What advice can you offer for brides living in same home as their inlaws?
Q. My husband to be is a very simple minded guy. He hates critics, conflicts,and complaints. He tries to keep the peace by keep his patience( which i appreciate highly) or sometimes avoiding from it. We are going to marry in several months and we ar...
A. 3 June 2017: I do feel for you. It cannot be easy, having to live with your in-laws, especially when you don't get on with the mother. HOWEVER, it will not be forever and your dad, in my opinion, has already given you the best advice: practice patience and try ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend got blind drunk and cheated on me.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything has literally been perfect, he's treated me so well tells me he loves me every single day and how much I mean to him and that he's completely infatuated with me. However I foun...
A. 3 June 2017: I'm going to buck the trend here and tell you (from personal experience) that it IS entirely possible to get so drunk you honestly cannot remember what happened.
I never believed this until it happened to me at a friend's birthday party. Everyone... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but why can't get this other guy out of my head? ?
Q. I just need some advice So I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and it's going great! It's the best relationship I've ever had. However there is this guy who I work with, and like we talked for ages and got really close as friends,...
A. 3 June 2017: You and the guy at work had different agendas. He wanted more than to be just friends. Sadly there is no compromise in this sort of situation. You have to make a decision: either you dump your boyfriend and go after the other guy, or you concentrate ... (read in full...)
Was he leading a double life with me and someone else?
Q. So me and my bf or Ex, have not been speaking some time ago due to a misunderstanding (I believe it was kind of my fault, I did not handle the situation well) also after him finishing his studies he was leaving back to his hometown which is in ...
A. 3 June 2017: Sweetheart, after 3 years, why are you even still bothered? If he had wanted to make contact with you, he would have a long time ago. Given that he hasn't done so, he obviously doesn't want to be with you. Whether this is due to a "misunderstanding" ... (read in full...)
What sacrifices do you make in a relationship? To what extent?
Q. Okay I'm not very "good" at relationships, they only usually work out for a few weeks, but currently I'm in a relationship and have been for 7 months now. I honestly couldn't be happier. I just want to know (from people who have had experien...
A. 3 June 2017: Let me ask YOU a question: how would YOU feel if your boyfriend had a lot of female friends, including his best friend, and he hung out a lot with them at his house? You need to have empathy for your boyfriend and realize he may feel jealous, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad
Q. We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...
A. 2 June 2017: In fairness she did warn you straight away. She hasn't changed. She explained why she would not move abroad.
If this is something you really want to do, then it will probably cost you your relationship - unless she decides to compromise and move... (read in full...)
Why is he not sharing anything about him?
Q. Why is he not sharing anything about him? Okay, this guy I met in tinder we matched. We exchange our phone number and he WhatsApp me. The thing is a rarely text me if I reply he will take too long reply (sometime 6 days long). When I ask he said ...
A. 2 June 2017: Why are you even asking these questions? The guy has made no effort to get to know you or to let you get to know him. You have been texting for a month with nothing moving forward. NOBODY is so busy they can't reply to a text for 6 days. He is just ... (read in full...)
Recently, my girlfriend starts to bleed everytime she orgasms. What could be wrong with her?
Q. Hello all, I've been with my girlfriend for around seven years. We are our firsts in pretty much everything. Love her to bits still. No fights, good sex life, nothing wrong really. However, something has occurred in our sex-life which I...
A. 2 June 2017: Your girlfriend needs to go to the doctor's to get checked out to rule out anything serious. The sooner the better. As far as I am aware, nobody on here is a qualified doctor. Even if they were, they do not know your girlfriend's medical history.
... (read in full...)
How can I control my moods and my tongue? At times I'm vicious with my tongue
Q. How do I control my moods and temper?.. My life has been anything but easy I had a compulsive liar for a mum and my dad never seemed to care .. I went on to have two children that were born with a life limiting conditions. ..my eldest son died ...
A. 2 June 2017: I am so sorry about your children. Sending hugs to you and your son. I do hope you have many years more to share with him.
Are you getting all the help and support you can with him so that you both enjoy life as much as possible? I know you say ... (read in full...)
Living together is making me broke
Q. My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...
A. 1 June 2017: Buy stuff YOU need on a day to day basis and refuse to fund anything SHE needs.
Or just skip this bit of the lesson and let her go.
YOU are not responsible for supporting her, especially as it is having such a detrimental effect on your f... (read in full...)
He asked my friend and now me. Is it OK?
Q. Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about ...
A. 1 June 2017: You have already asked this question and got responses. Were none of them what you wanted? Are you looking for a different response that matches with what you actually think?
If you have already asked and had responses, YOU need to make a decision... (read in full...)
Should I worry about the attention he gives her?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about two months now. Everything has been going great. He's affectionate, caring, etc. We've dated before a few years ago and it didn't work out. He had cheated on me with a very permiscuous chick who has a reputation for ...
A. 1 June 2017: If your gut feeling tells you something is wrong, then trust it.
Is it possible your boyfriend has some sort of past with this girl? Or is it possible, in his own inept way, he is trying to show his brother that this girl is not right for him?... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend?
Q. My best friend started dating a girl from our college. But I've had 3some with that girl before. Should I tell him this?...
A. 1 June 2017: We all make mistakes, especially when we are young. I am sure this girl does not want reminding of her slightly wild past.
Are you possibly slightly jealous of your mate? You need to get out and concentrate on your own life and leave the past whe... (read in full...)
I made some inquiries about a co-worker, she must have found out and now avoids me
Q. hi all, i know this lady since 3 years ago, we are working in the same place not the same department. we will bump into each other a few times in a week and sometimes will start a conversation. Most of the times she will be the one initiating t...
A. 30 May 2017: Sounds like she was just being friendly and now possibly feels a bit guilty that she may have led you on to think she wanted more, hence she is keeping her distance.
Let it go. She doesn't sound interested in taking thing further.
Next ti... (read in full...)
Who am I? I want to be bisexual as I think I like girls more than boys now. Hardly anyone I know is bisexual
Q. I have been out with loads of boys but I kissed a girl and I think I like girls now. I want to be bisexual, but don't know what people would think and well it's harder to get a good relationship because hardly anyone I know is bisexual or gay. W...
A. 29 May 2017: You are YOU. You are 16/17. There is absolutely no need to label yourself as straight, gay, bisexual or anything else.
Relax and see who comes along that you like. Just because you kissed a girl and enjoyed it, does not necessarily mean you are ... (read in full...)
Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 29 May 2017: Is it possible you come on too strong too quickly? As someone who finds this sort of "needy" behaviour a complete turn off, I can fully understand why someone else would suddenly think "whoa" and back off from it.
You have only known this guy... (read in full...)
Should I be hungrier and work harder?
Q. So I'm 25 year old guy.I've got a decent job, a home,a car. I am completely content with my life. Although I would refer to my status as 'middle class'.I look at people my age and who have the same things as me... And they're quitting their current ...
A. 29 May 2017: You sound like a genuinely content person who is satisfied with what he has instead of always chasing after more. If you already have enough, why would you give yourself stress chasing after more? Especially money?
YOU sound like you have a v... (read in full...)
I got drunk and made out with a guy but lied to the guy I like about it
Q. Okay so I really screwed up! My cousin set me up with one of her best friends (let's call him Steve) We went paintballing with my cousin and he's a really great guy. He got my number and asked me to go with him to his matric dance (which I said yes ...
A. 29 May 2017: Not being funny but, if this guy you fancy asked you out of the blue "did you make out with any random guys" after you had done EXACTLY that, is it possible he already knows? Could someone have already told him? It just seems like a awful ... (read in full...)
Am I too old to expect to have a physical relationship? Should I just accept it?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years rarely wants sex - maybe every 3 or 4 months. Aside from that he almost never touches me except for a peck on the lips. This is breaking my heart. I've talked to him about it many times and he says he's too tired but he ...
A. 29 May 2017: Is it the actual sex you are missing, or the intimacy? Would you be able to cope without the sex if he showed you more physical affection on a daily basis?
If he has come from a family where they didn't show affection, or if he only thinks h... (read in full...)
Should I date him when he had asked out my best friend and she turned him down?
Q. Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about ...
A. 28 May 2017: If you like this guy, then absolutely go for it. So he asked your friend out. So what? Even if they had gone out and split up, she would have no claim on him afterwards (although you might not want to date him if she still carried a torch for ... (read in full...)
I thought we'd made plans but she hasn't texted back!
Q. Hey all! Need some advice here please. Earlier in the week a girl said I was amazing and that we should hang out this weekend. I texted her yesterday asking if the plans were still good and she said heck ya so I replied sweet that's what I like to ...
A. 28 May 2017: If she is a neighbour, why can't you just pop over and speak to her?
I notice you refer to her as a "girl". How old is she? If she is much younger than you, then maybe she was just flirting and is now horrified you took her flirting seriousl... (read in full...)
He has ED, should I stay with him?
Q. I am planning to settle down with this guy as I really want kids (I've wanted them for years) and I'd like someone to help bring them up. I've been dating for a few months and found out that he has erectile dysfunction. I am not in love with him...
A. 28 May 2017: While I am a firm believer that people tend to settle down with the person who is around AT THE RIGHT TIME (i.e. at the time THEY feel they want to settle down), this man does not sound like a good long-term partner for you - except as someone to ... (read in full...)
I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore, is this normal?
Q. Hi all, I have a situation where I can't decide whether it's normal or not. Basically, I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore. I'm 25 years old, never had a GF, my sexual experiences are one night stands or brief flings and...
A. 28 May 2017: My guess would be that you have matured and are no longer interested in just seeking sexual conquests like one night stands which, while "scratching the itch", can leave you feeling empty and unfulfilled.
My other guess would be that, when you... (read in full...)
I found a phone he'd been using to text a woman for 4 years!
Q. Hi I found a phone my husband had a few months ago he had been texting a woman for 4 years !! It was someone he had known 35 years ago and been out with a few times before he met me . He states that he thought they had slept together 35 years ago ...
A. 28 May 2017: You say you know he loves you. HOW do you know he loves you?
He has been unfaithful to you for the past 4 years. This was not just some drunken one-off fumble. It was calculated and carefully planned deceit. He may not have had any physical... (read in full...)
Why is it I feel I lost my soulmate? And could he really have moved on so fast?
Q. Hello again DearCupid. As I look back, I realized I have been posting on here on and off for about 7 years! This has significance because I was just broken up with my boyfriend of 6 years over the phone, and the majority of my posts wer...
A. 26 May 2017: Sending hugs. A first of anything bad is always hard to cope with and makes you question everything you believe(d) in.
You were both very young when you entered this relationship. It says a lot for your staying power and maturity that you stay... (read in full...)
My crush of 2 years just got a girlfriend! Now what?
Q. I'm sure this has happened to people a million times before but this is the first time for me. Quite simply, the boy I've had a crush on for two years has just gotten a girlfriend. He likes her very much - he is constantly preoccupied, staring into ...
A. 26 May 2017: You actually sound like a sensible young lady, so I think you KNOW the answers to this one as you have touched on them all in your post.
Given your age, I suspect this has probably been your first major crush so, quite understandably, you feel... (read in full...)
I know my friend's boyfriend is cheating on her but my boyfriend says I can't tell her
Q. Hi; I have a boyfriend who I love dearly and me and him are good friends with another couple who we go out with and see a lot. I am very good friends with the girl of the couple and he is very good friends with the boy of the couple although...
A. 25 May 2017: I can totally understand your loyalty to your friend and your need to protect her. HOWEVER, you need to think this through. Firstly, it may cost you your relationship with your boyfriend (although that could be a mixed blessing, given his attitude). ... (read in full...)
How can I erase this mental abuse?
Q. How can stop measuring my value by a man- since being young my parents and grand parents have lived a life according to what society thinks is right. My mom married my dad and stayed in a physically abusive relationship only because she didn't like ...
A. 24 May 2017: Don't blame your parents and grandparents for living as society demands. They know no other way. Life is different now than it was when they were your age. If you can try to understand WHY they are the way they are, I think it will probably help you ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my sexual frustration? Masturbating seems my only option. How can I feel better about myself?
Q. I'm 26yrs old and have accomplished nothing. I failed college, don't have a job, and I am a virgin. I feel that I am a hopeless disgrace with no future or anything of value. My problem is that I am sexually frustrated but feel like I have noth...
A. 24 May 2017: Your main problem is not sexual frustration, it is a total lack of self-belief and motivation. I am going to dole out a dose of tough love here: you need to get off your arse, stop feeling sorry for yourself and start to shape your life into ... (read in full...)
She agrees to a threesome when drunk but not when she's sober)
Q. Ok... So my wife and I have discussed threesomes with another woman and she has accepted as long as I dont participate, in other words not really a threesome just voyeurism on my part, which i'm totally cool with, but I would also like for her to ...
A. 22 May 2017: Are you fed up with life with your wife? Do you want something to fail in your relationship so that you have an excuse for divorce? If so, you are going the right way about it. Keep pushing your wife into a situation she is obviously not happy about ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a child and gets upset when I give my reasons for why it doesn't work for me now!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and he just brought up wanting a baby with me. I've had an abortion in a past relationship. We are both still in college and as much as I want a kid I just don't see it as a good time to have one ...
A. 22 May 2017: Woah! BIG RED FLAG! You have been dating for 3 months, you are at college and he is talking babies?
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make sure you are the one responsible for contraception. At best he is immature and thinks talking babies is the way to ingra... (read in full...)
What are the rules for family visiting when we are separated but still living under the same roof?
Q. My husband has recently said he wants a divorce after I started sleeping in another bedroom for comfort reasons after my breast cancer and mastectomy last year. He says he is sick of being the provider and is angry that I haven't yet gone back to ...
A. 22 May 2017: There are no "rules" about this sort of thing and I really don't think that is your most pressing problem to be honest.
I am so sorry for the lack of support and understanding you have received from your husband and his family during your fig... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous that she's seeing other people?
Q. Hello everyone...I have a gf and we have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. She lied and cheated me last year but we managed to get back. Now she's doing the same thing again so i broke if off. She said she loved both of us but i cant let ...
A. 22 May 2017: We can't just switch off our feelings towards someone we shared our lives with for a long time, who we cared about greatly, especially at such an early age.
YES, you did the right thing in finishing with her when she cheated on you a second t... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my mom's attitude and treatment of me?
Q. We're expecting our second baby in 2.5 months and I have a 15 month old at home. My mom has been a wonderful help but every time she visits us, she makes me feel like the worst mom and occasionally a bad daughter. I have a happy life and I just want ...
A. 22 May 2017: No idea HOW she makes you feel like a bad daughter/mother, but she can only make you feel bad with YOUR permission. If you keep reminding yourself you ARE a good mother AND a good daughter, her visits will not be so stressful.
Does she realize ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do, yet I don't want to give up on us.
Q. I recently read a post where the woman didn't know what to do because get man was still visiting online dating sites even though they are together and so neither of them are no longer single. I wanted to answer her, yet I can't honestly give her ...
A. 21 May 2017: The women on the dating sites aren't the homewreckers; YOUR BLOKE IS. Most women are looking for SINGLE men, not someone who is already in a relationship. I doubt he is telling them he is engaged otherwise most would run a mile.
What are you gett... (read in full...)
How do I recover from this breakup?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago. Neither one of us was expecting it, but it became clear that we loved each other but we weren't on the same page and wanted different things. Our maturity levels did not align. The hardest part for...
A. 21 May 2017: It's only been a few days. Nobody got over a break up in a few days - unless the relationship had been dying for a long time and they were totally prepared for it to end. Or unless they are totally cold hearted.
You sound to be doing as much as ... (read in full...)
What do her words mean?
Q. hello, I've been seeing this girl now for 6 months, but out of no where, she been acting moody and distant with me lately and I don't know why. So I confronted her about it and ask if I was us and she said yes. she went on to say "I don't know h...
A. 21 May 2017: Taking back control of this situation will help you in the long run. Tell her YOU will make the decision for her and finish it.
If she really wants to be with you, she will fight the decision. If not, then she never wanted to be with you in the f... (read in full...)
I cannot keep on ignoring him. He keeps on asking me to his, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am only 14 but have a boyfriend I think he is super sweet and super cute but he is always asking me round to his. I always decline because I am too nervous because he seems to eager to move on with our relationship but all we have ...
A. 21 May 2017: Well done for not giving in and just going along with what he wants. If you are not ready, then you are not ready. Stick to your guns. Don't allow him to use you for his own gratification.
Relationships are not just about kissing and making o... (read in full...)
I feel used. Should I tell his Gf?
Q. I had been speaking to this guy that I met online.. we had been flirting away and getting on super well. Time passed as he asked to meet which I agreed. However he didn't make it and I found out it was because he has a girlfriend. I've accepte...
A. 21 May 2017: SHE is not your problem. She will find out in time what her boyfriend is like. Don't be responsible for her pain.
When you look back on his episode in years to come, will you be PROUD of how you handled it? If you draw a line under this NOW and ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!
Q. I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...
A. 20 May 2017: Until I reached "Yes I am sad, lonely, and depressed", I was thinking "what's the problem?"
You ARE old enough to be his mother BUT you are both single (I assume) consenting adults. Life doesn't come with any guarantees. All you have is the happ... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to a family function. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hey, Thanks for taking the time to read my post I'm going to keep it short I've been with my partner 10 years I'm 27 hes 28 we've had a very happy time together no real drama or anything we have always been great together I cant imagine anyone in...
A. 20 May 2017: Did he just take it for granted you would be going with him? Some people take an awful lot for granted, especially when they have been in a relationship for a long time.
Thing is, this has upset you so you NEED to sit down and talk to him abou... (read in full...)
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