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*uvtojump
writes:I'm a pretty shy girl and tend to avoid situations where there is a possibility of rejection, but I can't just ignore the one I'm in currently. My dentist retired about two years ago and two young men were hired into the practice. The first time I saw one of the new dentists, I was completely awestruck. I never made a move and for the past year and a half, he has been out of state at school. He's always been on the back of my mind and with all the failed attempts I've had with other guys, I really want to get to know this dentist better. He's smart, motivated (unlike the guys I'm usually attracted to), and mature. I found him on Facebook, but am unsure whether it would be weird to friend request him, although he only examined my teeth maybe two times. His best friend is my current dentist, so should I sneakily inquire about my crush through him? I'm currently in college and need some sort of internship and while I'm not focused on a career in dentistry, I am interested in a career in the medical field. I was thinking that would be a good way to get to know the best friend better and maybe eventually speak more to my crush? What do you think I should do? I really don't want to miss out on this great of a guy. Thanks for your advice :)
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (1 August 2016):
 Is he taken? I completely understand being attracted to someone in weird circumstances (professor, guy at drive thru, movie theater attendants, walk passing a cute guy) etc.But be realistic honey, it could just be a crush! What if you really got to know this person and you found out you have nothing in common. Just be very realistic here--sometimes we imagine all THESE amazing things with them but in reality you might have nothing in common or just realize it would be awkward than amazingDont make a move, just check out. Go on dates, be with guys who are real and with you in the moment, stop fantasizing and everything will just be dandy
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reader, N91  +, writes (1 August 2016):
 Don't think about taking a job you don't really want over a guy. You would have to deal with that for the rest of the life over something that might not even come to fruition.
Just bite the bullet and ask the guy out the next time you see him, if you don't want to miss the chance then don't. I wouldn't add him on Facebook because that does look a little weird as you guys haven't spoke before by the sounds of things.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 August 2016):
 A big *NO* to the Facebook add; it's a bit stalker-like, though that's not the vibe you want to give off.
The dentist is there to do their job and that's it, so the only way to talk to your crush is when he is the one you're appointment is with.
Don't get an internship that isn't the type you want to go into, just on the off-chance you might eventually get closer to the guy. Your future is more important that a guy you may have nothing in common with.
I'd consider letting this pass as an attraction only crush and find someone more accessible :)
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