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writes:I have a physical problem with my intimate area,, I have a bit of an excess of skin. Not a skin disease or anything, just skin. But it does look ugly (as in not pinkish and rather dark). It was caused by me, masturbating as a kid, not knowing what I was doing.I'm now 18, and still a virgin. I am pretty good looking as people have said, and I have a 24 y.o boyfriend. But I've been avoiding sex with him, cause I'm afraid that 'it' would gross him out.But now we've been going on for 4 months, and he is a very decent guy, and I really appreciate him for waiting. I'm pretty sure that I want to have sex with him, but do you thing he will be grossed out? should I tell him beforehand? or is it actually not a problem at all?
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reader, inzlo  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 As long as there are no eyes or teeth down there, 99% of guys do not care.
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reader, maneater +, writes (27 June 2008):
I know this sounds a bit gross but why not look on the net of other female parts and you will probably see that you're just the same. I wouldn't worry about it! the longer you wait the harder it gets! no puns please lol xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): HAHAHA!!!
You guys are great!
Wonderful links lads. :)
Are you talking about you lips?
If so then I think you're like that naturally. Every woman looks different.
I have longer lips... They bothered me a bit for a while, but my boyfriend doesn't mind one bit. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): OK, LazyGuy, you asked for it:
http://ejacu.com/
Just as gross, huh?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Thank you, LazyGuy, for posting that website. I was trying to remember the url and just could not find it....
You're normal, I would lay odds on that. Women and men come in all shapes, sizes, skin colors, etc. And I'm really sure that masturbation did not cause the skin to grow. If it did, there would be women AND men who required slings to carry around the extra tissue. You're just growing into your own body and shape, which is normal and I'm sure quite lovely.
The thing for you to work on is your self-confidence and you feeling good in your own skin. And I'll also lays odds that he will think you are simply gorgeous.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Are you talking about your labia?
http://www.the-clitoris.com/y/vulva/m_vulva.htm
A random collection of vulva's so you get an idea of just how different they look in real life and all the color variations.
It may scare him if he is as ignorant/innocent as you are but with porn so readily available he probably seen all sorts already.
Is there a penis gallery so this girl doesn't run screaming when she sees him nude for the first time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I just want to add that I don't think that you should say anything to him about it at all. Let him explore himself. It's all of the parts between all of the folds of skin that both of you will find so enjoyable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Don't worry about it. I'm sure that he won't notice or care. I have no idea what any of my past girlfriends area down there looked like. I never looked and I spent a lot of time with my eyes about 2 inches away from that area. I know what my wife's looks like, but we have been together for 29 years. As Susan said, both men's and women's areas down there are kind of gross anyway. You probably aren't much different from most other women. And another thing. I doubt that masturbation had anything to do with what you look like.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (27 June 2008):
 if you have a lot of skin it wont be because of masturbation.
men wont find it ugly, but you clearly find it is affecting your confidence. if shallow judgement is such an issue then maybe you are the type of person who needs to be with someone who likes them for more than their looks to feel confident enough to have sex. this is no bad thing at all.
casual sex usually results in people being judged on physical appearance and onetime performance. this is likely to induce anxiety unless you are carefree and careless.
just accept yourself and dont feel you have to be perfect.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (27 June 2008):
 It won't gross him out. I don't think it's a problem at all.
I'm not an expert on what all women's bits look like except my own (I could tell you a fair bit about man's bits, but that's another matter...) but we're most certainly not all the same. I think most of us would say (if we've ever bothered to take a proper look) that part of us is the most awful looking thing on our entire bodies. I'm not entirely convinced that your bit of "excess", dark skin is actually caused by anything at all other than natural growth.
Men, obviously, don't look at that part of us as we might look at it ourselves. They just don't see the ugliness of it, no matter how peculiar it actually is. Whatever you've got there, he's going to love it!
It's no problem. When you're absolutely ready, go for it like every bit of you was the most beautiful thing in the world - because that's how he'll see you, and that's how you should see yourself.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (27 June 2008):
 If he loves you he wont mind.
If you can speak to him tell him about your problem and see how he reacts if it's good then he isnt bothered and you shouldnt be. If he acts bothered he isnt worth it hun.
Good luck..x
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