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Would it be safe to ask for a Fwb relationship with the neighbor?

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Question - (3 June 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2012)
A male Philippines age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi,

I always have sexual urges to have sex with my neighbor. We're both 15, she's very cute and has a creamy complexion. We're classmates in elementary. And I know that she has a major crush on me. She flirts with me all the time but in the past years I've always ignored her. Now that I'm having these urges. I want her.

Is it safe to ask her for a no strings attached sex relationship? If so, how do I ask her? Please help....=)

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A male reader, Mosaic United States +, writes (5 June 2012):

Mosaic agony aunthow do you know that you just want a no strings attatched relationship? you dont. first off 15 is to young. that being said lets look at this issue as if you were both of legal age. look at the long run because you should never make short term descisions that have long term affects. lets say you ask her and she agrees and you run through her and kick her to the curb. its a jerk thing to do but it is an option. then she tells all her friends about what you did to her, and the person that was gonna end up marying you later on decided to not even give you a chance because of what you had done to the other girls. then you end up a miserable lonley old man with nobody to grow old with. you might not care now. but later on you will and you will have nobody to blame but yourself.

now lets say you ask her and she says no. then she tells all her friends about what you asked her. you see where this is going right? you dont want to end up as the town pervert that girls think is a creep. then you start attracting the broken girls with daddy issues and lots of emotional baggege, the damaged goods if you will. and later on you end up a broken old lonley man with nobody to grow old with and a whole truckload of your own emotional baggage. maybe you should try asking her out sience you both seem to like eachother. any outcome from that situation is going to be better than a FWB situation. dont make the mistakes i made. a player will drown with nobody to help but a real man will have someone to throw him a life perserver.

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A female reader, maverick494 United States +, writes (5 June 2012):

If you can't control your urges you're not mature enough for sex, end of story, never mind the whole legal issues and the fact you'll probably make her pregnant. Recipe for disaster if I ever saw one.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (5 June 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntWhenever you feel one of those urges jump in the shower and turn it to "C".

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012):

Thanks for the replies. But what should I do to get it out of my head? I can't stop thinking about her.

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

dmartin89 agony auntYou don't. You are both childeren! Put your nose in a book, wat h TV, play a video game. Anything other than sex at your age!

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A male reader, PotF Fan United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

PotF Fan agony auntYeah i was going to say your too young but N91 has that covered. So this girl likes you and presumably wants a relationship and you are going to ask her for sex and nothing else because that's what FWB 'relationships' are. Do not abuse a woman's feelings for you for your base sexual desire as it is wrong. Yes these urges may be overwhelming at times but what your suggesting is wrong. Then we go back to the age issue and the answer is clear. NO

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 June 2012):

Honeypie agony auntYou are 15 ! You do not NEED a FWB or casual sex. And with a neighbor? bad move. What if she actually likes her and you jsut want sex? Then you are STUCK living near her.

PS. You don't want a FWB you just want to use her. Be honest.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

N91 agony auntNo, because you're either 13,14 or 15 and it's illegal.

Concentrate on school.

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