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writes:So I love to hang with my friend and she knows a lot of guys as friends. We wil usually be a group of a few guys and other girls. I dont care about not bf but having ale attention is always nice to know but seemingly when im in this group I drown. They all have such beauty that I have nothing speical. My one friend has so many guys all over her and i dont even think she is that attractive...so she has light hair and light eyes but her skin isnt that good.I love hanging with her cause it is the only way I get to talk to guys now(im in high school but homeschooled(distant learning). I have though seemingly pulled myself away from haning out becasue I just dont feel I belong and that I waste my time going around with her and her friends(who all have light eyes, which I sometime get jealous of). I want to hang out though to help myself become more confident around boys....im pretty shy when talking comes along as all this has put my self esstem down when around. Just wondering how I can overcome this fear/anxiety?I know this one boy who im in an open relationship you could say and I can seemingly talk to him and the other boys at my church but when it comes to others im all caved in and I know its not because all of them have had sex and I havent cause I could care less about that stuffThanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): yeah thats a problem though you see I have.....I am a career nut! im in 10th grade going into 11 I work by singing in an opera chours which is fun and gives me a group of friends(all girls) I see once a week(when performaces start more). I ride and work ta my barn 2 times a week and this is what I wish to do and then im am hoping to start one ballet class a week....and im homeschooled.....yeah so I pretyt much dont get out...I guess im really asking this because my friend is having her sweet 16 this sunday and there is gonna be tons of people(all which i dont know) becuase they are all from her school. Ive meet a few but only a few so I just dont want to be a "stick" at her party shes put me on vip and everything. Otherwise im saying....I dont want to be a burden on her by wanting to stick near her, but that means conquering my shyness
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 When you go out with your mates try not to worry about what to say, just be yourself.
Im sure even if you are quite shy they are your friends and like to spend time with you. If you feel nervous and worrying about what to say try taking some deep breaths and then join in.
If you go out in a big group, why dont you try asking to meet up just a few of you - you might find it easier to talk if there arent so many that you feel like you cant get a word in!
I think you need to try not to worry too much about boys. Most of your mates who tell you they have sex probably haven't and even if they have i think you should wait until you meet the right guy.
You said you are still at school, so im guessing your under 16 and you have plenty of time to worry about boys! If there is a particular guy you like - try talking to him, get him on his own and ask him if he likes you - maybe if you are quiet they may not know what to say to you.
Keep yourself busy, go out - dont stay in alone too much (ive done this myself and it made it so much worse when i started to go back out with my mates again, felt like i had to get to know them all over again!).
Hope this will help you :)
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