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writes:I am 15 years old and have a very cool thing that I can do with my voice, I am able to make my voice sound like a girl. I was about 8 when I found out I could do this and very well in fact that everyone on Xbox thought I was a girl. I pretended to be a girl to this one guy for almost 2 years, I was about 9 when i did this, and at first I was like lol this kid is so dumb. But later as time when by I got more Intimate about it and actually liked the guy, but only when I was using that voice. I never saw a friend as a attractive person or ever had thoughts about having sex with him, but when I pretend or almost switch my mind from jack to grace I start loving that person I am doing that too, and have no other thoughts of my normal life or anything else. It is now at the point when ill do it like maybe every 5 months and when I do it it lasts into a long relationship and either end it with I died or I think we should move on. Never I was a guy or I have a dick. Just leaving that person as if i would if I was a actual girl. I have been told it might be MPD because I don't just sound like a chick I act like one and have a mid just like one, and I filter all the words I would say to my friends like, Bro, Dude, whats up, homie, etc. I make a character in my mind and play it. It is so detailed that i even have all of my family members names, my BDAY, over 100s of pictures of the same girl on my phone and PC and have a whole backstory and a future set for this so called character. Sometimes I lay in bed texting them and say I wish we could meet, and I mean i want to meet at my character not of my self or being transgender. I am a complete different person when I am myself, I play football and basketball all day and hate school, but love it for the sports, but some of my characters are super smart and I can act like a nerd, or anything I tell my mind to do. I've asked my drama teacher about this and she said maybe that's why I can act and lie very well. I really need help on what this is, am I gay, bi, MPD. I really don't know. I'm not sexually attracted to the person until I put on an act and say I am. Please I need help. and yes I love girls at my school and I have dated many girls int the past and one right now. Please help!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 August 2016):
 What you are doing is known as catfishing. There’s an MTV show that shows people who put on fake personas online, over text and the phone. Generally, the catfish type is hiding behind the persona due to low self-esteem, gender or sexual confusion, or just because they are plain mean.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catfishing
I’d talk to someone about this before you wind up really hurting someone else, or creating a situation that is dangerous for yourself. People don’t like being fooled, unless they have paid money to go see a movie, a magician, a play or other entertainment.
I think it would be something you could talk with your doctor about, ask for a counselor. Talk to the school counselor as well.
Pretending to be someone else is fine as long as other parties involved are aware you are doing so.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 August 2016):
 I think you like attention, but I also think you NEED to start to consider HOW much you are HURTING other people with these games.
1. the girl who's pictures you are using.
2. the guy who THINKS he has a relationship or friend with this girl all the while he is just being USED as a prop in your little head-game "play".
3. yourself. You don't let these people get to know YOU as YOU are, you are fake. A fictional character, nothing more.
While those skills you mention would HELP you make a good actor, or at least voice actor, right now? ALL you are doing is messing with people. Cat-fishing. (as it's called)
Do I think you have MPD? No. (not that I could diagnose you any ways) I think you have a VERY active imagination, that you are not a very empathetic person, and that you perhaps is a bit more lonely than you want to accept.
TALK to your school counselor ( your drama teacher is not trained to help with these kind of issues) And possibly get some help from a "real" therapist.
Take some creative writing classes maybe? Continue with the drama, but but for goodness sake, STOP messing with other people's head and hearts like that. It's not cool at all.
While making up characters, voices and back stories SOUND cool - I'm pretty sure NO ONE who is on the receiving end think it's cool if they knew.
And talk to your parents.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 August 2016):
 Hi there,
This is actually a kind of issue that actors face a lot. This is also why drama therapy can be a terribly dangerous (if you ask me). Sometimes the pull of a character is so strong, that you get kind of addicted to falling into their life. That's the fun part of theater - you get to drop yourself at the door, and step into someone else's life for awhile. Unfortunately, sometimes the other life is far more exciting, and you get consumed by it. Like having a enormous crush on a character - that you're playing.
It sounds like what you're experiencing is less of question of sexual orientation or mental disorder, and maybe more like you're just really into role play.
Are you involved in theater? Maybe what you need is to play some new roles, to distance yourself from the one you've been stuck in for the last two years. It's all fun and games, but probably not for the other REAL PEOPLE that you're lying to.
Start auditioning and maybe start doing exactly what you are doing the RIGHT way. In a safe place, where other people are living the fantasy along with you - but nobody is lying, and nobody really gets hurt.
Or, when you're a little older, you can explore the world of role play, where you can be with a consenting person who enjoys delving into characters with you.
There's nothing wrong with you. Characterization is a fun time. I can't say that I haven't played a few parts in my life that I got wayyyyy too into. Just make sure that the people around you are on the same page, because it's not fair to lie to people for your own gratification.
Good luck, buddy! Or, better said - break a leg.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (1 August 2016):
 You need to stop. Tricking people, whilst not necessarily your sole intention, is exactly what you're doing and isn't fair. People like your character and end up being let down because she's not real.
I don't think you're gay, but you may be genderfluid - someone who feels like a guy sometimes and a girl other times. However, creating a whole different person isn't good, but maybe she's your escape to explore your feminine side. Read into genderfluid experiences online and see if it fits.
I'd look into therapy to get to the root of it and help you deal with it without hurting others.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (1 August 2016):
 Youre 15, honestly I will say this--STOP FUCKING AROUND WITH PEOPLE. Especially onlineIt doesnt matter if youre gay or bi, you can be whatever you want to be or whoever you truly are. Sexuality is fluid. But stringing people online, youre going to one day regret this. Its going to come back and karma is going to get you. STOP IT. RIGHT NOW, something bad in the future is going to happen and you will regret it for the rest of your lives. People have ended their lives due to being lead on or catfished online.Whatever imaginary world you have created, get the hell out of it and grow up. Youre 30 something year old self will look back and be ashamed of yourself right now at 15. STOP IT
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