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writes:Been married for three years have a two year old girl just caught my husband looking at pornographers behind my back and lying to me for a year or more.he has already been caught a year ago and promised not to.he knows how bad it hurts me in the past years we both have changed from young everyday sex life to mom and dad work full time at work and home.so sex has been reduced to once every two weeks or longer.but when I say sex I mean more like he gets off from oral first it's always about him he will give me great oral but hardly any real sex.I'm hurt from all the lying behind my back for the past year what do I do I love him so much but I can't trust him how can I fix my marriage we fight all the time and blame one another for everything do I stay or do I leave I feel he enjoys pornographers more then me
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (8 February 2014):
 Excuse my gramma aint no way in the world porn is go compensate or be valued over the real thing. I do not know if you are his type but I do know I watch porn and I pleasure myself in it but a person willing is more or value. I know to if you are not able to perform the wife duties of love making porn will help. Its also better than him going out cheating which is a whole another can of worms. I was involved with my ex I didnt like some of the porn he was into but some I would watch and get horny with him and go from there. But to totally no porn is alot for someone into or that has partaken into the alternative or porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): Things have changed. You have a child and responsibility and I think you are both missing the sex. The porn isn't him cheating on you, but can understand your upset. Step back a little, it's not about leaving, it's about finding out how to fit in having fun again and making time for each other.
Can you get a babysitter, have a night out together and actually talk, enjoy each others company and work out what to do together, without making rash decisions to leave on your own?
Try also to make a little time for yourself, as sounds like your working hard at your job and being a mum and without much support, it might be a turning point you both needed to make the future better.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 February 2014):
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