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writes:I am 20 years old and just recently, four months ago met a guy at school who is 30 years old. I have never been able to cope with guys my own age cause of maturity. but anyway I met the guy in college and I guess I talked first kinda flirting asking can I sit here and he'd say I reserved it just for you. So then the second week of school he came up to me and asked if I wanted to go bowling with his buddies and I'm new here to this state and know no one, so why not. I went and it was fun and I spoke to everyone. the next day I get a text saying I got to tell you something. well I asked and then he told me I hope u don't get mad but I really like you but I'm seeing someone. And I was like mad why should I, we're not dating I'm not your girl I don't even know you like that. Anyway one Friday he asks to take me out to the movies and I say yes and we go eat and then to the movies and right when we walking out the door he turns me around and kisses me. My god was it the most nerve racking sweet kiss ever. ever since then we always hang out and we always see each other to go mini golfing or bowling movies eating. its been 4 months now. and when we did 2 months I told him I couldn't any more cuz it was just not right I didn't want to get hurt and he said he understood, that he didn't want to hurt me but we see each other in school so that didn't help and we started going out again. I asked him hun why don't u go out with your girl and he said that he barely ever saw his girl that they didn't even speak on the phone. that I was like the only one he spends his minutes on. So I'm asking myself if thats so and your always with me and your always talking to me. and when you're with me your phone doesn't ring so she really doesn't call. then y not break it with her and just be with me? I dont know if i have the strength to let him go i dont know what to do honestly i like that he respects me and we aren't even having sex which makes it worse cuz we only spend time with each other. To me thats more valuable than sex. and it kills me because now a days thats all a guy wants. I don't understand. He texts me the times he's with his buddies and hasn't been able to talk to me he just texts and says sayin goodnite and letting you know i'm thinking about you. which to me lets me know that yeah i'm on his mind. i mean what reason do you think he's hanging on to this girl for? or does he like me or just being with me because he's bored. this is just so weird and i'm cnfused and scared because probably i'll get hurt at the end. I dunt know and its just. weird i'm just falling for him everyday that passes by even more.
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reader, debs333 +, writes (23 July 2009):
debs333 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys but i don't know how to go about in asking him y he still with her when i feel like i'm the onli one cuz he's never with her
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reader, debs333 +, writes (23 July 2009):
debs333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for answering
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): He's trying to play you and the other girl at the same time.
In fact I think it's fairly obvious. I think you've been blinded by the idea that his age makes him incapable of such "immaturities."
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 aww sweety he seems to really like you.
i mean he said he's seeing this girl they're not technically together you you're not doing anything wrong.
seeing just means everything in a relationship without the label of girlfriend/boyfriend.
talk to him ask him why he's still seeing her? if he still is and ask him why can't you guys be together as in girlfriend/boyfriend label. i mean he seems to really like you and care about you and respect you as you said.
but if he was just seeing this girl you've not done anything wrong because he's still single technically he's just got a girl there is he needs it sort of thing but he's obviously really into you.
talk to him ask him if he's still seeing her and if so why?
and ask him why you guys can't be together.
Hope this helps hun :)
message me you want to talk further :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Let him go. I'm Christian, so I don't really believe in Indian concepts such as "karma," but think about it. Would you like it if the same thing happened to you? If someone started going out with your man?
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