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writes:To all the married couples, ten years or more:1. If you can go back in time knowing what you know now about your spouse, would you still marry him or her?2. If you won a large jackpot lottery of millions, would you stay with your spouse? Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 January 2010):
 I left my partner earlier this year (oh hang on - last year now lol)and umm, to address the subsequent question - he did cheat on me 17 years ago which was hell and took years to work through to a point where I could again trust him.
That said - yep, despite all that and our eventual split, he is still my best friend (eg: watched movies and got a nice platonic massage last night for the New Years)and I have no regrets whatsoever for the time spent together. Especially not when our beautiful son whom we both adore came out of it.
If we had millions of dollars - well hell yeah, that would have been nice too, and perhaps relieved some of his stress so he wasn't an over worked crabby bastard so much (lol) - and that might have made us stay together longer. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2010): thats hard to answer... Somethings you dont truly know unless you are there...but from where i stand now i will say i dont think it would change my answer.
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reader, To A New Life +, writes (1 January 2010):
To A New Life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo all those who answered yes to both questions:
If you found out your spouse had cheated on you, would that change your answers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): No, I would not get married to them. If I won millions it would make no difference. I have often thought that my wife and I could live in Buckingham Palace and she'd still manage to be unhappy and blame it on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): 1. No
2. No
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): No, I would not get married to them. If I won millions it would make no difference. I have often thought that my husband and I could live in Buckingham Palace and he'd still manage to make me unhappy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Yes to number 1
Yes to number 2, but i would have live my life differently as I would travel to where I want by myself, do more things by myself. Sometimes i want to leave for a week somewhere without my husband, money of-course prevent me from doing that. or I would have my own appartment in a same city, so I can be alone for a few days. After 25 years sometimes u just want to be alone for a short while, and do your own things without consulting w anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): For twenty year's i was married to the most wonderfull woman. A soul mate for life [or so i thaught] We have five great kid's a beautiful home and had great holiday's abroad every year. Now i love'd this woman with all my heart and she knew this but was this enough for her? No the selfish immature fool had an affair with a married man destroying our marrage and lovely family. So if i had known when i married this beautiful [love of my life] woman twenty two year's ago that she was capable of hurting me and our children so so badly in the future there is no way that i would have married her. The sadest thing of all is that she now realize that before her affair we had a wonderfull life and that she just did not appreciate how happy she actually was
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): No
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Yes and Yes
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 December 2009):
 1. Yes
2. Absolutely
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): 1) Yes, if she'd have me. It's been a wonderful time and when I wake each morning I still wonder how in the world I was lucky enough to end up with her.
2) Not likely to win the lottery, (1) was my lifetime allocation of luck.
The real answer is yes, we'd use the money together to get the things we both want, but tinged with the fear that a million dollars could represent a lot of lifestyle change and that brings stresses which I would hope that we would cope with -- but who knows?
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reader, daletom +, writes (21 December 2009):
Yes, I'd marry her - assuming, of course, that she'd marry me! And why should winning the lottery make any difference?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): absolutely yes. To both. No question or doubt. Im one of the lucky ones, but then again...we've put in almost 3 decades together. Hes worked hard to make us a living, if i won the lottery, he would have anything money could buy. Mal
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 December 2009):
 No, but it was not her past - it was who she became and what she did to me in divorce. So I no longer have a spouse, but can I still win the millions?
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