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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Happily committed but am dreaming of a guy I worked with. What's going on here?
Q. I am 22 and in a happy committed relationship to a wonderful man. However, I keep dreaming about contacting this guy that I used to work with. Nothing ever happened between us but there was intense flirting between us and there was an intense ...
A. 24 June 2008: I guess that, like you said, you want to feel "those strong mysterious feelings again", because that is very, very nice.
We all have feelings for people we shouldn't have feelings for. We're just human and were made to feel attraction for othe... (read in full...)
My husband gets firm erections in his sleep. But he can't get one with me!
Q. My husband gets firm erections ,in sleep. But he can't get one with me,or not when he tried masturbating just to try it, how it works. So it looks like something is not ok with his sexual desire, or he shot it down,for some unknown reason.He is sure ...
A. 24 June 2008: This is very clearly psychological. All his equipment works perfectly well. There is something that is disturbing his mind. He should try to determine what it is, if he doesn't know yet.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and I don't feel guilty. Do I have no morals or is it a reflection of my crumbling relationship?
Q. Why don't I feel guilty for cheating? I've been with my bf for a year and things have been really bad between us for a while now, we can't seem to fix it but he won't let me break up with him. Last night I ended up giving a blow job to a guy from...
A. 24 June 2008: Cheating is a bad thing, but we should be careful in considering it synonym with having "no morals". Having no morals means you don't have absolutely any, and that doesn't happen often with human beings.
Whether your cheating on your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I recently broke up with the man I love and I really need your help.
Q. I am writing this because i need advice, from either people who have been there or for people who think that they may be able to offer me support. I have just recently broken up with my boyfriend and we were together for almost 2 years. I love him...
A. 23 June 2008: Dear poster, your ex has been very clear with you: he doesn't want to go back to you. I understand your pain, and I don't think anyone wouldn't; but the hard and cold fact is that he isn't coming back. You can hold on to the hope, but you won't ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have an orgasm before ever having a period?
Q. Is it possible for a girl to have an orgasm before she's ever had a period?...
A. 22 June 2008: Of course.... (read in full...)
My best friend is a priest and fell in love with a woman. What should I advise him?
Q. i have a friend. he is a priest.he fell in love with a woman. he is facing in a very crucial decicion-making of wether to give up his career and disregard his vows as a priest in order to be with that girl for good or to just forget her.what can i ...
A. 21 June 2008: Being a priest is more than just a career. It's a lifestyle, and also a choice. By the way, one that is just as valid as any other.
The difficult part of this lifestyle and choice is that you are at fault if you don't give up sex. Many priests ... (read in full...)
Does this confession about his past mean my boyfriend is GAY?!?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while and recently he just confessed something to me that hes never told anybody. When he was younger he had a gay friend (he didnt know he was gay). One night when he stayed the night at his friends house ...
A. 21 June 2008: I think there's room to speculate that your boyfriend may indeed be gay or bisexual. Pay attention to my words: I say "speculate".
The thing is, he told you he's had homosexual sex more than once. He also mentioned "his friend's mother" ... (read in full...)
Why do women like to tease men about sex??
Q. Why do women like to tease men about sex? Why not just be open to their needs instead of making it such a big deal!!!...
A. 21 June 2008: You're right, Troubled. Maybe no man has ever teased a woman for sex.
Paradise, maybe you've got yourself a man who has a commitment.... (read in full...)
Why do women like to tease men about sex??
Q. Why do women like to tease men about sex? Why not just be open to their needs instead of making it such a big deal!!!...
A. 21 June 2008: Oh, How I Like Lotusmama. She's telling it like it is. Wonderful: "I tease, and I undestand the consequences". A fine woman she is. The bad thing is, we're not talking about the kind of teasing she does. She does it as a "non-verbal" way to ... (read in full...)
Why do women like to tease men about sex??
Q. Why do women like to tease men about sex? Why not just be open to their needs instead of making it such a big deal!!!...
A. 20 June 2008: Troubled, you have been lucky.... (read in full...)
Why do women like to tease men about sex??
Q. Why do women like to tease men about sex? Why not just be open to their needs instead of making it such a big deal!!!...
A. 20 June 2008: Well, I have seen the point of view of three women. They all have said that they don't tease, and I believe them. Do we listen to what the MEN say? At some point of their lives, most men (if not all) have come to think that we just DON'T ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am at crossroads in my marrige...all advice really appreciated!
Q. I have been married for 6 years, this is my second marriage I'm 41 my hubby is 40.My first husband was controlling and aggressive and violent. One of the reasons I was attracted to my second husband was the fact that he was undemanding, kind, co...
A. 20 June 2008: Let's see if I understand your problem correctly. Your marriage is good in all areas except in what regards sex and signs of affection. It seems that your husband just isn't interested in doing something serious about his erectile dysfunction. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he isn't in love with me any more. Should I keep trying?
Q. Ive been with my partner for 5years. The last 6months ive had depression and i didnt no, but in that time i said nasty stuff to him that i didnt mean. Last weekend we broke up over the phone as we live with his parents in their garage and it was ...
A. 20 June 2008: Whatever you do, just don't ever give up.... (read in full...)
Can't cope with his colourful ex girl/boyfriend!
Q. i am in a new relationship.my dude and i have been together for 2 months and he just revealed to me that he was with a transexual. im so very disgusted and i cant even look at him in the face anymore. should i try to get pass it becus it was in his ...
A. 19 June 2008: I think Baby Duck is right. Think whether this is too much for you, or not.... (read in full...)
Blonde, skinny, and beautiful--so why can't I find a great guy?
Q. im young, blonde, skinny, and beautiful.(i'm not trying to be conceited) but i cant seem to find good a guy...im not sure if this is my fault or i just have bad luck?...
A. 19 June 2008: You sound like a woman that would attract every man. All right, some would say they don't like blondes, just to play "better" than the rest. Your being pretty, however, is no guarantee that you will attract good men. You will attract everybody, ... (read in full...)
Am I nuts for staying with this little boy for security?
Q. Ok. Here is my deal now. I have a 12 year old and her father and me usto fight like crazy when she was little so we broke up. I didn't date seriously for 7 seven years. I finally let someone love me and this kid is a bastard. My daughter has alre...
A. 19 June 2008: I think you're staying with this little boy because you don't want to be lonely. What you want, as a saying of ours goes, is "a little dog that will bark at you".
You're not his mum. I think you would do well in leaving him. My guess is that ... (read in full...)
I have been dreaming I have sex, what do they mean?
Q. help! i have been having dreams where i am accually haveing sex, and i dunno what they mean. i have had 2 dreams like that, the first one made me not want to ever have sex but the second one made me feel different can someone help me?...
A. 19 June 2008: I have those dreams when I truly want to have sex.... (read in full...)
Long-distance confusion... I feel like I'm settling for being second-best, should I walk away?
Q. I met this woman almost a year ago thru work. We live in diff countries. She came to visit here in the US and stayed for a week. Amazing sex, conversation, etc, we got along fantastic. She came to visit for 2 more weeks and another amazing visit. ...
A. 18 June 2008: I make Tisha-1's words mine:
"she's adamant about keeping you on the hook, squirming madly while she goes on about her life. Sounds very lop-sided to me."
You are very sexually attracted to her and you find many things in her that you just li... (read in full...)
I find myself panicking about being in a long-term relationship...
Q. My bf and I had our first anniversary about a week ago, and now we've been together for a year I find myself freaking out about being in a long-term relationship. I feel guilty every time he touches me and I can't look him in the eye. What's going ...
A. 18 June 2008: In my humble opinion, you don't really love this guy. When you're happy with someone you don't worry about how long it will last.... (read in full...)
I have a very high sex drive and his is practically inexistent, I've never cheated on anyone before but I'm worried I might!...
Q. I've been with my bf for a year and love him lots but recently I developed a crush on a guy at work. Recently things have developed with my crush, and he told me he liked me and wants to have sex with me. I told him I like him but I'm in a ...
A. 18 June 2008: It is obvious that there's a serious problem here. You want help about not cheating, but I think that the root of the problem should be dealt with first. If you want him sexually, and he doesn't, but will masturbate beside you while you're asleep, ... (read in full...)
Should I let go or should I hold on?
Q. I was with someone 3 years ago, the relationship went "open-ended" when he decided to pursue his career elsewhere. We agreed to remain friends although we seldomly contact each other since. He came back after a year and when I saw him, I realized I ...
A. 18 June 2008: I fully agree with Smiles. I think that the "Open-ended" relationship was just a way to, er, sort of, kind of, maintain a link with him so he might just want to be back with you. It is clear he won't. Whatever romantic interest he had, it's ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my foster mother. Please help.
Q. I find this hard to talk about, but i've got no where else to turn; i've finnaly plucked up the courage to ask someone about this, and I need a little advice. Basically, i'm just going to get straight to the point. I'm in love with my foster m...
A. 18 June 2008: Of course this is wrong, but more so in the case of your foster mother. She's the adult here.
This is a very difficult thing. It's exactly as if you were sleeping with your mother. And the problem is, the one who should be solving the problem,... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he isn't in love with me any more. Should I keep trying?
Q. Ive been with my partner for 5years. The last 6months ive had depression and i didnt no, but in that time i said nasty stuff to him that i didnt mean. Last weekend we broke up over the phone as we live with his parents in their garage and it was ...
A. 18 June 2008: I wouldn't try again. He says he isn't in love with you anymore; that is what matters, and that is what makes it a lost cause. He's also saying he "loves you", but that is just his way of softening the blow.
I think you should move on and see ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from my boyfriend! We're starting a break in four days, any advice on what to do or how to keep him?
Q. im getting mixed signals from my boyfriend, please help me! it may be a bit long but ok...we have been dating for 6 months having our minor daily fights like normal couples. i know he loves me very much and i love him very much. he has proven it by ...
A. 18 June 2008: Whenever someone asks for a break, there is trouble. In the end, all the convoluted words just mean one thing: that the other person wants out, but either wants to keep an option to be back, or is trying to get out little by little. His slowly ... (read in full...)
I've dug a hole for myself, what do I do now?
Q. So I started dating this girl in December and over the course of a couple months I have led her to believe that I spent some time after high school travelling because I was extremely insecure about entering University as late as i did...I was ...
A. 18 June 2008: Tell her the truth, from this day on. Not only is this the right thing to do: as good ol' Mark Twain said, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything". You might have some trouble, but it would be way worse if you let this ... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 17 June 2008: I can't speak for other men, but I wouldn't call you abnormal.... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I caught an std years ago and wouldnt know it?
Q. this is a long one but i really need some advice. my fiance and i have been together for about a year and a half now. niether one of us have been with anyone else as we both believe in being completely faithful. but i tend to get these yeast ...
A. 17 June 2008: Well, I did a little search (www.medicinenet.com) and he does have a disease: a yeast infection. So do you. I recommend that you see a doctor with your fiancé, and the explanation he will give will make him understand that you have been ... (read in full...)
Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 17 June 2008: Well, like someone said, you have trouble connecting to women. That's something you need to fix.
Have you ever thought that prostitutes are girls, too, and they have feelings, fall in love, have dreams, et cetera? Have you ever thought that, fo... (read in full...)
She says the affair "just happened" what does it mean?
Q. My wife had an affair. We have tried to talk about it, and she said 'it just happened'. What does this mean. Is she putting it down to the hand of God. I've pressed her on the point but she maintains it just happened. Explain please....
A. 17 June 2008: It means she doesn't want to give any explanations. She doesn't care if you're in pain.... (read in full...)
Guys, why do you flirt when you're not interested?
Q. Can any guy answer me one question? Why do you flirt with girls if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every guy does this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what?? Because in the end you hurt the ...
A. 17 June 2008: Well, I think that now I have some questions for you:
Why do you flirt with guys if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every girl seems to do this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what? Because ... (read in full...)
My friend is after my girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. one of my friends is hangin out wiv my girlfriend and puttin his head on her lap and being very obvious about it wot am i meant to do ...
A. 17 June 2008: You are meant to talk to him right away. You are meant to tell him that you have noticed he's making too many moves at your girl, and you want him to stop. If possible, wait for him to put his head on her lap, and ask the question in front of her. ... (read in full...)
Would I be a bad person if I left my gf due to her past...it makes me cringe to think about it...
Q. What should I do about my gf's past? I think about it every single day, multiple times a day, the closer and more I feel for her the more intense this problem becomes. She has been very promiscuous, sleeping with around 20 people of which most all ...
A. 17 June 2008: Baby Duck, that was a wise t-shirt!... (read in full...)
Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 17 June 2008: Sorry, "you're" asking, not "your".... (read in full...)
Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 17 June 2008: Your asking many questions :-). Let's try to answer them, one by one.
Should you have sex with prostitutes? This question has many aspects to it. I will give you some ideas and YOU will make your own decision. I usually don't like it when som... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 17 June 2008: Sorry, "the damned bastard wasn't giving HER what SHE needs".... (read in full...)
Has my husband blown me out for his son? AmI being selfish?
Q. I'm really confused, my husband and i live seperately, are still married and still love each other very much. At weekends when my children 15, 12 and 10 go with their dad, i stop over at my hubbys house, we watch Dvds, curl up on the sofa together ...
A. 17 June 2008: This is a good question, but one I would want some clarification about.
I understand this man is your husband. I assume the three children are not his; they are from a previous marriage. For some reason, you're not living together. Fine. W... (read in full...)
Guys, why do you flirt when you're not interested?
Q. Can any guy answer me one question? Why do you flirt with girls if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every guy does this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what?? Because in the end you hurt the ...
A. 17 June 2008: I will put some salt to the wound: what if, as is often the case, the guy/girl mistakes the flirting for "something else" and gets heartbroken? Can we really say flirting doesn't have any consequences?... (read in full...)
Guys, why do you flirt when you're not interested?
Q. Can any guy answer me one question? Why do you flirt with girls if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every guy does this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what?? Because in the end you hurt the ...
A. 17 June 2008: Poster, I very much agree with the way you have put your question. I can't understand that sort of flirting, either. In my humble opinion, you flirt when you want to go for it, or you don't flirt. Because of the very reasons you gave.
Let's... (read in full...)
Sex or money??
Q. ok, would you rather have a person that has good money that can support you but suck in bed OR have a person that pleasure you so good in bed that you can't help but be with them but they ask you once in a while if they could help you with a bill or ...
A. 17 June 2008: Ah, just one thought that came to my mind. You can "train" a person to be better in bed, and the mere thought of it is nice. But you can also learn to make money. Necessity has been known to be the driving force of innovation and a very good way ... (read in full...)
Sex or money??
Q. ok, would you rather have a person that has good money that can support you but suck in bed OR have a person that pleasure you so good in bed that you can't help but be with them but they ask you once in a while if they could help you with a bill or ...
A. 17 June 2008: I have my own answer for this question. I don't think you should have a relationship with anyone just because that person can pay your bills. I will give a very selfish reason for that: love life is extremely important, so it better be good. ... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 17 June 2008: The way you asked your questions is biased. It suggests that men cheat and women don't. That all women have enough with one man, only. That there is only one reason for an action: if I eat chocolate ice cream, for example, there can be one ... (read in full...)
Would I be a bad person if I left my gf due to her past...it makes me cringe to think about it...
Q. What should I do about my gf's past? I think about it every single day, multiple times a day, the closer and more I feel for her the more intense this problem becomes. She has been very promiscuous, sleeping with around 20 people of which most all ...
A. 17 June 2008: We find this question every so often. I believe that the advice I can give is very simple, and is simply a description of what your options are. Either you accept her as she is, with her past, yes, and all the good things she brings to the ... (read in full...)
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