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writes:I became good friends with a boy a year ago and then we started behaving as a couple, we held hands kissed and cuddled we talked all the time. I really really loved him. A lot . New years day he slept with another girl. I found out from our mutual friends. I was heartbroken and he still hasn't appologised or explained to me, all I've had is him messaging me blaming me and telling me that we weren't an item and that we wouldn't have worked. I'm still hurting so much. I hate him but love him at the same time? I see his face and just want to cry. My best friend is in a new relationship with a nice guy who is friends with my ex(?) and I just want to cry when I see them both so happy. Please can someone help me? I've been depressed for over a year and I feel the worst I've ever felt.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 January 2015):
 Well, "technically" you two weren't BF & GF. You were friends who hung out and fooled around.
He decided to sleep with someone else BECAUSE he could. The opportunity arose for sex, and he forgot all about him palling around with you.
He sounds kind of immature, but.. he is still right. You two weren't an item. He doesn't HAVE to apologize or explain anything to you. He liked you. JUST NOT THAT WAY.
Dry your eyes and let this bozo go. Find a guy who WANTS to be with you. SOMEONE who wants to DATE you, not just play pretend. And maybe, not be so affectionate with a "friend", save that for a REAL BF.
If you really are depressed (such an overused term these days) then TALK to your parents and see your doctor. YOU need to DEAL with that more the worry about someone who ISN'T worth your time and tears.
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reader, xgisellex +, writes (20 January 2015):
Wow that's a lot. My older cousin actually went through this kind of thing, except her boyfriend came around at the end. I think maybe you should look at the situation. If he did this to you, do you honestly believe he's worth your time? I bet you're a really pretty girl, with an amazing heart because you still like this guy after what happened, and you could probably go out and find another guy for you, someone who will treat you good and actually are about you enough. Seeing your best friend with another guy, and being happy about it, is hard, I know. I've been there. But I saw it as just another reason to try and get myself to be happy, too. Soon enough, I learned to be happy for her, and now I'm happy with my boyfriend. Life has lots of ups and downs, but see it as a roller coaster. " Just sit back and enjoy the roller coaster that is life." (My celebrity crush, Zayn Malik, said that so I had to incorporate it into this I'm sorry) hope I helped at least a bit :)
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