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writes:So I recently started working for a new company. About 2 months after being there, I started inquiring to some of my coworkers that I was tired of living alone and was possibly looking to get a roommate or find a new place with roommates. I was having this conversation with one of my coworkers when another gentleman coworker, who was nearby, mentioned he was currently looking for someone to rent the extra bedroom in his condo. As I was new to the company, I didn't know him well but had always figured him to be a good guy. It was a very random coincidence but we ended up exchanging numbers and meeting that week for a drink. We hit it off right away. For about a month we've texted little hello's back and forth nearly every day and hung out a handful of times. I'm supposed to move in a month and I'm apprehensive because somewhere along the line, I've become pretty attracted to him. Neither one of us is in a relationship. We are both very concentrated on our careers right now and work perfectly different schedules. I don't know what to do. Of course I have to consider what I would be loosing if i presented the attraction issue. This guy could become a great friend and a pretty perfect, strictly roommate situation. On the other hand, if I say nothing, how in the world can I expect to ever say anything after im already moved in. Do i say something before we start sharing a roof or just be patient, go with the flow and hope it all works out. The weird thing is that I'm fairly certain he feels the attraction as well but has decided to say nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): if a guy likes you, then you'll know and he'll do something about it. if you're hoping he's going to fall in love with you just because you live together you're just fooling yourself! i'd avoid moving in with him altogether if you want to date him because you're just going to end up living with a guy who's not interested in you and being hurt everytime he goes on a date or brings a girl home.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Go with the flow, if he is or becomes interested he will let you know. Its a great opportunity to live with someone you like who will be a good friend and possibly more, just let things happen and enjoy all the steps along the way, no more analysing.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 i'd perhaps say something before you guys move in i mean if you find out he doesn't like you and feels maybe you should find somewhere else then you'll not be homeless and still have a roof over your head whereas if you tell him and you are moved in he may feel it'll be awkward and ask you to find elsewhere to live.
i mean if you guys both like eachother and are still going to be room mates GREAT! but definately do it before you guys move in you don't want to find somewhere down the line that the attraction isn't mutual and you both find it awkward to live with eachother.
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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