Is it really wrong of me to talk to his mate?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get your views on this stupid situation I am in. I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He introduced me to his friends a few months ago. I clicked with one of his friends straight away. Anyway this week, I saw m...
A. 11 April 2010: Thanks for your update. I see the situation has now changed and the path is clear for you .
Good luck!... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 23 March 2010: Lenal, you are welcome. I hope you will find your happiness and peace in your life soon.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 22 March 2010: Lenal, do not worry about what he said. Some men will say one thing and do another .They are just obstinate and want to win the argument They want to be in control.
Leave and you will see the results that words are only words.You don't deserve ... (read in full...)
If the messages in the Bible can only be revealed to the reader by the Holy Spirit residing in you, then why are there so many denominations?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question... well not a romantic relationship question. But this has been bugging and confusing me for a long time. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. I thought of myself as a Christian but I d...
A. 21 March 2010: Not all Christians will enter Heaven. Only those whose name is in the 'Book of Life' can enter Heaven.
Do you know if your name is in that 'Book of Life?' I don't know. You will be judged in the final judgment.
There are many Christian denomi... (read in full...)
He stood me up. Should I cut him loose?
Q. DEAR CUPID, I have been talking to this guy from work for about a month and half now, well things have been going ok, it started off as a sexually thing and it seems like he might want more because we went on your first official date the other day. ...
A. 21 March 2010: He is in a weird place because he can only promised a lot but is short on delivery.
If you are not satisfied with the service,please change to another provider. You have the right to enjoy and call the shots.... (read in full...)
Video games and his friends come before me!
Q. So i have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and i love him so much but i feel so alone, he plays video games for hours and his friends come first all the time. We rarely hang out and when i bring this up he says i should be used to it, I just ...
A. 21 March 2010: Some men may have aged but their maturity seems to be stuck at a certain level. They maybe men but they are boys at heart.
Your b/f will not change unless you leave him . It ain't fun and if you are looking for a half full , then there is all he h... (read in full...)
My parents are closed minded due to culture and wont seem to accept my boyfriend!
Q. My parents are asian (philippines). Although they care about me and look out for me, they've been strict and controlling throughout my whole life. I'm still under their roof, although I pay for my own education..but I follow all of their rules. I ...
A. 21 March 2010: Parents have their own perspective about relationships with other races. You cannot fault them because they have seen and experience racism in their life.
You may not agree with them as you are young and you come from a different generati... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he loves me or not?
Q. i been with my boyfriend for almost a yr now and i had fallen head over heals for him. i love this man with all my heart. the problem is that he says that he doesnt know if he loves me or not. he says he feels something deep for me but does not know ...
A. 21 March 2010: I respectfully disagree with you that you cannot put a time limit on a relationship.
It depends on what kind of relationship. If it is a normal friendship, you cannot but if it is about commitment issues, you will need to . Otherwise, you will be ... (read in full...)
Why do I hurt others?
Q. I want to make this short and honest as possible.I am a very nice person,but sometimes for some strange reason I do things that hurt others.For example I would de-friend people on Facebook,and send them a message telling them what I did.Other times ...
A. 21 March 2010: It could be Narcissistic personality disorder. I am not a doctor. Maybe you should make an appointment with your doctor/therapist for a psychological evaluation.
reference:-
http://www.health... (read in full...)
Will I ever know the truth or will he just lie?
Q. im working with a guy ive become extremely close to. we've worked together 8 months-clicked from the start and he feels the same we're really good friends and get on so well. i like him a lot-adore him even everytime i see him i get that shivery ...
A. 21 March 2010: Actions speaks louder than words. He could be a habitual lier. Some men like to lie to puff up their ego's and self esteem.
You will have to be like a lawyer and asked and asked those same question over and over again over a period of time to ... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 21 March 2010: Only those dead or those unborn cannot change. Please don't insult people's intelligence!... (read in full...)
Should I go and meet a guy from the past when I'm married?
Q. Recently and old "friend" has contacted me through facebook. We have not seen each other in 21 years. And we had sexual relations at the time. I feel that everything happens for a reason. And I think that we are developing some feelings for one ...
A. 21 March 2010: It is not wrong to connect back with an old friend.You can catch up with each other. Go with an open mind.
Just be careful of those booby traps in the relationship.... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly lose interest in sex?
Q. What are the causes,when a man suddenly does not want sex with is wife? My husband suddenly gone off sex.. He never said why. Like 6 month ago I was feeling too much pressure to satisfy him. And he was like that, for 20 years. He loves me ,he says...
A. 21 March 2010: There are three probabilities:-
1) He has ED
2) He has lost interest in sex .
3) He has another woman.
The most probable reason is (1), because many men have it when they are in the middle age due to the stressful nature of today's worl... (read in full...)
Should I cling to the hope we will fall in love one day?
Q. I’m 13. I’m a really competitive basketball player, and I have been going to this training place for, oh, 2, years or so, to help with my conditioning. My problem is there’s this trainer who I have a huge crush on. Let’s call him “John”. He’s 22. ...
A. 21 March 2010: When you are young , you always like to dream and have fantasies. It is not wrong to dream and fantasize.
Dreams can be a reality sometimes. If you dream big , it may come to past.
In life, we should always have hope . We hope our dreams ... (read in full...)
Has he just been playing me this whole time?
Q. Help! am confusd!my boyfriend of 5yrs used to talk to me like daily. He would call me sometimes 4 times a day and sms between 20 to 25 messages a day. We would spend hours together enjoying company-no sex. After we started having sex, it was great ...
A. 21 March 2010: You can't flogged a dead horse. It is better to take stock of your situation and move on.
If a person is very busy for you ,it means that they are no more interested in you .
They are going in the opposite directions from you and soon it will... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 21 March 2010: He needs to see the situation has changed and his mother cannot be allowed to live in this way.
If you do not threatened to move out, he will be very obstinate and stuck to his guns.
If you leave, then he will see the hopelessness of ... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: Don't hint to him. You need to be more forceful to show your dislike for this issue.
You need to tell him direct and straight that you find his preaching uncomfortable and you do not like it.
If he respects you , he will stop. Some Christians ... (read in full...)
How can I say what I mean to him without getting all tongue tied?
Q. I have seen this guy for about two weeks. He seems like a good guy and I would like it to work out for us. Unfortunately, I am not very good at reading people's character and know about them deep down. I can have a good laugh but when it comes to ...
A. 21 March 2010: With guys, it is better to be simple and direct and they can understand. Just tell then what you want .Don't give hint's because they don't get it.
Don't beat about the bush. Give them straight from your heart or mind.
Be yourself and be ... (read in full...)
Is it really wrong of me to talk to his mate?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get your views on this stupid situation I am in. I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He introduced me to his friends a few months ago. I clicked with one of his friends straight away. Anyway this week, I saw m...
A. 21 March 2010: Would you be concerned, wary and jealous if your guy text and talk to your g/f more than to you and texting everyday about your problems?
Would you like your g/f's and everyone to know what's going on between the two of you . You won't have pri... (read in full...)
Should my friend and I stop engaging in conversation with him?
Q. I have been going to a cafe with a friend of mine quite regularly. My friend told me that the guy behind the counter kept looking at me whenever we went in. He has spoken to me a few times and touched my arm and winked but whilst that is a nice ...
A. 21 March 2010: When the guy saw that you were taken , he had to focus on your friend. She being the second choice.
If you like the coffee and the ambiance there, go by all means.
Having some conversation should not be a problem if you enjoy chatting with hi... (read in full...)
I want to make it up to him but he says he doesn't want anything from me, it is so unfair.
Q. please help i have this friend that lives in argentina, we were boyfriend and girlfriend last year, but he didnt want to be with anyone at the moment so we were just friends. but we would always act like more than friends as we would say and do m...
A. 21 March 2010: 1)He could get angry and ignore you
2)He could grudgingly meet you but will be uncooperative .
3)He could forgive you and be friends again .
Could be any of those options because we are not him and cannot tell what he will do.
In most o... (read in full...)
I hate his best friend!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, with the exception that I utterly dislike his childhood best friend. His friends from college, however, I love. The problem with his best friend is that I believe he's no good. When he comes to our house, ...
A. 20 March 2010: Some people do not have a right sense of priorities. It is just unfortunate that your b/f places friends above g/f in his priority list.
There are guys like that and there is nothing you can do about it until one day they will come to their se... (read in full...)
My gf has really bad trust issues...what should I do?
Q. 0k. so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost two years now. We live together. We even moved to a totally different city 4 hrs away from our hometown. We know no one but ourselves. But somehow she keeps finding ways to accuse me of ...
A. 20 March 2010: Everyone has their tolerance levels. Each of us can only take that much .
If you think you still have the capacity to absorb those stress, stay .
There will come a turning point when you think she has over done it and it is time to leave.
... (read in full...)
Negative? Could it still be Positive?
Q. I was just wondering is it possible to have a negative pregnancy test and yet infact b pregnant. I have heard it is but yet I havnt heard of anyone this actually happening to so I would to hear from people who this had happened to. I am only three ...
A. 20 March 2010: Have pregnancy test every 3 days after your supposed period's due date until they come. The test should be conducted from 3 to 14 days after your period's due day.
Some girls even can be pregnant while having their periods. It is actually... (read in full...)
I love him so much and want to fight for my marriage... Help!
Q. I am so lost and hurting so bad.. My husband and I have been together 18 years we have two boys one is 14 and the other is 4. When my oldest was little I cheated on my husband 3 different times which I know I was wrong, god knows I do, I wish I ...
A. 20 March 2010: When you love someone a lot , you have a sense of powerlessness. You cannot do anything when your love wants to leave you .
You would gladly do anything for him to stay but sadly , he has decided that he wants to leave no matter what.
You hav... (read in full...)
Thrown to the side for a younger woman...
Q. pls help, my husband came home from work one day and said he didnt love me anymore. after 18 years and 3 children. he always loved me right up until then. he walked out on us and now lives with his parents. he sold the family car and bought a much ...
A. 20 March 2010: My sympathies to you for going through this heart breaking process.
There is nothing much you can do to change his opinions. You will have to get over the shock, disbelief and grief and see a lawyer about a divorce.
It is better to let hi... (read in full...)
Height verses penis size!
Q. okay, the girl i am dating now is around 5'5" and very good shape. She has a very nice body not fat not too skinny. but my question is i am 6' tall with a 6" length and 5" width penis. is there any way that her being that little that i might hurt ...
A. 20 March 2010: Her height does not come into considerations unless you want to do it standing up. She will need a stool to stand on.
Make sure she is ready and well lubricated before you come into her.... (read in full...)
I want to make it up to him but he says he doesn't want anything from me, it is so unfair.
Q. please help i have this friend that lives in argentina, we were boyfriend and girlfriend last year, but he didnt want to be with anyone at the moment so we were just friends. but we would always act like more than friends as we would say and do m...
A. 20 March 2010: He is a lose cause . For someone to get angry over something which you have no control shows his lack of love and understandings.
He is using that as a silly pretext to break off from you means that he is not anymore interested to be friends ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 20 March 2010: You are welcome! Do not feel guilty or be responsible for what happens to his mother. You did your best under those conditions and you need help.His mother is his responsibility.
Who is responsible for you if you go mad and end up at those fu... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I want to try sex with a guy???
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend I want to try sex with a guy?...
A. 20 March 2010: Just tell her that you want to try sex with a guy and see how she reacts.
Then when her face becomes crimson, Just tell her that it was only a joke.... (read in full...)
Confused? School? Family?
Q. This is not a love type question just need some advice. My older sister is coming for a visit during a time when I have to work 5 days a week and go to class 4 of those days I will not be home till after 10pm every night of those 4 days, I would ...
A. 19 March 2010: Your sister's visit should not interfere with your schedules.It is unfortunate that you cannot allot more time for her at the moment and she should understand .She would not want to force you to delay your graduations.
After you graduate... (read in full...)
Completely in love... but is that enough???
Q. I have been with my Fiance for 3 years we have an 18month old daughter and due to be married next year. i love him very much and he treats me like a princess. i have recently started a new job under the same sector as my fiance and i have to come in ...
A. 19 March 2010: Imagine your husband is sending flirty text to another girl, how would you feel?
If you are regularly sending flirty text to a married guy , it is wrong.You have crossed the line.
If you know that it is wrong and you don't want to hurt you... (read in full...)
We want each other REALLY bad but we don't feel good about breaking our "lovers'" hearts.
Q. It's been about a year and a half since my ex and I broke up. We had been together for 3 years, and I had a crush on him since the age of 12. Last September I moved away to college, and met a new guy who is just amazing. I fell for him within a...
A. 19 March 2010: You will see whose love is the longest, deepest , meaningful and fulfilling.
Take your time to decide until one of them decides to conceit defeat.... (read in full...)
Is it me that has issues with men?
Q. Im 40, My parents got divorced when I was 5years old. And I havent really been close to them my whole life, don't get me wrong, I still talk with them and see them but its just not a close nit family. Ive been married twice, my first marriage ended ...
A. 19 March 2010: You are not going to live forever in this world.You should give yourself another chance to find true love.
Never be afraid to fall in love until you find the true one out there.You deserved to find true love after what you have been through.... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: The controlling part is because she did not stand up for her rights.She yielded to him every time and he became bolder .
It is mental and emotional abuse. He will only respect her if she stands up to him and not let him have his ways always. ... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: Some men are just like rough diamonds and they need to be cut,polished and rubbed until they shine and sparkle.
Thats when other women who saw the glitter in them would want to snatch them away. LOL!
I would advise the OP to hang on in there... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: Miamine, better late than never. Don't blame the men for always taking and not knowing how to give back.
It is the way they were treated differently when they were small. Girls had to do everything while they were pampered and had everythi... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: "I do love him very very much!! I just don't get loved in the same way back and I get very hurt by it...."
Men and women's love languages are different . You may not understand his love language because you can only understand your own love lan... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: My SIL treated my daughter in that way too while they were dating. He dumped her thrice after some fierce argument but they are now happily married.
Once they were traveling in a car and they had an argument, he asked her to get out of the car ... (read in full...)
Should I dump my non christian boyfriend?
Q. Hey, im 19 and turning 20 late this year. I'm a christian i love God so so so much, i have a bf and i love so as well the thing is every time im with him i feel gulty like im commiting a sin. I realy dont know what to do, we've know each other for 3 ...
A. 19 March 2010: Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
-2 Corinthians 6:14 - NIV
You are committing no sin as you are not 'yoked ' together with your b/... (read in full...)
My soft erections???
Q. When me and my girl are kissing I get turned on really easily but for some reason the erection I get it soft and when she does stuff to it I ejaculate near enough as soon as she touches it. I don't know why my erection is soft and whether this has...
A. 19 March 2010: You maybe having stress or worries about your performance. Quit your worrying and relax .
Stop all your masturbating s and let the sexual tensions build up for her.... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't care about me at all - what can I do to get out of here?
Q. My dad has been emotionally abusive to me my whole life and i need it to stop now but i dont think he will ever change. For as long as i can remember it has been like this. He NEVER says anything good to me at all, i have never heard him say i love ...
A. 19 March 2010: Contact your Department of community services(Child protection)(008)425 288
or
Women's refuges referral and resource centres.(Google for the one nearest you.)
You can get help and they will advise you.... (read in full...)
Married but have been seeing someone else for 8 years and I just can't let her go...
Q. I am married, happily married with a baby, i know.. i know it is very easy to say if you are so happily married why do you cheat? I met this wonderful girl, that is gonna make any guy very happy one day, we have been together for 8 years and are ...
A. 19 March 2010: Imagine yourself , your wife and child and your g/f all standing on the edge of the cliff.
Any wrong step by you will send to doom your wife and child or your g/f.
You don't want them to end at the bottom of the cliff , smashed to pieces.
Th... (read in full...)
He finds reasons to talk to me. Does he like me or not?
Q. I like this boy I've known for a few years but just recently become friends with. We have 2 classes together, but we really only talk in the 2nd class. In the first class, he sits with a group a people I'm not friends with and I sit on the other ...
A. 19 March 2010: It is obvious that he likes you. Or he would be distant and aloof and would not even looked your way or just talked only the essentials things and nothing else.... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: He is either immature or that is his way of dealing with those types of problems. He may have grown up in that kind of atmosphere where he does that to his g/f.
He is too angry and agitated and feels that he cannot do anything to convince... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 19 March 2010: You were first given that option to live alone without her but you rejected it. It is hard to blame you for wanting out now.You did not know the real conditions when you agreed with your husband.
After you have given your best, and you found ou... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 18 March 2010: It is not easy living with your MIL who has such a temperament.
For your own peace and sanity , you should moved out and have your own place where you can have a retreat and be the Queen in your own house.
It is either this way or your husb... (read in full...)
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