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*ueenS
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months but he has never kissed me. When I bring the subject up, he says he is planning a perfect first kiss. Should I believe him or is he cheating? Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Hi sweetie yea go ahead, meeting the parents is something that could be hard but, you dont need to worry, just be yourself. Go for it.. It is good he is taking the relationship slow, that way you both get to know each other.. x x x x
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reader, queenS +, writes (9 July 2007):
queenS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thank you for your advices, i did what you sugested and gave him a peck on the mouth although it didn't go any further than that. but he took me to his house and he wants to take our relationship to the next level, he wants me to meet his parents. any advice?
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 July 2007):
Hi bbe i dnt think hes a cheater, maybe shy and doesnt know when to make the move, he probs is very scared incase he does it wrong.. let it happen naturaly and mayb u make the first move and go in slowly etc .. hope i helped x x x x xx mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): he is shy i think. so thats cheating out of the question if i am right. he does want to get close to you but it looks like you are the one who is going to make the first move. dont dive in head first just work your way up, snuggle up to him, put your head on his chest and kiss him on the cheek. he should fall into your way then, keep us posted.
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (5 July 2007):
 i don't think his cheating at all. he might not know how to kiss or he may of had a very bad experience with kissing before.
sit him down and ask him the real reason he doesn't want to kiss you and be very sensitive when your asking he might tell you something shocking
goodluck
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reader, saphyre +, writes (4 July 2007):
I do not think he is cheating. I known a guy like that. If it is anything like I been through, maybe it is the fact that he just doesn't like kissing, and saying that he plans the perfect one is a way of avoiding it. There are guys that will do anything and everything in the relationship apart from kissing. I agree though with LauraE, a quick peck might go a long way
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reader, LauraE +, writes (4 July 2007):
I doubt very much that he is cheating if he is too afraid to even kiss his own girlfriend. He has got a problem though. Certainly, 3 months to plan the perfect kiss is excessive! It could be any one of many reasons, which you will need to persuade him to share with you. Does he suffer from cold sores? He may be afraid of passing them on to you. Is he embarrassed about his teeth, or breath? If it’s nothing obvious like that, then the most likely thing that I can think of are that he is just very nervous of messing-up. Maybe a previous attempt to kiss a girl went badly, and he felt awful about it, and is dreading another disaster. The longer he puts off kissing you, the worse his fears will get. Maybe it has got to be almost like a phobia with him. The only solution is to get him to be honest with you. The trouble is, he will also feel very silly admitting to something that he knows will sound odd to you. You will have to do this in a very sensitive way. Make it clear that you will not judge him or laugh at him, no matter what his reasons are. If this is his problem, tell him that maybe your first kiss won’t be the best ever, but it will be wonderful just because it’s him. Ask him if you could just give him a quick peck on the lips – nothing more than that. Then keep doing that often, gradually taking a bit longer, and not making a big deal out of it. Things should naturally come right.
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