He broke up with me but keeps in contact. Is he trying to be a FWB?
Q. I am 39 and my ex boyfriend is 38. We both have two teens apiece and are single parents. I'm divorced. We dated for 4 and a half months. Things were good but he broke up with me saying he didn't think things were going to work out and he didn't wa...
A. 19 June 2017: I hope all went well with your surgery. Don't blame yourself because he does not want to settle down with you, it is nothing to do with you personally and more to do with him and the fact that he is not ready to give up his freedom. ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair a couple of years ago. Should I write to the woman and ask some questions?
Q. my husband had an affair a couple years ago, he says it is over but I have my doubts. She does not live near us anymore. I want to write her a letter and ask her if he has called her or written her a letter. If he has what has he told her, did he...
A. 19 June 2017: This is not about writing a letter. The issue here is you are not happy any more because you don't trust your husband any more. Honestly why stay in this marriage with someone who not only cheated on you, but someone you cannot trust any more. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my Bf quit weed?
Q. My boyfriend smokes weed and he lies to me that he doesnt. I know he loves me a lot and will never ditch me, but my parents wont accept him, if he doesnt quit weed. He knows that too but he just doesn't quit it. He wants to marry me but i can't g...
A. 19 June 2017: You can't make him quit. He needs to want to do it for himself. He may love you, but he loves weed more. He is prepared to lie to you in order to keep smoking it. I think you need to make a choice, either be with him or not, but if you are going to ... (read in full...)
Should I continue my relationship? Or end this relationship? Should I heed my mother's advice?
Q. Hi there! I was wondering if you could help me...Basically, there's a situation I'm in where I just need some advice and guidance. So, I'd be grateful to receive some answers. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly half a year now and I've known h...
A. 19 June 2017: I agree with your mother, yet it is your life and your future. I accept that you love him, but is that enough for the future? Do you want marriage? Children? A house? If he cannot be bothered looking for work at the moment then you can bet that ... (read in full...)
Advice please? I'm 17, doing my A levels, and I really want to have a baby.
Q. I'm only 17 but I am really wanting to have a baby. I've been with my amazing, supportive boyfriend for coming up to 2 years and he's everything to me. I'm currently having a really hard time at sixth form with my A levels, and have had to chan...
A. 16 June 2017: That would be selfish off you to expect your and his parents to help. Don't have a baby until you are old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibility yourself. you simply don't have the resources to have a child at the moment. You have no ... (read in full...)
What should I do? A shower get with sparkly elements for men? What could be the explanation?
Q. Hi there guys/gals My boyfriend who I have a long distance relationship came around although asked me to run him a bath whilst on the way. When he arrived I made him a cup of tea so he sat on the bed to drink it before he had his bath. I coul...
A. 16 June 2017: If you don't trust him then don't be with him. It is clear that you don't. I mean if my boyfriend came home with glitter on him I would never assume he was cheating. Is the long distance working for you? Or do you feel it makes you insecure? Figure ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I feel I can't trust him anymore after what's happened.
Q. Hi I've been in what I thought was a happy relationship for the past 3 and a half years. A couple of weeks ago I went on my Facebook and seen he had became friends with 2 women. I asked who they were and he denied he had added anyone. I had my s...
A. 16 June 2017: He done it because he is not serious about you. You will never be able to trust him and if you forgive him for this then you have a future off him cheating to look forward to simply because he feels he can get away with it. ... (read in full...)
I think this 55 year old man may be harassing me. Can someone help me with this problem?
Q. Hey can someone help me out? Gonna explain the story here sorry if its long. Im 20 years old. I live in a small town where they're aren't many bars and there are like 2 or three bars people go to. My boyfriend is a regular at one he's been going ...
A. 16 June 2017: Change your number and be more careful who you give it to in future.... (read in full...)
Would you stay with a guy who doesn't think you are a "vital" part of his life???
Q. Would you be with a guy who knows he is a vital part of your life but he tells you that you are NOT a vital part of his???...
A. 16 June 2017: No I wouldn't, its obvious you both want different things.... (read in full...)
I went away with my boyfriend but now that we're back home, I feel like he's tired of me
Q. My boyfriend and I went away on a mini vacation for four days together. We both had such a fun time. It's a drag to be back home to be honest. On the car ride back, my boyfriend was feeling down because the trip was coming to an end. I felt down ...
A. 16 June 2017: Everyone needs space in relationships, yes am sure he was sad the four days came to an end, but it is nice to have time to yourself as well. Don't take it personally. Find something to distract you. Catch up with friends and enjoy your day.... (read in full...)
I want to end our 3 year relationship its unhealthy and toxic but I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfiend for over three years since we were 15. The relationship has taken a massive downward spiral over the past few months and I have had doubts about this relationship for around 6 months. She has done many tihings that ...
A. 16 June 2017: Don't book the holiday just tell her you don't want to. Wait until after the exams so you both have a good shot at them. Then be honest with her and tell her it is not working for you any more. Yes it will hurt her and you may feel upset as well, ... (read in full...)
He used to like me, tells people he doesn't like me, but does he?
Q. I'm 15 and talking to this guy I've had a crush on for this whole year. He used to like me but doesn't anymore apparently. I was out with friends the other night and when they were picking me up at my house the guy I like said I looked hot asf, my ...
A. 16 June 2017: If he liked you then he wouldn't be talking dirty to you. The reason he is doing that is because he knows you like him so he is seeing how far he can push you sexually. Don't let him treat you like this. ... (read in full...)
Still devastated over ex, contacted him after 3 months?
Q. While he was in Italy on holiday with his mom who always a burden on our relationship, he told me he wanted to move out with me, and take the next step, I was hopeful. A week later he calls me telling me he has decided to move to Italy for good, ...
A. 15 June 2017: You need to block all his contact details and allow yourself to move on. Yes it was a mistake contacting him because the only person you hurt was yourself. Honestly the best thing to do is give yourself time. Time will heal you, but you need to stay ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 5 years. Why does he need so much attention from other women?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. Throughout the relationship I have caught him engaging in online flirtation. He signs up for dating sites to chat with women, and he uses Facebook to chat with multiple women (sometimes the ...
A. 15 June 2017: My guess is that he is keeping his options open and waiting for someone better to come along. Honestly I would not put up with this, it would make me feel insecure and not enough. I cannot tell you what to do, but personally if it was me I would be ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the negativity of ''friends'' judging our relationship? My Bf and I are happy. But the comments of others are hurtful.
Q. Hey, Now have been with the most amazing man for about 3 and a half years now and I couldn't been more happier. To us there is no issue whatsoever as we are still in love even though we're way past the honeymoon stage lol. I have plenty of fr...
A. 15 June 2017: You stop being friends with them, simple as that. They are not friends if they are being cruel and hurtful.... (read in full...)
How should I approach my parents and family about introducing my Bf to them? Especially as he's 10 years older than me?
Q. Hello, I am 22 years old and in a relationship with a guy ten years older than myself and have been for almost 4 years. My parents have never really objected to me having a partner however them and older members of the family have always told ...
A. 15 June 2017: Honestly I wouldn't even mention his age. Just tell them you are in a relationship you would like them to meet him and take it from their, the more you build it up the more stressful it will be.... (read in full...)
I asked my Bf to delete her from his SnapChat but he has not deleted her. Should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend has snap chat. My friend "let's call her C." added him on Snapchat when we first met him. C. seems to have a problem with me getting in a relationship. Every time I Do, she breaks us up by speaking to my boyfriends and making bad r...
A. 15 June 2017: Honestly I think you should not have her as a friend any more, because she is not a true friend, it is clear she is jealous off you. You don't have the right to tell your boyfriend who he can be friends with so maybe he hasn't deleted her because he ... (read in full...)
Nearly every man I've been with seems to feel no need to compliment me. Is it wrong that I have an emotional need for a partner who can indicate to me that he finds me attractive?
Q. Why do some men think it ok to show obvious attraction and lust for women in porn yet not ever tell their wives or partners once that they are sexy or attractive in any way what so ever ? So they not think a woman will begin to feel hurt that he ...
A. 15 June 2017: I wish I could give you advice on this but am not sure where to begin. I don't have that problem, yet I think you need to find yourself sexy and attractive. I think if you have any insecurities it will play on your mind. Off course most women do ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my LDR Bf who is wonderful but has attachment issues? Or do what?
Q. I'm deeply in love with my long-distance boyfriend of 6 months, but I'm unsure whether I should stay with him. We've been together 6 months and live 200 miles apart, on completely different work schedules. We chat on the phone every couple of days ...
A. 14 June 2017: If you want a part time relationship then sure go for it, but you are already showing signs that it is clearly not enough, he is being honest with you and telling you he has attachment issues. He is offering you himself part time, and other times he ... (read in full...)
I feel deeply conflicted over my 8 year relationship. What should I do?
Q. I am deeply conflicted. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 8 years now. That's right, 8 years. And yes, lately the 8 years have been wearing down on me. I am 32, and I want to be married. He says he wants to be married...
A. 14 June 2017: His friend cannot be to honest when he is trying to chat you up. Not a cool move when he is friends with your boyfriend, this says a lot about him as a person also. I think you need to end things and take some time out on your own to learn how to ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about his response. Please help.
Q. I went through a rough break-up with my ex' two years ago and it's ended in a court case. I have a hard time trusting people now but for the first time in a while someone has caught my eye, and for the right reasons. He isn't my usual type and he'...
A. 14 June 2017: Honestly it doesn't sound like he is much interested. The ball is in his court now, but my guess would be he would have at least contacted you to say hello instead off nothing at all.... (read in full...)
What sacrifices do you make in a relationship? To what extent?
Q. Okay I'm not very "good" at relationships, they only usually work out for a few weeks, but currently I'm in a relationship and have been for 7 months now. I honestly couldn't be happier. I just want to know (from people who have had experien...
A. 14 June 2017: This is a tricky one, you should not have to give up your friends as they are part off you. However it sounds like your boyfriend could be a bit jealous, how would you feel if he was hanging out with girls all the time without you? You should try ... (read in full...)
Recently, my girlfriend starts to bleed everytime she orgasms. What could be wrong with her?
Q. Hello all, I've been with my girlfriend for around seven years. We are our firsts in pretty much everything. Love her to bits still. No fights, good sex life, nothing wrong really. However, something has occurred in our sex-life which I...
A. 14 June 2017: Gynecologist, this is not normal and she needs to be seen SOON! Be there to support her not to judge her!... (read in full...)
Has my love faded?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a few years now but for the last month I have been feeling bored with him.....When we kiss I don't feel any passion, and sex is pretty boring... I don't get any pleasure from it....Is it normal to feel like this? ...
A. 14 June 2017: Maybe try and talk to him and tell him you are not feeling it any more. Maybe you have both just fell in to a bad routine, you could try add some spice in to your relationship. Ask him to try new things in the bedroom and go on date nights.... (read in full...)
Was he leading a double life with me and someone else?
Q. So me and my bf or Ex, have not been speaking some time ago due to a misunderstanding (I believe it was kind of my fault, I did not handle the situation well) also after him finishing his studies he was leaving back to his hometown which is in ...
A. 14 June 2017: Gosh it sounds to me like he has stung you along for six whole years. Am not sure why you would put up with that from him. You need to get this man out off your head, none off us here know what he was up to or who with, but the best thing you can do ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad
Q. We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...
A. 14 June 2017: You both want different things, and unless you can compromise the best thing to do is to end the relationship.... (read in full...)
Why is he not sharing anything about him?
Q. Why is he not sharing anything about him? Okay, this guy I met in tinder we matched. We exchange our phone number and he WhatsApp me. The thing is a rarely text me if I reply he will take too long reply (sometime 6 days long). When I ask he said ...
A. 14 June 2017: He probably gives out his number to lots off girls, honestly he sounds shady, I would delete his number and forget about him.... (read in full...)
Wanting to be seen as Hot. Is it an unrealistic expectation?
Q. I've never been much of a romantic; I don't really believe in love at first sight, or soul mates, and far prefer my relationship to be based on practical criteria over emotions (we have common interests, we have good conversations, we have a similar ...
A. 14 June 2017: It sounds like you have been watching to many movies. Real life is not like a film. Most people don't notice each other the first time, they don't get that feeling off lust. The just meet and get to know each other. Your friends are right looks do ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but why can't get this other guy out of my head? ?
Q. I just need some advice So I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and it's going great! It's the best relationship I've ever had. However there is this guy who I work with, and like we talked for ages and got really close as friends,...
A. 14 June 2017: You need to leave the guy at work alone and you will soon forget about him. You know he wants more so it is selfish off you to try and keep him as a friend when you know he does not want that and it may end up hurting him. Let him go and in time you ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend got blind drunk and cheated on me.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything has literally been perfect, he's treated me so well tells me he loves me every single day and how much I mean to him and that he's completely infatuated with me. However I foun...
A. 14 June 2017: ** I also forgot to say yes he probably did not love you after a few days, but once he began falling for you he should have been honest with you, even if it meant nothing.... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend got blind drunk and cheated on me.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything has literally been perfect, he's treated me so well tells me he loves me every single day and how much I mean to him and that he's completely infatuated with me. However I foun...
A. 14 June 2017: His excuses are weak. Also am sorry but you cannot tell him who he can and cannot see. You are his girlfriend not someone who controls him. He is old enough to make his own decisions. He never told you because it meant nothing, yet he has still kept ... (read in full...)
Are sexual exchanges forms of cheating?
Q. I went snooping through my boyfriend phones because I felt like he was being off with me (I know snooping is wrong and I shouldn't assume from past experiences the worst but I couldn't help my curiosity) I noticed that he has snap chat under a ...
A. 13 June 2017: Off course its a form off cheating, and he is trying to justify it by saying it is nothing and that you are over reacting. I personally don't think I could forgive this, because if you hadn't found them he would never have told you, it is the lies ... (read in full...)
Being threatened by loved ones if I stop taking medication and forced holidays
Q. last year I was diagnosed with depression and have been taking sertraline which was recommend by the doctor, ive had a difficult life and things haven't gotten any easier. my grandfather passed away from cancer five years ago which really affected...
A. 13 June 2017: Mu guess is your mum loves you and that is why she is saying these things as she does not want to see you depressed. The best bet is to make a doctors appointment and tell him how you feel. Maybe he can organize some therapy for you and see if it ... (read in full...)
Living together is making me broke
Q. My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...
A. 13 June 2017: Honestly it sounds like you are better off without her, she loved money more than you!... (read in full...)
I feel low and down when around one of my family members
Q. I just automatically feel so low. It’s not even something I can control or choose –and I read a lot of self-help/improvement books… It just happens. And usually as soon as they go out, I feel like a great physical and mental weight has been ...
A. 13 June 2017: If you don't want to move out until you are in a relationship then that could take some time because am guessing if living at home makes you feel down you are not out looking to date. Honestly you are an adult now and you should get your own life ... (read in full...)
I've fallen hard for a one-night-stand guy. How do I move on?
Q. I got back onto the dating scene a couple of weeks ago after a year of being single. I went onto a dating app and I met someone there. He caught me off guard completely! I fell for him, hard. He was so handsome and charming! I couldn't believe ...
A. 13 June 2017: Okay so you know why he stopped talking to you, he got what he wanted. But if it is effecting you then maybe you are not wanting just fun maybe you are wanting more but you are kidding yourself that you don't.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend?
Q. My best friend started dating a girl from our college. But I've had 3some with that girl before. Should I tell him this?...
A. 12 June 2017: No I don't think you need to tell him, you shouldn't splash her past out to him, at the end off the day it should have no effect on their now relationship.... (read in full...)
How do you let gay men know which role you from the get-go?
Q. What do you do if you get the impression that other gay men think you're a top when you're not? I guess it's my appearance but that's kinda unfair. Has anybody ever experienced this? How can I fix this? ...
A. 12 June 2017: you communicate?... (read in full...)
We broke up but I want my ex back
Q. Hi cupids..I might be all over the place but thank you for reading this. So..I keep calling my ex lately and he hasn't been picking up the last few random times. Of course.. he is probably annoyed since I block my calls.. We broke up 8 months ago. ...
A. 12 June 2017: Honestly you broke up for a reason so I don't think it will work. He felt you both didn't get on well. Eight months is a long time, he is probably not picking up because he has moved on with his life and you should probably do the same. Yes it can ... (read in full...)
My mother says it will ruin my reputation if I am with this guy
Q. Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big ...
A. 9 June 2017: Yes you are right. I hope it all works out for you.... (read in full...)
Drunken fumble, was what the guy did normal making out or was it more than that?
Q. I was at a party recently and we both were pretty drunk and horny, and started making out and it turned into a very intense one. He started moving my hands all around her body including my breasts and my butt, and cupped my breasts and butt ...
A. 1 June 2017: Every girl is different, I wouldn't allow a guy to run his hands all over me unless I was actually dating him. ... (read in full...)
My mother says it will ruin my reputation if I am with this guy
Q. Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big ...
A. 1 June 2017: One thing I hate is people who are racist how dare your family tell you that you cannot date someone because off their color! Honestly you are an adult and free to do as you please, so stand up for yourself and if you want to be with this man then ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but keeps in contact. Is he trying to be a FWB?
Q. I am 39 and my ex boyfriend is 38. We both have two teens apiece and are single parents. I'm divorced. We dated for 4 and a half months. Things were good but he broke up with me saying he didn't think things were going to work out and he didn't wa...
A. 29 May 2017: He openly said to you he was going to break up because he did not want to cheat on you, this says it all. He wants to be free to date other women and get with them. Yes it also sounds like he still wants you in his life, but not as a girlfriend just ... (read in full...)
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