in full...)
My husband and his co-worker have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. Let me start from the beginning if I may. About 2 weeks ago my husband said one of his supervisors at the factory where he works 3rd shift came up to him while he was loading a truck and harassed him about being too close to a girl who has a bad re...
A. 13 April 2017: What is this "90 days" shit? YOU do NOT have to take any notice of this rubbish.
Sweetheart, TAKE BACK CONTROL of this situation. It is your ONLY chance of salvaging your marriage. I am not saying it will necessarily work - I suspect you may have... (read in full...)
My unidentified online friend has reappeared on line. It is him. Should I reveal who I am to him?
Q. Hi I have a difficult situation. A year ago I met a guy online. All was good but then he stopped texting. Last month we matched on a different website. Neither of us have a photo up. From what he has told me I know this guy is the one who I m...
A. 13 April 2017: Why are you playing games (that goes for both of you)?
Are you on these websites to meet potential partners? If so, stop messing about and be up front. Hiding your identity will not get you anywhere.
In your shoes I would simply say "Heh,... (read in full...)
Large wedding or an intimate wedding that we can afford? How can this be resolved?
Q. “Dan” and I are both 27, living together, and recently engaged and married. We plan to have our wedding in 10 months time however have different approaches on costs and guest list, so we are brainstorming having two celebrations. I prefer an in...
A. 13 April 2017: Wow! 40K for a second wedding! Just wow! I could think of so many better things to put that money towards, especially for a couple who are just setting out in life, just as you can.
I suspect part of the reason this second ceremony is so importan... (read in full...)
How do I play it on our third date?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice.. I met a girl on a dating site about 3 weeks ago or so, (she's 32 and I'm 36), after messaging abit, we exchanged numbers, spoke on the phone and arranged a coffee date. That went well and a week later, we went on a ...
A. 12 April 2017: If you want to do something which you are not sure she is ready for, ASK her, then be prepared to accept "no" as an answer and leave it on the back burner for another time.
If you want to put your arm around her and it doesn't come naturall... (read in full...)
Why am I thinking about someone else who is not my husband, why I feel irrational and risky?
Q. I'm 30 year old, married and I have 2 beautiful children. I've married my husband 5 years ago, I always loved him but never really fell in love with him (movie style) I actually didn't think those feelings truly exist and love is how you treat pe...
A. 12 April 2017: Have you ever connected with your husband? I mean REALLY connected? Where do you look when you are having sex? Do you close your eyes? Or choose positions which mean you don't have to look at him? Or even avoid sex altogether?
Try having sex with... (read in full...)
How late is too late to start dating in the modern world?
Q. How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, and so on and so on. This could all be due to many combination of reasons: ...
A. 12 April 2017: You have a long way to go to your "best before" date yet!
I really can't add much to what has already been said because it is spot on, but just wanted to say this: dip your toe in the water, take things at the pace YOU are comfortable with and... (read in full...)
I don't really feel like a part of my boyfriend's family and I know his sister dislikes me immensely. How can I try to become friends with her?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years and I don't really feel like a part of his family. He isn't an only child and his parents work pretty much full time to support quite a large family, which I fully understand. Whenever I have spo...
A. 12 April 2017: My first thought was, why do you actually WANT to be friends with this girl. You are dating her brother, not her.
If you come from a close family, I can fully understand you feeling left out of his family, but all families operate in differen... (read in full...)
Dating tips sought, please? Any tips on forgetting about the ex? How to chat up a girl?
Q. Hi guys, I'm having a real hard time at the moment trying to get back out into the world of dating. I've recently finally ended a VERY on/off relationship and I'm trying to put myself back out there to get over it as soon as possible. The...
A. 12 April 2017: I suspect the mistake you are making is viewing all girls you approach as potential girlfriends rather than as just "people"/potential friends. You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Not many guys can walk up to a woman and immediately have ... (read in full...)
A women with a boyfriend/kids is texting my boyfriend and he texts back. I'm not happy about this!
Q. I am not sure whether to stay with my boyfriend. We have been together for two months. We had some arguments and i said that i didnt want to see him anymore. I only said that because i was angry that he eas being horrible to me. I told him that i ...
A. 11 April 2017: What the hell are you doing with this guy? Two months into a relationship you are already arguing and yelling at each other and you have lost trust in him. Do you honestly think things are going to improve? I can promise you, they are not.
You s... (read in full...)
What do women look for in a man for a boyfriend?
Q. What do women really look for in a man for a boyfriend?...
A. 11 April 2017: Everyone (male or female) has difference "deal breakers". Some superficial people insist on superficial things like flashy cars and lots of money. Sadly, if something happens and you can no longer provide the flashy cars and money, the superficial ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend slept with married woman before we dated
Q. I found out through old messages that my bf slept with a married woman before. It bothers me because I believe marriage is sacred. Also I never would have thought that my bf would do something like that. But in the messages he told his friend that ...
A. 10 April 2017: If you were snooping, then you have only yourself to blame for the worry and unrest you have caused yourself.
Did he REALLY have an affair with this woman, or was he just bragging to his friend? You have no way of knowing without asking him. Eve... (read in full...)
Is it time to end this relationship? 2
Q. Hi hope someone can help. I've been with my fiance for over 3 years now lately my feelings for him have changed due to him almost cheating on me. He went to the pub with his mates and I was meeting him later in the same pub. I walked in and caught...
A. 10 April 2017: Do you think he is just looking? If so then, in my view, it is ok for him to build up his appetite elsewhere as long as he eats at home. It's not really fair to stop him looking when he sees something (someone) he likes. And counting how many times ... (read in full...)
Does my brother's friend likes me? 2
Q. That day,my brother was messaging to his friend. Suddenly he said playfully that he wants me and his friend to date.Its very rare for my brother to say such thing.Did his friend said anything about me?Once,I gifted shoes for my brother and his frie...
A. 9 April 2017: Here's a thought: as your brother talks about him in such terms, is it possible he and your brother have something going on between them? Just thinking aloud as men don't usually talk about their friends in such terms unless they are personally ... (read in full...)
I want to confront this guy. Should I do this? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie?
Q. I have been with my wife approaching 14 years now and married for three. Four years ago my wife confessed to me that she had kissed another man that delivers to her work. She said she felt terrible about it immediately after, she quit her job and...
A. 9 April 2017: The line that stands out for me from your post is "I know my wife would be mortified if I did these things".
Are you going to let this man carry on damaging your relationship? If you confront him and your wife finds out, which she is likely t... (read in full...)
I grew up with lots of sisters but I'm still nervous around girls
Q. I grew up with 4 sisters, two older by a few years, and twin younger sisters a year younger than me. All my sisters are very pretty and get lots of attention from guys. However, I've always been very introverted, and socially awkward, and hav...
A. 9 April 2017: You are judging your whole life on the basis of whether you can get a date. That is rather limiting as you must have other things going on in your life.
Many men find it hard to approach women in social situations. Do you have interests or hobbi... (read in full...)
I thought everything was OK. But ? I didn't do anything wrong, did I?
Q. I've recently moved house after breaking up with my ex boyfriend. I thought it was perfect, lovely little house well within my means and close to the town centre of where I live. I moved in and found that I was living next to a recently div...
A. 9 April 2017: You got involved with an immature kn0b who now thinks it is acceptable to rub his sex life in your face and have his latest squeeze mutter stuff about you.
The line that speaks volumes to me is "he avoided me every since I stopped wanting to sleep... (read in full...)
Why show the picture, to show me she looked like that porn star?
Q. Why would my guy show me a picture of a porn star and say, "before I knew you, a woman who looked exactly like this asked me out" ? Is he trying to make me feel insecure or point out that, "hey look I can get a woman sexier than you" ? What's hi...
A. 9 April 2017: Oh bless him. The poor child is so insecure he has to show you pictures of a porn star and say a woman who looked like that (not even the woman in the photo) asked him out? I hope you made the right noises in response and patted him on the head and ... (read in full...)
I know our arrangement isn't right for me in the long run. Should I break things off even though we've made plans together?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months and its has gotten quite serious saying he loves me etc. He is 20 years older than me and married. We were talking for a while before hand and being flirtatious and we've had a couple of nights alone. He ...
A. 9 April 2017: Let me spell this out: HE IS MARRIED. You have NO FUTURE with him - whether you want one or not - unless he gets divorced. That is, of course, unless your idea of a future is sharing a man that you are not even really into with his poor unsuspecting ... (read in full...)
Can intercourse make a woman tighter?
Q. Ok my wife is usually is avrage tigjt like not too tight but no loose. We has sex this morning and she was tight. She has cheated in the past amd she a lier for sure. If u have sex with someone can it cause ur vigina to be tighter ...
A. 9 April 2017: Ha ha, absolutely not!
Most likely cause for the "tightness" you describe would be that she was not ready for intercourse, in other words that you did not bother with enough foreplay, otherwise she would have been ready for what you were putting ... (read in full...)
How to love my husband like I used to?
Q. I'm 22 married and I need help. I recently had our first baby 5 weeks ago. Me and my husband were always best Friends never fought that much and always cared about each others feelings . Lately with tour new baby we are tired and can be snappy at ...
A. 8 April 2017: Reading your post, I do wonder if this is in no small amount down to your baby. "Easy" as she is, the arrival of a child - particularly a first child - turns the parents' world upside down, particularly the mother's. You had to cope with not only ... (read in full...)
He says his HIV is undetectable and he's on medication. Is it ok to sleep with him?
Q. So I've met this guy who is HIV undetectable and he says it's safe to have unprotected sex cause the hiv is not transmitable cause of medication. I don't really know much about undetectable HIV can I get some info...
A. 8 April 2017: All sounds a bit iffy to me, especially as you hardly know him and, quite obviously, don't trust him (otherwise you would not be asking this question).
We have gut instincts for a very good reason: to protect us. If your gut instinct is telling ... (read in full...)
30 year age difference and she's starting to talk about having kids. I do not want to lose her but just can't go back to raising another family
Q. I am a single 54 year old man who has been dating a 24 year old woman now for the last 5 years. I was 49 and she was 19 when we met. It started as friends with benefits but now I am afraid she has gotten closer and started to say I love you. W...
A. 8 April 2017: There is no compromise in such a situation sadly; it's all or nothing. Despite your sex life being great, you both want such different things now. The things she wants most - a family - you have already had and don't want again, and that is perfect ... (read in full...)
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