Is my husband up to no good behind my back with another woman on Facebook?
Q. Hello. I might sound like another jealous, insecure and paranoid wife with social media related relationship issues but here goes... I am a late bloomer on Facebook. I just started about 6 months ago. My husband of 3 years has had Facebook for 7 y...
A. 17 June 2017: Sweetheart, you need to listen to him: "He said who cares if she is. He is not interested." Just because we have the means to do something, does not mean we will do it. I have the means to rob a bank or stab people, but it doesn't mean I am going to ... (read in full...)
14 months into the relationship, things aren't looking good, he is criticizing and we are arguing. What would you do?
Q. Help!!! I am sorry if this is a long post but I need some advice. where to start? ok, so about 14 months ago I met the man of my dreams. He is loving, caring and we have so much in common (or so I thought) we started off slow and then got into a ...
A. 16 June 2017: I think the fact that this relationship is so bad at such an early stage is a very good reason to cut ties NOW and walk away. If you had invested years in the relationship, had children together, supported each other through good times and bad, and ... (read in full...)
I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?
Q. Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...
A. 16 June 2017: The child, if you have one, will have TWO parents, not just a mother. Your husband cannot just absolve himself of all responsibility and put the burden of decision and care planning onto you.
As with all healthy relationships, you may need to ... (read in full...)
Who could this strange woman be who showed up asking questions about me?
Q. Can anyone help me make sense of this situation? I live in a house. I rent the downstairs portion. My landlord who owns the home told me that this morning a woman knocked on his door asking questions about me. I was not home at the time. She ...
A. 16 June 2017: Have you had any affairs? Could it be a wife/girlfriend trying to make trouble? Could it be a girlfriend of an ex trying to make trouble?
All sounds very iffy. If they were there on official business, they would have identified themselv... (read in full...)
Recently diagnosed with HSV-1 and HSV-2, he tested himself and results were negative??
Q. So I have a few concerns about my current situation. To begin, I was having low back pain for about 5 months and I finally decided to go to the doctor to try to get it checked and maybe some relief medication. While I was there my PCP also did ...
A. 16 June 2017: YES! LEAVE! NOW!
I cannot believe you are even asking the question!
He does not even have the balls to break up with you so, instead, like the coward he is, is just distancing himself and making you feel guilty for having an illness, so YOU ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over this love? Its been 2 years since we broke things off
Q. My heart is still broken after almost 2 years. We did continue to see one another until 8 months ago, off and on. He is much younger, 14 years, and from another country. We were together for 11 years. I felt l knew him immediately and have always ...
A. 16 June 2017: Sending hugs. Some relationships are more difficult to get over than others.
HE has moved on and YOU haven't. I think, if you are able (because I do not underestimate the pull of this man for you), you need to cut ALL contact with him. Having h... (read in full...)
How do I tell a good friend that I don't like him romantically?
Q. So..I have a guyfriend whom I've known for over 5 years. He once told me in the past he liked me but I didnt feel the same way. I never did. He texted he likes me and wants a response. How should I say I don't like him romantically. He's a good ...
A. 16 June 2017: Tell him you see him more as a big/little brother (depending on his age). As such, while you are very fond of him and want him in your life, you do not - and will not - see him in a romantic light.
I can understand you not wanting to lose a g... (read in full...)
Worried he will drop me if I don't go further
Q. I am 14 and i have been in this relationship with this boy we have been dating for 3 months and i really like him. The thing is normally we would shift and kiss and all that but he said that he wants to top me this means to take off my shirt and ...
A. 15 June 2017: Trust your own instincts and, if it doesn't feel like something YOU want to do, then it is OK to say no.
You are perfectly within your rights to say to him "I am only 14. I do not feel comfortable doing this yet."
If he drops you, then he is ... (read in full...)
My partner is making me feel bad for not letting him live with me permanently. What should I do?
Q. When I first met my partner, I explained in the first 3 months my views about living together before engagement. I explained that I have lived with an ex in the past and it didn't work, so therefore I want to wait until engagement before living ...
A. 15 June 2017: Question: why do you want to become engaged (and ultimately married) to a man who is manipulative and does not respect your views?
You have explained why you do not want him to live with you. (I find the reason a bit odd but it is YOUR reason a... (read in full...)
I'd like to be there for my friend but I don'f feel comfortable with everyone assuming I'm the one to go to
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I'll try and keep this short and clear, or at least clear :) -this is a friendship question. Two years ago a new colleague came to the firm. She seemed positive, hardworking and nice. Since we live in the same neighb...
A. 15 June 2017: Tricky situation and one I can totally empathize with (although, fortunately for me, not at quite as intense a level as with your friend).
You may not be an "old" friend but, by the sound of it, you are her "oldest" friend as she does not seem... (read in full...)
How do I cope with a break up that I know in the end was for the best?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me the other day and I honestly feel like I won't ever get over him. I still love him so much. It scares me to think that I may never find someone who I love that much again. Although I miss him, I ...
A. 15 June 2017: You get over it one day at a time. Don't think into the future too far as that is too scary. Every day, when you get up, promise yourself that, just for TODAY, you will try to have a good day, doing things which will distract you from thinking about ... (read in full...)
Do I stand my ground or make up with my mother?
Q. Hi folks. I'm in a bit of a predicament at the moment. I have my child's christening coming up this week and haven't invited my mother. Now I know that sounds awful but here's why (sorry for the essay) Basically all our lives my mum...
A. 14 June 2017: It's true what they say about us not being able to choose our families. Sending you hugs.
Your first priority is to your child/children. You know your mother will only cause you stress and who knows what possible mental harm to your children... (read in full...)
Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?
Q. my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...
A. 14 June 2017: I find it amazing that you think you are close enough to this guy to have sex but not close enough to discuss contraception and why he did what he did.
Are you on any other form of birth control? If not, why not?
Do you insist on having... (read in full...)
We meet just once a month for sex. This isn't a healthy relationship, right? Should I let him go?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 9 months and he works full time. I only see him once a month and when I do see him it's only for sex. I understand that he has a crazy work schedule but once a month? We've had problems before because he was ...
A. 14 June 2017: Heh, here's an idea. Instead of waiting for someone (anyone?) to "commit" to you, why don't you find someone who is worthy of YOUR commitment? Someone who will treat you well and make time for you in their life? Who will take you out and show you ... (read in full...)
My partner is falling for his ex and although I know I should end things I love him!
Q. I've been in my relationship now for almost 6 years and engaged for 2 of those years. (No date for marriage due to both of us being at risk of redundancy) and over 5 years ago we had a problem with my partners work colleague. To give a little ba...
A. 13 June 2017: She is the worst type of woman but he just cannot see it. She only wants him so she can prove to her friends she can get him. Once she has him hooked, and his relationship with you is history, she will dump him. And, by the sound of it, it will ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, she's 16. I'd like to hear people's thoughts
Q. I am 20 years old and a girl that I like a lot is 16. We met each other and started talking after het parents gave my number to her. The really like me and we get along quite well. The only thing that is scary to me is the age difference, and I ...
A. 13 June 2017: At this point in your lives the age difference may appear considerable but, 5 or 10 years down the line, it won't seem of any significance at all.
Bear in mind however, her feelings can change drastically over the next few years. She is growing ... (read in full...)
Despite what he says I feel I'm not good enough for him. Should I feel this way?
Q. hi everyone, i have recently got into a new relationship with a really nice man and he pays me a lot of nice compliments telling me i am beautiful, intelligent etc. except i don't feel that i am and i feel insecure about things. the thing is i am 43 ...
A. 12 June 2017: You make it sound like bringing up a child single handed and running a cleaning business is a walk in the park and, in some way, inferior to his management job. I would rather do his job for a month than yours for a week, I can tell you.
Think... (read in full...)
Struggling with intense feelings for a married colleague
Q. I'm married with one child and I'm infatuated with a male colleague that's also married. Although we work together in the same team, we aren't in the same city so don't have to see each other every day but we do tend to have some form of daily ...
A. 12 June 2017: Being married does not make you blind to the attraction of others. HOWEVER, it does mean that, morally at least, you should not act on that attraction - which is what you have done. You have done nothing wrong so far (except maybe the flirting - you ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to settle for this man?
Q. I am dating this guy he is a friend who has loved me for years. I love him as a person but am not sexually attracted to him. I have a list of reasons for staying and a list for leaving I want people's opinions: staying: He really likes me a...
A. 12 June 2017: I am a firm believer that people settle down with the person who is around when they are READY to settle down, and this man is here at that time in your life.
No relationship comes with guarantees and you never know what is round the corner. ... (read in full...)
He says he wants to be friends but to be patient. Is he playing games with me?
Q. When I was 22, I was in a very serious relationship. After his father died, he broke up with me. We didnt speak for a number of years. We both married other people, and had children. We found each other again, I was divorced, he was happily married, ...
A. 12 June 2017: I would be patient but ALSO exercise caution. He has not long lost his wife of many years. It is not uncommon for people who have lost partners to feel great guilt when moving on, like they are cheating on them. And it is good that he is sensitive ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to gain the attention of this gorgeous Turkish girl when I return to Turkey for another vacation?
Q. Hi people I'm a college student from France. So I want to share my story with you all and hopefully find a solution. A couple friends and I went on vacation to Turkey 2 weeks ago, and I met this gorgeous Turkish girl. I've never seen anything li...
A. 11 June 2017: I assume you have done the obvious thing and tried messaging her? Perhaps she is waiting for you to make the first move?
If you have already done that and she hasn't replied, you need to move on with your life. Don't put your life on hold for this... (read in full...)
He has Mommy issues 2. Should I move on? Or wait for him?
Q. I was with this guy for about a couple of months, we met on a dating site..he has Mommy issues, he is in his 30s amd his mom lives with him but they constantly fight she belittles him and he just takes iy because she has no where else to go.. He end...
A. 11 June 2017: There are plenty of guys out there every bit as "nice" as him but without the baggage and who will be HONEST with you.
YOU ARE WORTH BETTER.
Take a deep breath, delete him and block him on EVERYTHING, and move on. He is in your past now. L... (read in full...)
Male FWB wants me to finger him and I don't want this. Am I being over sensitive?
Q. I just got into a casual fling type relationship with a guy at uni, he's in his final year and leaving this summer so its only for a few months. We haven't had sex yet but have been making out etc. When we were making out last night with undies ...
A. 10 June 2017: There are things some people enjoy and there are things some people don't enjoy. Just because others feel comfortable with it does not mean YOU have to do it if it is not something you feel comfortable with.
Tell him this is a turn OFF for you ... (read in full...)
Why can't my wife understand my need to cross-dress? Why is she so upset that I wore her clothes?
Q. My wife knows I am a crossdresser so why was she so angry at me when I came home the other night. I was completely dressed, with a full make over, my eyebrows plucked super thin with a high arch in them and my ears pierced. She said she knows t...
A. 10 June 2017: I cannot quite make up my mind whether this is a wind up or not, but let's assume it is genuine.
Having experience of someone who did exactly the same thing (also late in life, like you), I can tell you your wife (and family, if you have any chil... (read in full...)
My husband has me earn lovers by performing painful or degrading acts with him
Q. Hi I'm a bit lost and in need of help. I have been married for 20 years to a man I have always loved. He has always had strange sexual practices and I have always played along, I have always looked up to him and always felt that he was better t...
A. 9 June 2017: GET OUT! NOW!
It is NOT your fault!
How long will you allow this man to hurt and degrade you for his own pleasure? He does not love you. He USES you for his own ends because he knows you love him enough to allow yourself to be used in this way... (read in full...)
Should I be worried? He's 18 years older than me, separated and with kids.
Q. So I have been seeing this amazing guy for a few months now and I'm head over heels for him. He is the same towards me. The only thing that worries me is he is 18 years older than me and is separated with kids... Advice please?...
A. 8 June 2017: It COULD work. The age gap need not be a problem.
HOWEVER, you need to remember he comes as a job lot with his kids. He will always be their father, regardless of what happened between him and their mother. He will also always have a connecti... (read in full...)
The 60 year old professor doesn't know me. Advice, please? Should I tell him my feelings for him?
Q. hello guys, I have a crush on my professor, he is 60 years old, it been more than 2 years, I don't know what to do. I'm always thinking of him. He is so smart and handsome, I like his personality and smile. I feel I need to know him,and talk...
A. 8 June 2017: I think "telling him your feelings" would probably be a bit over the top and scary for him. After all, you don't really know anything about him and he certainly knows nothing about you.
There is nothing to stop you speaking to him and thanking... (read in full...)
My husband and I are struggling to move on. Any suggestions on how we can resolve this?
Q. Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...
A. 7 June 2017: But YOU have won! Not her! She didn't get what she wanted - your husband. He CHOSE to stay with you because he loves YOU. Despite putting in so much effort, SHE lost.
I can understand your anger at her because I feel it just reading your post. Sh... (read in full...)
My FWB wants me to stay the night while his GF is away. Does my FWB expect something different? Or the same?
Q. So I've been seeing a FWB guy since we were both 17ish. Its been nearly 10 years and its a continuing thing, never stopped for either of us. But we have both in and out of relationships and we still do it on the DL. Just wondering i guess if...
A. 7 June 2017: You two need to decide what you are doing with your lives, especially as regards your FWB relationship.
10 years is an awfully long time to spend having a FWB relationship with the same guy. Either you two want to be an item or you don't. If the f... (read in full...)
How do I tell my BF? I kissed one of my close friends while having a loving boyfriend.
Q. Last weekend I got very drunk with a group of my friends at a club and ended up kissing one of my close guy friends. I have known his forever and honestly, have had a thing for him in the past that has lasted a long time. But, right now I am w...
A. 7 June 2017: DON'T DO IT!
It is never a good idea to try to make yourself feel beter by unloading your guilt. You will just hurt your boyfriend and make him worry about trusting you.
Learn your lesson and don't drink so much in the future.
If anything ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get upset with my boyfriend when he doesn't text me in the morning? He used to text me constantly.
Q. Is it wrong that I get upset with my boyfriend when he doesnt text me in the morning? We've been together for nine months and he used to constantly text me, always send good morning and goodnight texts. We haven't been texting as much for the last...
A. 7 June 2017: Sweetheart, you are selling yourself far too cheap. This guy has it all his own way with you making all the effort and him doing nothing in return.
Drop his sorry backside and find yourself someone who will prioritize your happiness over watching... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to handle this, please? My life is turning into a sitcom
Q. I'm sure a lot of you will probably think I'm being silly. I've tried talking to myself about this, and I've realized that I'm not mad/jealous because I don't want him anymore, I'm just annoyed. I married my ex-husband A (he's 33) in 2013, we wer...
A. 6 June 2017: Regardless of the rights and wrongs of your sister hitting on your ex, why is either of them spending so much time at YOUR house? It is YOUR house and you have a right to feel comfortable in it.
It is bad form that your sister is hitting on your ... (read in full...)
Advice please? I'm 17, doing my A levels, and I really want to have a baby.
Q. I'm only 17 but I am really wanting to have a baby. I've been with my amazing, supportive boyfriend for coming up to 2 years and he's everything to me. I'm currently having a really hard time at sixth form with my A levels, and have had to chan...
A. 6 June 2017: You have said it yourself: it would be the "wrong decision".
Don't panic about your A levels. Do you have supportive teachers you can talk to and get help? Don't worry about your future career. Things do work out. Sometimes not as we planned,... (read in full...)
Is my perfectionist boyfriend overly critical of my looks? Or am I oversensitive?
Q. My bf used to think my looks were perfect. But he seems to put me down lately. Like he doesn't like a birth mark on my nose. I can't control that. He tells me that my body is perfect for a woman my age but that I am not 20 anymore. He sa...
A. 6 June 2017: P.S. Meant to add, sounds to me like the one with the insecurity problem is YOU, not him. I think he is just trying to get you to lighten up. ... (read in full...)
Is my perfectionist boyfriend overly critical of my looks? Or am I oversensitive?
Q. My bf used to think my looks were perfect. But he seems to put me down lately. Like he doesn't like a birth mark on my nose. I can't control that. He tells me that my body is perfect for a woman my age but that I am not 20 anymore. He sa...
A. 6 June 2017: Sweetheart, without sounding harsh, you need to grow up and stop fixating on your "perfect" body. There is more to life, more to relationships, more to being happy.
You are so fixated on how you look that you are hurt if your boyfriend rates yo... (read in full...)
Would you stay with a guy who doesn't think you are a "vital" part of his life???
Q. Would you be with a guy who knows he is a vital part of your life but he tells you that you are NOT a vital part of his???...
A. 5 June 2017: Assuming this guy is of a similar age to you, I would be trying to emulate his thinking rather than dumping him.
At such an early age, your life should be about exploring and discovering life. You will change a lot over the next few years. Y... (read in full...)
I don't think he wants a divorce but he wants his freedom
Q. My husband left me for another women but came back. He was with her for 18 months. I was devastated and profoundly affected. Our marriage wasn't perfect but we had been together for 22 years. We both had a hand in it but I never would hav betrayed ...
A. 5 June 2017: As I see it, you have two choices here: carry on like this in this weird relationship, where you have absolutely no idea what is REALLY happening, or cut your losses and find someone who loves you TOTALLY and who makes you happy and comfortable.
... (read in full...)
Why would a man of his age want to have an affair with a much younger woman?
Q. I am married and now having an affair with a man who told me he 70, but I did abackground check and hes 82!! My guess is he did not want to reveal his real age because I would have said no way. I really like him. I just think it's strange that a ...
A. 4 June 2017: Is he still able to function sexually? If so, why would he be bothered HOW much younger you are, as long as you are willing to put out?
I do wonder what someone YOUR age is doing having an affair with someone nearly TWICE your age? Why don't yo... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the negativity of ''friends'' judging our relationship? My Bf and I are happy. But the comments of others are hurtful.
Q. Hey, Now have been with the most amazing man for about 3 and a half years now and I couldn't been more happier. To us there is no issue whatsoever as we are still in love even though we're way past the honeymoon stage lol. I have plenty of fr...
A. 4 June 2017: You call these people "friends". True friends don't make hurtful remarks to you or about you. They support you in the choices you make, especially if they see you are happy.
If your boyfriend treats you well and makes you happy, they have no right... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 5 years. Why does he need so much attention from other women?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. Throughout the relationship I have caught him engaging in online flirtation. He signs up for dating sites to chat with women, and he uses Facebook to chat with multiple women (sometimes the ...
A. 4 June 2017: Nobody can tell you WHY your boyfriend chooses to behave in this way. What I CAN tell you, however, is that this "addiction" is stronger than his regard for your feelings.
Whether he cheats physically or not, the fact he is constantly chatting... (read in full...)
What advice can you offer for brides living in same home as their inlaws?
Q. My husband to be is a very simple minded guy. He hates critics, conflicts,and complaints. He tries to keep the peace by keep his patience( which i appreciate highly) or sometimes avoiding from it. We are going to marry in several months and we ar...
A. 3 June 2017: I do feel for you. It cannot be easy, having to live with your in-laws, especially when you don't get on with the mother. HOWEVER, it will not be forever and your dad, in my opinion, has already given you the best advice: practice patience and try ... (read in full...)
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