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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:why would a guy say he wasn't wearing a condom and ask if he could let go when he was in fact wearing one? He said it was just to heighten the heat of the moment but it freaked me out and I didn't understand that.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 I think he wanted to see how you reacted, too. And I think he is probably turned on by the idea of unprotected, natural sex, and maybe would love to do that instead of having to use a condom all the time. (hell, I understand - it's much nicer!! She says, now 9 months pregnant lol)
Maybe you should think about going on the pill, then you could have sex without condoms, so long as neither of you have any STDs. ?
I don't think he was being weird or anything - I think he just picked a slightly funny way to bring up the fact that he wants it au naturel ...
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female
reader, MissKin + ♥, writes (20 March 2008):
 I'd be rather concerned about the fact that you let him have sex with you when you thought he wasn't wearing one? Is that what happened or have i misinterpreted the question? If he wasn't wearing one, you could have gotten pregnant or caught a disease or anything, i'm sure you know this but i thought i'd throw it in anyway.
I think he was maybe just trying to make it all seem a bit more dangerous and what not but at the same time wanted to respect your body. it is rather odd though and if it freaked you out, simply tell him you'd appreciate it if he didn't do it again. You have to respect the fact that he wore one without you making him though.
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (20 March 2008):
 Bucking bronco?
Just remembered an old joke, do not follow the link if you still have hopes that some men are human deep down.
*** Text but NSFWhttp://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bucking+bronco
He might just have thought it was sex-talk and not considered you would re-act this way, talk it over but I wouldn't make a capital case out of it.
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female
reader, Sarrah +, writes (20 March 2008):
Maybe he wanted to heaten up the moment but it is not respectfull to you!!!
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male
reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (20 March 2008):
 Time and a place and all that. Wrong thing to say and not very mature. However, when making love, always KNOW if protected or unprotected. (I'm saying this in a friendly way with respect.) best wishes, G.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (20 March 2008):
 Because he is selfish and wanted to maximize his pleasure no matter what the potential risks were to you: His pleasure was more important than your consent, health, and peace of mind. Him telling you that he lied and all that implies and you not getting angry about it says a lot to him about your self worth.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Maybe coz he's an idiot. Find someone new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Actually, maybe it was because he wanted to see what you'd say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Jeez, I have no idea. Crazy..
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