Should I get back together with the ex I love but don't trust?
Q. Hi All, I've been dealing with this decision for some time now.. sometimes I feel I've made up my mind, then I come undone and feel confused again. I was with my ex for 3 years, we had a break as I felt he needed time to sort out his issues. Dur...
A. 29 March 2010: There are no guarantees in life. Life is a gamble.You cannot predict the future and there are always risks. You can only minimize the risk.
You can always walk away from him and find someone better .If you think he is the one and are not afraid t... (read in full...)
Help me win my ex back before she ruins her life with alcohol poisoning and one night stands!
Q. hi there, i just got dump by my girlfriend, after a 2 yrs relationship..well mostly its my fault, not that i cheat or an big major asshole phychopath but mostly i am way too busy workin and i dont put enough effort to spend time with her...and i ...
A. 29 March 2010: You are welcome! I hope she see's the changes in you and will response favourably to your overtures.
There is no need to rush. Rome was not build in a day. ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to be less emotional?
Q. Okay I'm a very, VERY emotional person, I always have been and I'm very sensitive. I've had at least 3 people say I'm the most sensitive person they've met. Anyway.. it's actually really annoying and I have a boyfriend who I love alot. I was alwa...
A. 29 March 2010: Try not to be emotional or over sensitive. Count 1 to 100 before you want to show your emotions or reply. It may delay the explosion and hopefully will not explode.... (read in full...)
I gave my guy friend some relationship advice and now my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him
Q. ok i really love this guy and hes my boyfriend but then a couple of days ago i talked to another guy and he told me about his relationship problems and gave him advice and he is only a friend that i gave advice to and my boyfriend doesn't believe ...
A. 29 March 2010: Stop contact with this friend to show him that there is nothing on between you two.
You b/f is abusive and controlling.... (read in full...)
Secret affair with a married straight man
Q. Hey I've known this str8 dude for 10 years now. As kid we've done things together. Sexually and even as adults. There's been a few time I had pay him but it still happened. Now he knows I love him and I know he uses that to his advantage. He has an ...
A. 29 March 2010: You are his ATM(Cash Dispensing ) machine. About having feelings for you ,I am not very sure. Cut off the money supply and see what happens.
Will he still sticks with you?
If you are uncomfortable with him , let him know your limits and bound... (read in full...)
Why didn't she wish me a "happy birthday"??
Q. She didn't wish on my B'day..what does it mean..?? Hi, I found myself attracted towards a girl since i met her in a Train journey. During journey only i got her email ID so I started my communication with her via emails and gtalk. But one d...
A. 29 March 2010: Even normal friends or internet friends will wish you happy birthday.
The reason why she did not is a puzzle. It could be that she has forgotten or missed it ?
Did you inform her that you just had your birthday and she still did not wish you... (read in full...)
Torn...do I take her back?
Q. I have broken up with my gf of nearly a year and a half recently. I'm really struggling to cope even thought I finished with her. I felt stuck in a rut and didnt know what else to do. She was always angry and moody with me and i felt so tense when i ...
A. 29 March 2010: If you can find in your kind, compassionate and generous heart to forgive her, by all means , give her another chance.
Try not to commit those old mistakes again .Know each others limits and boundaries and always seek a compromise if you have... (read in full...)
Feeling guilt over leaving!
Q. I have been with my loving partner for three years now. The problem is i still have this guilt that i cannot seem to get over. I was married for eighteen years and my ex husband was a good provider, he was verbally abusive towards me, not interest...
A. 29 March 2010: You can't go back into the past to change things.
When you left , you did not see the full implications of your leaving. This phase of your life with your children is gone and you have to accept the reality .
The children will grow up in a dys... (read in full...)
I'm in love but this girl just wants to be friends. How do I stop loving her
Q. I'm pretty sure im in love with this girl, and she is the most amazing person iv ever met - I dont think ill ever meet anyone like her again. She isnt interested in being more than a friend with me, and i dont know how to stop lovin her.. I never ...
A. 29 March 2010: Your love is probably infatuations or puppy love. Real love is not emotional or have those feelings like you are having now.
If it is infatuations , it will pass .If she puts you in her friends category , you will have to move on .You can stil... (read in full...)
Help me win my ex back before she ruins her life with alcohol poisoning and one night stands!
Q. hi there, i just got dump by my girlfriend, after a 2 yrs relationship..well mostly its my fault, not that i cheat or an big major asshole phychopath but mostly i am way too busy workin and i dont put enough effort to spend time with her...and i ...
A. 29 March 2010: My empathy's to your relationship troubles . Don't give up hope. You need to have faith that she will come around after you have proven to her that you will change for the better.
You need to prove your love to her not only by words but by actio... (read in full...)
Can people change?
Q. My husband had a 3 year affair with his niece who was 15 when it started. He was 30. He says she initiated it and that he was to far in to get out, he said she threatened him with suicide if he left her. He was raped by family members as a young ...
A. 29 March 2010: People can change if they want to. If they don't want to change,there is nothing you can do about that.
Some people are slow learners and may have to repeat a few more mistakes before they can change.
People who don't change are dead people.... (read in full...)
My molester is going to be at this dinner. Should I go?
Q. today me and my boyfriend will be going out to dinner along with his mother and brother it was all payed for his brother's company. ok here is were it get's interesting i found out last night that my mother whom i dont get along with will be there ...
A. 29 March 2010: I don't think it is advisable to confront him about his past actions.It will not do any good.
It is best to leave that in the past , buried and forgotten.You will be prolonging this issue and it will never go away.
Just be civil with him i... (read in full...)
My molester is going to be at this dinner. Should I go?
Q. today me and my boyfriend will be going out to dinner along with his mother and brother it was all payed for his brother's company. ok here is were it get's interesting i found out last night that my mother whom i dont get along with will be there ...
A. 29 March 2010: You need to face your fears or you will forever be tormented by it.
By going to the dinner, you will finally overcome this issue and find closure.
I am not going to be judgmental . He has paid his dues according to the laws of the land and yo... (read in full...)
Each time it happens he says that he's sorry! Now he's done it again!
Q. so my boyfriend has hurt me in the past in terms of flirting with women, he tells them that he wants to be with them, calls them baby, asks them if he can come over, wants to get stuff for them and more, (never had sex with them though that i know)! ...
A. 29 March 2010: Maybe, you could give him one last chance and if he does it again , you will leave him.
He is a born serial flirter and you either accept and tolerate his actions or you leave if he cannot change.... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain why I feel guilty?
Q. Right i wrote here before regarding my alcoholic ex boyfriend who smashed my windows and how he was awful to me. well idiot me got back with him and he got worse and worse he has smashed every window in my house cut the sky cable and just been ...
A. 29 March 2010: You have been brainwashed by him .He made you feel guilty because you are the cause of his problems.You feel ashamed of what he has done .
He has distorted your self image and turned your strengths into weaknesses.You felt guilty because fundamen... (read in full...)
He won't have sex with me anymore...
Q. I had finally met him! The guy, the right guy. He was more than everything that I wanted, he was what I needed. We are both in our 30's and have been together now for over a year. While things are not always perfect, they are comfortable, safe ...
A. 29 March 2010: Once bitten , twice shy. Give him more space because he is still distrusting of women. Abstaining from sex is the safest way not to have children.He has some trust issues.... (read in full...)
Saw bruises on my brother that he won't explain ...
Q. My younger brother (13) is staying with me for a few days and yesterday I noticed he had bruises on his lower back and I think they go lower but I couldn't see. It looked like he'd maybe been whipped with a belt but I'm not sure. I asked him about ...
A. 29 March 2010: He could be bullied in school or involved with a fight with others.
You will need to ask and ask again at different times until he relents and tells you the truth. Keep on digging until he opens himself up.
Inform your parents and maybe meet h... (read in full...)
What's the best way to act round about a guy you really like?
Q. Hey all, I'm 14 and i'm confident, ive been told im okay-looking etc. But when im around a boy i like, i get very uncomfortable and awkward. classic right? I'd just like some help, whats the best way to attract him, keep him thinking about m...
A. 29 March 2010: Dress attractively because guys are attracted by visuals. It will also make you feel confident. Act confident and smile always.
Smile , laughs , joke and be a bit flirty with him .... (read in full...)
We started dating too soon after she broke up with her ex!
Q. I've dated a girl who is still getting over difficult relationship. Shes been with someone for a year and both were expected to get married, but out of the blue, he left her and that was it. 3 months later, we started going out. It went well, but ...
A. 29 March 2010: Glad that you searched online for all those info's on 'rebound relationships .'I found them really helpful and insightful, more than what we can tell you here.
I hope you will pick up those tips from those experienced writers and learned a thing ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend over analyses everything! What should I do??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 months now but I am now noticing he has some anger issues/over analyzes everything. I have tried talking to him but it still continues a little bit. For example, I had a bad day last Friday with work and fa...
A. 28 March 2010: Your b/f has taken you for granted.If he continues on this course, you will have a rough passage through life.
Either he has to change his attitude towards you or you have to show him the exit.
It is sad when you hurt the one that loved you t... (read in full...)
Help!!! I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty.
Q. Last night I got stupidly drunk which I don't normally do. I've never been that drunk in my life and I did something completely out of character. I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty. It was my first ...
A. 28 March 2010: Put up a straight face ,bear with it and grin..Hope that it will not spread like a wild bush fire or it will die down quickly.... (read in full...)
He won't communicate with me and says our relationship is over. Should I just let him go like that, or try to get him to talk?
Q. It's a long story but I recently traveled overseas to be with the guy I love for three months so that I could find out once and for all if we were in any way compatible. Yeah, I know, it was crazy, but it was a once in a lifetime opportunity, it was ...
A. 28 March 2010: Better to spare him the anguished and more lies .Let him go. If he is no more into you , there is no need to find out the right reasons. It's just it.
You should build a new life without him and forget the past. Cut your losses and move on.... (read in full...)
I am sexually active and the guiltiness wont go away
Q. im 15 and i love my boyfriend i know he truely loves me because he demonstrates it every day with his actions.We've had sex several times but i feel very guilty afterwards because i feel like im letting myself and my mom down.Im a catholic and my ...
A. 28 March 2010: Confess your sins before God and asked for His forgiveness and sin no more.
I believed that is the only way you can lift the burdens from your shoulders. You have made a mistake and you should not do it again.... (read in full...)
We started dating too soon after she broke up with her ex!
Q. I've dated a girl who is still getting over difficult relationship. Shes been with someone for a year and both were expected to get married, but out of the blue, he left her and that was it. 3 months later, we started going out. It went well, but ...
A. 28 March 2010: Yours is a rebound relationship and you need to take things slowly.
You need to Google about 'rebound relationships' for more tips on how to make it a success. There are a lot of materials online which discuss this problem.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still actively looking online and he avoids discussing the subject
Q. mi feel jealous of my bf's web usage. we live together. he still meets girls online. he keeps his singles/dating profile active. he tells me they are just friends that he chats with. what gives? i don't know what to think. to me this is cheating. is ...
A. 28 March 2010: He does not think deeply and thinks that it is only innocent chatting and is harmless.
He does not realize that it could lead to cheating and he definitely enjoys flirting with those girls online.
You will need to put your foot down and if he d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want sexy with me anymore after a 3 year relationship
Q. Hello everyone, I got a girlfriend almost 3 years right now. Everything was very good in the beginning. After she went on holiday a half year ago, she said she doesn't feel attractive to me anymore. But that wasn't my problem. I changed her feel...
A. 28 March 2010: Ignore her at your own perils! If you don't want to end the relationship , don't ignore her. Instead you should work harder to woo her and romance her.If she received enough love, sex will flow freely again.... (read in full...)
I want to be accepted my muslim girlfriends family.
Q. My girlfriends mum has recently found out that her daughter is dating me and she will not accept it as she is worried that the rest of her family will frown upon it. They are a Muslim family and they will not accept me, a White British male, even ...
A. 28 March 2010: If you want to be accepted by them you will need to embrace Islam as your religion.It is not difficult to embrace Islam .
Once you are a Muslim , the road is clear for you to date her. If you find that you are not compatible with her or want to ... (read in full...)
My mom is ignorant and annoying...
Q. Ok, to make a long story short. My mom considers herself "open", but she's also biased and prejudiced and whatever doesnt seem right in her eyes, she opposes. I have a boyfriend, which my parents don't know goes beyond anything than a friendshi...
A. 28 March 2010: Now you tell us that your mom is ignorant, bias and prejudiced.
I hope some day in the future , you would not turned around and say that you should have listened to your mom...LOL!
They come from a different generations and are set in their... (read in full...)
I know its selfish but I want him to come home
Q. how can i persuade him to come home My boyfriend and i have been together for alomost a year now but hes taken a job oppertunity in the states for 8 months. weve been through so much together and it was so hard for me to watch him go. i miss h...
A. 28 March 2010: If you have very strong and valid reasons for him to come back to you. Otherwise , it is very difficult for him to heed your call.
You may have to bear with it until fate decides for him.Have you thought of going over there ?
... (read in full...)
I'm having a sexual relationship with my housemate, and things are getting confusing. What should I do now?
Q. Several months ago, I started having a sexual relationship with one of my housemates. To make matters more complicated, he was my first. Since then, we have continued to have a secret (from our other housemate) affair. Several times we have ...
A. 28 March 2010: It depends on whether you feel that you can still talk to him. Can the relationship be salvaged?
Which is more painful, staying or leaving ?
Otherwise, it is easier to quit and let someone take over the remaining lease.
... (read in full...)
I am worried my brother in law's son might try something with me
Q. I m 37 having 2 kids. Both studing in 12th and 10th standard. I m house wife and my husband is a worker in oil factory. My husband met an accident and is in hospital from last 3 months. My brother-in-law and nephew has been paying all the hospital ...
A. 28 March 2010: Next time ,if he tries anything funny , just push him away and leave the place. You should not encourage him by not doing anything about it. He will get the message.
You don't want to make him angry as you have to depend on his generosi... (read in full...)
My fiance wants me to make out with another woman while he watches!!!
Q. hi my boyfriend, now my fiance, soon to be my husband wants me to make out with another woman and for him to watch.. he said he wont get close or get involve or get near her, he said to even tie him up to the bed or a chair and for him to just sit ...
A. 28 March 2010: Don't entertain his fantasy . It will be the greatest mistake in your life.
Your world will be turned upside down and it will never be the same again.
You will be saddled with tons of negative emotions and your life will be wretched and the... (read in full...)
Married for 21 years and the spark is gone
Q. i been maried 4 21 yrs the love andthe spark is gone i dont know wat to do i am so lonly ...
A. 28 March 2010: Try to fall in love with her again. After 21 years everything is faded and you need to put the spark back into your marriage.
Go on a holiday together for a start. ... (read in full...)
He said he's spending time with his family... should I believe him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost 5 months now. We have known each other for almost 3 years. The whole time we have been friends he always tried to be with me, telling me how much he had fallin in love with me. So I finally gave him a chance, ...
A. 28 March 2010: That is a warning red flag. There could be some unresolved issues simmering underneath.
His behaviour is suspect.Be on your toes.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is spending the night in a house alone with this flirt!
Q. OK now my girlfriend who is 20 years old, she is in costa rica for internship and staying with a host family. Now the host family is really nice but she has told me that the host father is a flirt. He is a nice guy but at times he would hug her or ...
A. 28 March 2010: It is a cause for concern. Ask your g/f to lock herself in her room and don't go out for safety reasons.
I think she would know how to handle the situation there and asked her to be careful .
I hope that you won't let your imaginations run... (read in full...)
Another woman is pursuing my boyfriend and it's making me feel insecure.
Q. a 'friend' of mine i met through my boyfriend sent my boyfriend love letters and clearly has professed her love for him. Despite the fact he's told her its not going to happen, he is still contacting her a fair bit, and she is contacting him, and it ...
A. 28 March 2010: The more you let him know about your feelings about the other girl, the more he may want to torment you .
Make it a non issue and he will find no pleasure or added advantage over you.
Be better than the other girl and stop over rating the other... (read in full...)
Am I just stuck in this rut forever?
Q. I just want a LIFE!! I'm so sick of living in this rut which is such a pathetic excuse for one, but I feel so trapped. I'm so embarrassed, I feel like such a loser. My life sucks!! I've never had a career, just crummy jobs, and I'm trapped in...
A. 28 March 2010: There are always opportunities in life and you only have to watch out for them.Make use of your talents.
Maybe , you should move out of your comfort zone and venture outside of it to discover your potentials.... (read in full...)
I can't trust a single freaking person on the face of the earth not even my husband.
Q. How does anyone trust anyone? How can you believe what anyone says without having proof? How the hell do I know that my husband isn't talking bad and acting bad behind my back if i never have proof that he isnt?? It's not just faith.. you can't ...
A. 28 March 2010: Happiness is a state of mind. You can either be happy or sad and it is your choice.
Some people do not have much possessions in life and yet are happy while others who have everything are unhappy and discontented.
Life has a meaning and purp... (read in full...)
He's telling me he thinks it isn't working out ...
Q. Hey everyone. I need help and fast. I met this guy a month ago and we went out 2 weeks later. So far we have been going out for 2 weeks and all of a sudden he is telling me that he thinks its not working out and his feelings are starting to go away. ...
A. 28 March 2010: Get to know more about him and his hobbies and interests so that you can share a mutual interest.It can bring you two closer together when there is a mutual interest.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ask you if you had a boyfriend in my situation?
Q. What does it mean if a guy asks you if you have a boyfriend? I was seeing this guy casually on and off for about a year (and also sleeping with him), and then one day during the end of last October we had a misunderstanding that caused me to get ...
A. 28 March 2010: He wants to find out if there is a vacancy sign .He would be interested in you again if there is no b/f.
If your answer was positive, he would probably give a pass.... (read in full...)
Should I cancel this trip so he realizes I'm serious?
Q. I just can't believe the incident that occured with me and my boyfriend. I went to meet him because he was waiting for his daughter to get dropped off by her mother..so, while I'm in the car with him and his daughter he ask's his ex if she needs a ...
A. 28 March 2010: Before you do anything rashly,I hope that you will think long and deep or you will have much regret later because you broke off when you were irrational.
Offering his ex a trip to the station or giving her money for the taxi fare is mere cou... (read in full...)
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