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writes:would you believe a married man, who is not having sexual relations with his wife is taking extenz only for his own self esteem (like you would lift weights or work out) as he claims. Or would you belive he is having sexual relations elsewhere?Would you believe that a married man joins dating services only to look at pictures of REAL people? He claims it is no different than looking at porn except that the people are real and not acting.[Moderator note: two questions from same user combined here into one post.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Why is he not having sexual relations with you? If you are the one who stopped the relations, in my opinion you really have no moral right to stop him from having it elsewhere. Anyways I think there is a small possibility for him to be telling the truth. Some guys don't like porn becoz they feel it is too fake. And your husband may be masturbating and wanting to enhance his self pleasure with some herbal nutrition. I hope he is telling you the truth. But you shouldn't accept or reject his claims quickly if it is very important for you. You need to know more concrete facts.
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reader, Cegana  +, writes (5 November 2009):
No I don't beleive him, I do beleive he is having a lot of sex with a lot of pathetic single women who are desperate online women who for just about anything are at a point in there lives to have sex with married men, because the smart single ones don't want them....
So they are there, for these poor middle age losers who are going through there mid-life crisis....the wives aren't having sex with them because there is a need to use extenze..this is something the whores on the dating sites don't know...so it boosts the man's self-esteem...thats why the wife is not a candidate for sex...they need guinea pigs of the sites..lol
That's what I believe .....
Take care
xoxo
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (5 November 2009):
 nah i wouldn't believe him on either count. especially with the two together.
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reader, mikefounds +, writes (5 November 2009):
Taking Extenz and not having sex with you are probably 2 examples of his low self esteem. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion he is having an affair. He may have performance anxiety because he is small. This performance anxiety makes him hesitant to have sex with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): First off, him taking Extenz, is pretty hilarious.
Secondly, yeah, I agree with everyone else he already has or is in the beginning stages of an affair.
I'm guessing...your marriage is like, the kind where sex is maybe once or twice a month (being in 40's, probably married nearly 20 years - just guessing). If this is the case, HIGH chance he's cheating.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (5 November 2009):
 No i would not believe him i would be questioning him further as to what he takes me for!
You both need to discuss this further, he is on dating sites looking to hook up, that is what they are for and if he has gone as far as this i would be talking this over asap before he even tries to act out, nip this in the bud asap.
Gina
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reader, truthordare  +, writes (5 November 2009):
Any man who needs to join a dating site while they are married or in a relationship is either cheating or wanting to cheat. No one joins a dating site to look at real people.... hell if he wanted to do that he'd b watching amateur or something along those lines.... as for the rest it certainly gives weight to him cheating or wanting to cheat. If i were you hun, I'd be seeing a lawyer and getting a divorce quick smart, and if u wanted to look at other options I'd suggest marriage counseling.... I'm sure if it were happening in the reverse he wouldn't stick around for you to find someone else...even if it was just for fun
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reader, thenotsogreat  + ♥, writes (5 November 2009):
 He is cheating on you, or at least he is in the first stages of it, looking at other women.Why doesn't he want you anymore? Is there something wrong with him that you two could work through? Is marriage counselling an option for you both?This has to be resolved now before it's too late.If it can't be then spare yourself all the crap and divorce him
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reader, satindesire +, writes (5 November 2009):
 First off, Extenz is a scam, he's wasting his money. Talk to any doctor on the planet and they'll tell you that no pill on earth can make you have a larger penis. That's just retarded.
Secondly, if he's not sleeping with his wife, I wouldn't just think he's cheating, I'd think first that he needs to visit a doctor. It's one of three issues, either he's lost his libido, lost his ability to get an erection, or lost his attraction to his wife entirely. Either of those situations requires communication to figure out.
Joining a dating site is to get dates, period. If I caught my husband on a dating site, I'd be getting divorce papers. Porn is porn, dating sites are for dating.
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