Contraceptive implant...are there any age restrictions?
Q. hey, i was wondering if there is an age restriction on the contraceptive implant for women? thanks xx...
A. 23 August 2008: I'm not sure, but I think the family planning people would rather you were protected so they will always help you.
However, at your age you should always be using condoms so the implant would only be a back up. You could always go on the pill fir... (read in full...)
I'm very skinny and I feel very depressed because of my thin figure.
Q. Ever since I was a small child I have been extremely slim. I have always looked slim! I have always been made fun out of because of this, people used to call me (and still do) twiggy, skinny, flat, a LINE (!), even a STICK. I always used to ask m...
A. 23 August 2008: If people are saying horrible things to you then say "well you are ugly but I can put on weight." Or just point out that it was a really hurtful thing to say. Put them on the spot by pointing out they are a horrible person.
It's not a reflecti... (read in full...)
He says that he cannot be a friend to me any longer, because he loves me! But I do not reciprocate.
Q. my best friend who is a guy says he has feelings for me. weve been friends for 8 months and we talk and txt all the time. we enjoy each other's company. when he said that he has feelings for me, i thort it would ruin our friendship because his ex is ...
A. 23 August 2008: If he has feelings for you then it is going to kill him to be around you and have to keep them inside.
You have to let him have some distance and get over you so you can stay friends. That would also show his ex and your female friend that you... (read in full...)
How do I become friends with my ex?
Q. When me and me ex split up just over a year ago, we agreed to stay friends. He started being mean to me and I couldn't stand him any longer so I blocked and deleted his MSN addy, deleted his phone number and threw away his address because I wanted ...
A. 22 August 2008: Get your boyfriend to have a word. If they are mates then he can have a word and say you no longer want it to be awkward.
After that, go round and just asct normally. There is no need to officially sign a contract of friendship. Just act friendly... (read in full...)
How do I know if I still like him?
Q. Quick question.. How can you tell when you've stopped liking someone? I liked this guy and he liked me back for about 2 months, but we weren't officially going out. and later on the found another girl and made her his girlfriend. I dont yet kno...
A. 22 August 2008: You really have to wait till you see him again and then see how you feel then.
If you are over him then it may still be a bit weird but the idea of cuddling up to him will have no appeal. Keep your eyes on other guys as well and see if you can ... (read in full...)
We work together, he used to come and see me all the time, now he seems to be ignoring me!
Q. My situation is this, I have never had a boyfriend of any sort and to be honest I have never really been attracted to any lads until about a year ago, when this really nice guy started working for our Company, he seemed just like me - quite shy. ...
A. 22 August 2008: You are just going to have to ask him if you have done something to upset him. Even if he is only a mate or a collegue, this sudden change in behaviour must have been cause by something, so ask him.
There is no way to know if he likes you or not w... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a good thing or would it be wise to move on because of the age difference?
Q. I could really use some good advice. I'm a 24 yr old college student. I've bounced around in a few relationships over the past few years, none of which lasted very long. About a year ago, I hooked up with an older woman (she's 43). I basically did ...
A. 22 August 2008: I hate to be vague and wishy washy here but I think that this is a case of "if it's meant to be it will be."
She may get sick of your youth and Xbox obsessions, you may get sick of her quiet nights in and millions of cats.
You may stay togethe... (read in full...)
It looks like he's having his cake and eating it, and I just don't know what to do for the best!
Q. In March this year I started talking online to a guy. It turned out that he was the year above me at school and lived 2 minutes walk from my house. (he had changed so much I didnt recognise him). We met up a month later and got on like a house on...
A. 22 August 2008: Well I think in this case there is not a lot different he could do.
He could either cut contact with you completely for the sake of an ex girlfriend and lose out on what could be something great with you - or he could be your boyfriend and have... (read in full...)
Will he ever trust me again?
Q. How do I gain my boyfriend's trust again? 4 days ago I took $80 out of his account without asking.when he found out he was pissed. He told me that he does not want to talk until I refund his money back.well I explained why I did it he then told me ...
A. 22 August 2008: Well you'll just have to wait and find out what he feels like in 2 weeks.
If you tried to contact him to ask but couldn't get hold of him and it was an emergency - or had previously told you that you could take money out of his account then he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to say "I miss you". Do men find these things hard to say?
Q. i sort of split from my boyf despite being in love with each other because i felt like things were going a bit too fast and we were wanting different things.i tell him i miss him but he doesnt seem to say that but i think maybe he does as he once ...
A. 22 August 2008: Well if he's split up with you then of course he's not going to say he loves you or he misses you.
He's trying not to lead you on or hurt you... or himself.
If you are not together then he is going to try to work on getting over you, and to... (read in full...)
Is it unloyal to DRINK at my friend's party despite my boyfriend objecting to it?
Q. I live with my boyfriend and he doesnt want me to drink when i go to my bestfriend's place tomorrow. But to tell ya all the truth i dont care im going to any way as i hardly get a chance for fun and at the end of the day ill be back with him at home ...
A. 22 August 2008: If you are above the legal age of being able to drink and as long as you don't get really really wasted then I don't see why he should be telling you not to.
Ask him to explain what he's worried about. You are at more risk of sexual assault ... (read in full...)
I need revenge!
Q. i need advice on the best way to get my revenge on him for putting me in this situation!!!!!me and my boyfriend had been goin out for 3 and a half yrs and have a daughter together, two days ago i answered his fone an a girl answered claiming she is ...
A. 22 August 2008: You are obviously very very angry right now and understandably so. But revenge is never the way forward.
If you really think he cheated on you then throw him out of the house.
This is really painful for you but think about your daughter as well... (read in full...)
My man is a people pleaser. How do I approach solving this?
Q. My partner is a wonderful man however I have realised he is a people pleaser. In saying this he will go out of his way to do things for me or buy me things however I feel his resentment when we have a discussion and he throws all this back in my ...
A. 22 August 2008: When he throws it back in your face in an arguement then tell him to take it all back. Refuse to let him do things for you for a while.
Sit him down and tell him you are sick of the way things are. If he sees it's a serious problem and he's so ... (read in full...)
She keeps leaving me to go out and I'm tired of arguing with her! Should I finish with her or what?
Q. Hey iv been with my girfriend for nearly 2 years i love her very much and she feels the same way about me. we spend alot of time together however we still make time for hobbies lk i got to the gym 5 times a week n she does her own thing with her ...
A. 22 August 2008: Well when she starts an argument just smile and kiss her and tell her that of course she can go out with her friends. It's only an argument if you argue back. If she says the sky is green say "have a great time, don't do anything to make me jealous ... (read in full...)
I want to get back in touch with him without looking like a stalker! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi everyone, here's my problem: A few years ago I went to school with this guy I had a huge crush on, and on the last day he admitted he liked me too but for some reason I never got his phone number or email or gave him mine. Recently I ran i...
A. 22 August 2008: There was life before FACEBOOK!!! Oh my god, people.
Get a phone directory and look him up or look up his parents and say you are an old school friend, they will give you his number.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do my dreams of him cheating on me mean that he actually is?
Q. i had a dream that my boyfriend of 15 months cheats on me, i have had this dream 3 times now, the las dream was that i was hanging out with him, we were sitting down and this girl sat next to us and kept coming close to us until he put his arm ...
A. 22 August 2008: No it means you're worried about him cheating on you. You subconcious will have picked up on the fact you got jealous about something or that you worried about it briefly and then exaggerated it completely in your dream.
You keep having dreams a... (read in full...)
My question about this girl is how to ask her out?
Q. ive known her since 9th grade and now im in 11th i missed 10th grade with her because i was out of state in school we say like hi and bye everytime i see her in the hall i like wave and act like im going to tackle her and she jus laughs and says ...
A. 22 August 2008: You after fake rugby tackling her and saying Hi:
"So all my friends have seen the Mummy but I couldn't go and I really want to see it. Have you seen it yet?"
Her:
"No I haven't"
You:
"Well I was wondering if you'd like to come with me?" ... (read in full...)
My fiance will not accept responsibility for his share of the bills! Now what?
Q. My fiance will not accept responsibility for his share of the household bills; he argues with me every time bills are due. Even though he agrees to pay it is nearly impossible to get the money from him. I have told him if he doesnt pay willingly he ...
A. 22 August 2008: Small claims court or an eviction notice. Scare the bugger that you are serious about kicking him out.
If the house is rented then why not get your landlord to come and threaten him with eviction so you can get a new House Mate.
Either that o... (read in full...)
Why can't I be a normal, decent person?
Q. Hi there... you see, this problem is not about appeareances like most of the post with that title could possibly be. I'm not a good, decent person. I shout at other people (including my family members) i sneer every cristmas/birthday/whatev...
A. 22 August 2008: You are the absolute embodiment of someone who uses their behaviour to drive people away as a defence mechanism.
But you are not as much of a loser as you think because you are trying to stop it. You are recognising that this is not the person y... (read in full...)
She thinks me telling her I loved her was "drunk talk"! What now?
Q. I'm absolutely in love with this girl i know, but she only sees me as a friend. We were at a party a few weeks ago and whilst i was drunk i toldher that i loved her but now she dosent believe it, thinking it was just drunk talk. We are really good ...
A. 22 August 2008: You told her how you feel and she obviously rejected you.
Now she is giving you a get out clause so there is nothing awkward between you.
Accept that she doesn't love you and spend a bit less time with her so you can start to get over her.
... (read in full...)
I have a history of mental problems and I'm feeling depressed again. Should I end it with him?
Q. Hi, please help. My boyfriend and I have been going out for approximately 3 months.. I have a history of mental problems, such as depression, anorexia, emetophobia/severe OCD, and have always had a problem talking to boys. I would not even s...
A. 22 August 2008: Write it all down in a note and then hand it to him.
Tell him as much as you want to about your past but all he really needs to know is that you have problems and it's getting worse when you are around him.
If you were a lung cancer patient a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend crossed the line and called me a "dirty whore"!
Q. Sometimes i dont know what to do. Things just haven't been going my way lately. Me and my boyfriend argue about the simplest things. But today he crossed the line and called me a dirty whore. There was no reaction to that reply i just turned my head ...
A. 22 August 2008: Why wouldn't you tell him how hurt he makes you? Why would you try and protect him from that at the cost to yourself?
I think your arguments are obviously escalating now to the point where you are both losing control, possibly because he's try... (read in full...)
How can I make my man really happy?
Q. I am a stay at home mom of a 16 month old and a 5 month old. I have been married for 1 year, I have been with my husband for 2 years but we've known eachother for 8 years. I am 27 and he is 33. I find myself wanting him to be home because I miss him ...
A. 21 August 2008: God you're going to be making people sick - your marriage is perfect!!
Why don't you find out if there is anything on in town and surprise him with a day out / evening out doing something new and exciting.
Get a baby sitter, rent a hotel roo... (read in full...)
He says I'm great but he "can't get into it" and won't explain. What does he mean?
Q. I liked a man for 3 years and we never dare approach each other until 6 months ago, we then saw each other most days, now he says im the nicest girl he ever met, kind, caring and gorgeous but he cant get into it and no longer talks to me other than ...
A. 21 August 2008: Well if he's watching you for 3 years then he probably built you up and put you on a pedistal in his mind. He made you impossibly perfect and now Shock Horror, he has discovered you are actually a normal human being who has likes and dislikes that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes watching S&M but not doing it. Where's the thrill?
Q. My question is bout my boyfriend. We are both the same age. On the surface he looks just like any other guy, has a job and generally gets on with things. Very outgoing and great with people. Grew up in a normal family that likes each other and still ...
A. 21 August 2008: I think you've answered your own question.
You say in the first question that you think that pain is really the opposite of what sex should be.
I think your boyfriend probably agrees with you on that. He wants to make love to you because he l... (read in full...)
Is it fun to watch a girlfriend have sex with another guy?
Q. im thinking about asking my girlfriend to have sex with another guy while i watch. is this fun?...
A. 21 August 2008: You might find it fun in your mind but you may find the jealousy destroys you in real life.
Why not get her to tell you about stuff she has done with other guys and ex boyfriends?
That way you can ease into it, and talk about swinging and wif... (read in full...)
I want to be a boy toy!
Q. I've dreamed about a mature older women taking me in as her boy toy for, like, forever. She doesn't have to be rich, per se, but I want her to wear the pants. (I find being dominated totatally sexy) How can I find a woman like this and signal ...
A. 21 August 2008: Well you could find an online group, you could get a job as a pool boy / bar man at your local country club, or you could get work as an escort.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I keep messaging my long distance boyfriend?
Q. Hi posted a question a few days ago now about wanting advice about a guy i was seeing who relocated. Basically i spoke to him this week on the pc and he logged off !! He hasnt been back on since what gets me is he seems to have taken what happened ...
A. 21 August 2008: Well take it that it's over, send him a final email saying goodbye and start moving on.
If he wants it to work then he can reply asking to work things out, but running away like this and leaving you in limbo is just not on.
Take action a... (read in full...)
There's no spark with my current guy, but my ex turns me on.
Q. I have a question. I'm in such a hard spot right now. I been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we should have broken up after the first week. I don't feel attracted to him anymore because he makes me so upset all the time. He is like a f...
A. 21 August 2008: I'm going to disagree with lonelybutnotalone.
Although she is right that an initial spark will fade after 3 years, that is NO excuse to stay with someone who makes you uphappy. Do you honestly think your boyfriend is happy in a sexless relation... (read in full...)
I thought he was untrustworthy. He thought I was too fussy. Who's right?
Q. What do you think is happening in his head? I ended it for good with him at the begining of the year. He wanted to try again but i didn't want to. He had lied a few times and he is one of those guys you find hard to trust because he is quite se...
A. 21 August 2008: Any guy who tells you "I'm the best you are going to get" is NEVER the right guy for you. Also a man that tells you to pass on a threat of violence is a complete idiot. The only reason he would do that was if he was a coward and wanted to intimidate ... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend over-react to an innocent comment?
Q. So i've been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now, i'm 17 yet this relationship progressed alot and we were close together. Me and my girlfriend got drunk yesterday (I know, i'm underage) and I felt it in quite a bad way. I was with my girl...
A. 20 August 2008: If she is still angry and not talking to you then you may just have to give her some time.
Send her an email or a text letting her know that you want to talk about things and sort them out. That way she has to read it even if she doesn't reply.
... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend over-react to an innocent comment?
Q. So i've been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now, i'm 17 yet this relationship progressed alot and we were close together. Me and my girlfriend got drunk yesterday (I know, i'm underage) and I felt it in quite a bad way. I was with my girl...
A. 20 August 2008: Wow, she obviously has some issues with something. Lesbians may have something to do with it. But to be honest I think it was probably more the fact that she was drunk.
Some people just turn nasty when they get drunk. I know a few people who have... (read in full...)
Heartache from a guy at work, and blackmail from another guy. I hate going to work now.
Q. i really like him! thers a guy at work that i really like and the feelings are mutual or so he says but he says he is not ready for a relationship at the min! we shared a kiss when on a work night out but thts as far as it went. we text each other ...
A. 20 August 2008: Firstly, the guy blackmailing you can be scared off easily.
Either a) tell your boss he is threatening to spread horrible rumours about you, and it's making you want to quit, or b) get in first and tell people about it so he has nothing.
My ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and have never had a relationship. Help!
Q. Okay, first time speaking out about all this, here goes: I'm 23 and a virgin, never been in a relationship/kissed/etc. I'm a college graduate, starting up grad school soon. I have a few female friends, but they're either in relationships or...
A. 20 August 2008: I think you are just going to have to stop thinking about it and get on with action.
You need to figure out where you stand with your friend. If you have feelings for her but she doesn't have them for you then she could be holding you back. Yo... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable by wanting to leave my house to my children rather than my husband?
Q. Hi. I have been with my husband for two years. He moved into the house that I own from proceeds of a settlement from a previous relationship that produced children.. he came with basically nothing just a good wage. Since we were married my ...
A. 20 August 2008: Well it depends if he's paying into the mortgage or not.
From his point of view he needs to plan for his future. He doesn't have a place of his own, he won't be able to get a mortgage when he's in his 60's or 70's and wants to know that he is no... (read in full...)
She has made it clear that she is not interested in dating. Do I persevere anyway?
Q. i met a lady through online dating and we hit it off went out on roughly 4 dates and she indicated she was interested in me. She then rang and told me that her old boyfreind had contacted her and she was going to try again with him. this rather ...
A. 20 August 2008: You can't control feelings for an ex sometimes and she was very upfront and told you straight away that she was sorry but had to give this a chance.
Your email did sound hurtful: after only 4 dates, telling someone how they should feel and what... (read in full...)
Does your boyfriend watch endless hours of tv?
Q. Does your boyfriend watch endless hours of tv? I am so sick of it! It is on from the minute he gets home, until he finally falls asleep! We used to have fun together, but now I stay in the living room, on my computer and he stays in the bedroom ...
A. 20 August 2008: Arrange to do things in advance.
He's probably thinking that you are on your computer so has has nothing else to do but watch tv.
Tell him when you wake up that you want to go to the cinema after work and arrange with him then what to see and ... (read in full...)
How do I give away my identity to a mature, strong lady?
Q. I'm 19 and I want to give away my identity to mature, strong lady. How do I find that kind of woman and signify my willingness?...
A. 20 August 2008: Well you write all your bank details and credit card numbers down and hand them over.
Voila - identity gone.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to have him come back here without knowing what the future will be?
Q. The man I have been dating for three years relocated due to his work. We discussed the job opportunity together before he accepted believing it was the best decision for him financially. We also talked about how often he would come here, which was ...
A. 19 August 2008: I think the anonymous person below has a good idea.
Talk to him and ask him how long it will be before he clears debts? Or build savings? or what ever it is he needs to work so much for.
Set a goal and also help him to look for work in your... (read in full...)
I kept a secret and he found out, now he can't trust me
Q. i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband ...
A. 19 August 2008: Yeah, I would be pissed off it you made me homeless too.
That is a pretty major thing.
I think all you can do is send him a letter or an email or a text and tell him how sorry you are and explain exactly what you did and why you did it. Perh... (read in full...)
Is there a downside to taking the pill?
Q. hi, i was wondering is there any bad side effects from taking the pill? thanks xx...
A. 19 August 2008: There are lots of little side effects, you'd have to read the leaflet that comes with each one.
My first one gave my bad PMT, I just wanted to cry for a week before my period.
The second one was brilliant and stopped me getting headaches and ma... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to have him come back here without knowing what the future will be?
Q. The man I have been dating for three years relocated due to his work. We discussed the job opportunity together before he accepted believing it was the best decision for him financially. We also talked about how often he would come here, which was ...
A. 18 August 2008: I think it is only fair that if you are asking a guy to end his career for you then he has to get just that: You.
You may be miserable with out him but is it just that you are miserable due to the situation? Rather than specifically being without ... (read in full...)
I kept a secret and he found out, now he can't trust me
Q. i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband ...
A. 17 August 2008: If it was a major thing that is going to affect him and your life together then yes he has a right to be angry.
If it was something small then he was just looking for an excuse to blow up and get out.
Give him some time to cool down and then ar... (read in full...)
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