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writes:Hi people I'm a college student from France. So I want to share my story with you all and hopefully find a solution. A couple friends and I went on vacation to Turkey 2 weeks ago, and I met this gorgeous Turkish girl. I've never seen anything like that in my whole life, she was full of positive energy, her smile was to die for, she was really warm and such a friendly girl. Got that huge brown eyes she's breathtakingly beautiful. She was a perfect mixture of Middle Eastern and European beauty. Not the mention she was hot as. Anyway so I approached we had a great conversation, we exchanged numbers but she never messaged me. Now I'm back in the France and don't know what to do. I can't get her out of my head. I plan on another vacation to Turkey this summer hoping I can meet up with her. I don't know how to attract her does anyone ever dated a Turkish girl? If so please help!Thanks in advance.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 June 2017):
 If you have sent her messages and she has not replied then she is simply not interested. Sorry dude but don't waste your money going over there, you may possibly scare her.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (13 June 2017):
 What you need to remember is that charm only works if the person is interested. Unfortunately, she doesn't seem interested and I think you shouldn't plan another trip to Turkey if your main aim is to see her again.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 June 2017):
 Not to rain on your parade, but , if you have already tried to send her textS, plural, and she never answers, maybe she is not overly interested, and SHE is the one who wants to keep it at a cute little holiday conversation !
Turkish girls ,I suppose, whether they are westernized or not, Muslim or not, won't be different from any other girl in the world ,insofar they are entitled to have their own preferences , wants and needs, likes and dislikes, in term of men. The fact that she does not have a boyfriend, does not mean that she'd want you as her boyfriend. Maybe she already has someone else in mind, or maybe your are not her type. But , tbh, I think that if she had had a glimmer of enthusiasm, seen that you ARE keen, and that you tried repeatedly to contact her, she would have jumped at the chance and would have answered. Mistrust toward Europeans might even be a factor, perhaps- but I think that if she had been curious / interested she would have taken this chance to find out safely, from a distance, what you are all about .
Or, speaking about distance, maybe she does not do long dustance and sees , understandably , the attempt of dating you as a big waste of time. You are not thinking of moving to Turkey, right ? And maybe, as strange as that may sound to our European superiority complex:)- maybe she does not want to live in France, she is happy where she is, and wants someone from her same background.
If you want to give it a couple more tries, in the very off chance that the problem IS actually that she needs to be reassured about the seriousness of your intentions, I won't try and stop you:), after all, what's a couple more texts. But if she does not answer, and does not answer positively and with enthusiasm, not just politely, please do not plan another trip there : it would be a big waste of time and money, and, if, once there, you tried to contact her in person, without her having expressely invited you to do so, you'd just come off as a creepy stalker.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (12 June 2017):
Before you go about charming her, how would you make the long distance work?How often would you see each other? How would you trial living together before one moves country?Would you move to Turkey permanently in the next 3 years?How would you deal with being apart all the time?You must ask yourself these things before considering entering a long distance relationship and you must ask her if she'd ever be in an international one before you try to get her to develop feelings for you, otherwise it's not fair to charm her into a relationship that isn't likely to go anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2017): Umm have you messaged her? Did she respond? If so, did she seem interested?
If you haven't even gotten anything going on, then going back to Turkey in hopes of getting her attention is just plain silly. You probably won't be able to get into contact when her when you get there. Grow up! Move on. You're not 16.
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reader, judgedick +, writes (11 June 2017):
 maybe it is the old romantic in me and i gave 5 years after the girl and in the end wone her over , and it was wroth every bit of it , i think you know what to do and I agree it does look that she is worth the try , and french men have a rep in the romance deparment , by the way your English is very good ,
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's deffinetly not the stereotype of a Turkish person. She's westernized, her English was honestly way better than mine and she told me her parents were doctors in town so I assume they're educated and modern aswell. She isn't practising her religion she had that thight dress, was drinking in Ramadan and already were living in her apartment without her parents so I don't think she cares all of that. I know in fact she doesn't have a boyfriend however she told me she has a bad past with European men,(plus she introduced her past foreign boyfriends to her family, I've seen in a picture so I don't think I need to worry about relationship rules in Turkey or whatever.) she told me she has trust issues to men That's why I think she doesn't really answer my texts and probably also thinking it was a cute little conversation and now I'm gone and not interested any more than that. So I'll try to show her that I'm kinda man that she can trust and built a relationship with. I think she's worth trying for.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (11 June 2017):
 I assume you have done the obvious thing and tried messaging her? Perhaps she is waiting for you to make the first move?
If you have already done that and she hasn't replied, you need to move on with your life. Don't put your life on hold for this girl who may not even be interested in you. (Do you even know she does not already have a boyfriend?)
Go out, meet new people, have fun.
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reader, judgedick +, writes (11 June 2017):
I think your going no where with it , she has not responded to your message , she most likly thinks your just intrested in a holiday romance , so you have to think about many things like as if your a mind reader as you don't know if she would ever come to live in France , or if she is a home girl that puts a lot of importance in being close to family, are you open to going to live in her part of the world , she might be a different religion that might be more important to her than it is to you , as you get Turkish people that are open to europe and you get the ones that are not, when you get all this right in your head you can then see if you still wish to romance this girl, then you only line of atack open to you is sms , you have had chatted so she understands what you send her , you can try to knock her off her feet with your charm and honesty , show her you want to try build something together
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 June 2017):
Um, what do you hope will come of this?
How would you date with the 1,400 miles between you?
Research the Turkish culture and dating rules.
Don't go to Turkey just to see her because you could flop it and it's a waste of your money.
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