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reader, highland5  +, writes (12 February 2014):
highland5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also must add not to long ago he was looking on the gregs list women seeking men thing.. Really i know what i have to do..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2014):
 YOU FEEL worthless... YOU ARE NOT worthless.
YOU are an important person worthy of love.
The pain of depression is VERY real. Anxiety about your situation adds to that pain. and the knowledge that you should leave a bad relationship but don't is also difficult.
Please continue to work with your doctor and if you don't have a good therapist try to find one to help you sort out how to make this better for YOU... YOU are the only person you must worry about.
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reader, highland5 +, writes (11 February 2014):
highland5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am very depressed very sad.. Thanku for all the advice.. I really do feel worthless. I need anti depressants to had to the sedatives oh add to the sedatives.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2014):
I love my husband and he's an addict and I stay for all the wrong reasons. Staying because you are in love sucks to be honest. I wish i didn't love him... it would make it easier to leave. It does not mean if his behavior is bad I do not hold him accountable.
"relationship repair" is NOT constant criticizing you. that's just abusive. He hides behind the term "relationship repair" so he can abuse you. Is this what you want?
what do you WANT?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 February 2014):
 Why keep taking him back if THAT is how he makes you feel? Do you think he is all you deserve?
Honey, you would be better off alone then with someone who makes you feel that way.
Let him walk and tell him to keep walking.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (9 February 2014):
 Why do you love a man who makes you feel worthless? Do you want to feel worthless for the rest of your life?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 February 2014):
I've left people I love because they had some issues that I considered deal breakers.
Anyone that makes you feel worthless is not worthy of your love. I think you crave his approval and you're never going to get it. Please move on.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 February 2014):
 He is too selfish to love. His leaving is not because he doesn't love you. I don't think he has the capacity to love so the normal rules don't even apply to him. His leaving is to manipulate you to comply to his wishes, to break your spirit so that you are totally in his control. When a person leaves then comes back again and again this is what is called a break up artist. It leaves a more devastating damage than if a person just left, not come back to let you heal and move on. He has a narcissistic streak. When he sees how low you are, the desperate look on your face yearning for his approval, now THIS is love for him. He feels powerful when he makes you weak. You have to stay strong and disagree because this is not how love is supposed to be.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (8 February 2014):
 Three times is a charm. You probably love him a tad bit more than he does you. I do not know. I know I grew to love my ex but not in love with him like I was with others. It was like I was with him out of convience. He help with home children bills but the romance and sex was missing to a degree. I wanted to work on it but he was to set in.his ways to try. I feel some people are not meant to last a lifetime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): Hi - I am sorry for your distress.
You don 't say if you have children or are married.
I am very concerned that you sound so low and feel you need to seek help urgently from a doctor and mental health professional to work out what is going on. It is not all about him, maybe it's about time you started to think if staying with him is makes you happy or perhaps has reduced you to this anxious place. I really hope you can find a really good therapist who can support you through all this, and keep posting with any minor thoughts you want help with, as there are a lot of good people on hear who really do want to offer help and advice.
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