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writes:hi cupids, need a little help. my OH and i have been together for a few months and im having concerns already. hes a nice guy but i feel like hes hiding me from his life a bit. we both have kids and have met eachothers kids but were not in a 'relationship' as such according to him. i want to be but he hasnt said out right. he avoids saying if we are. i text him two days ago asking for a straight answer and hes ignored it, been round my house, said nothing about it. hes quite protective over his kids so i think he will use that as the excuse, but my point is that weve already introduced the kids and family so why isnt this a relationship? i feel like a bit on the side to be fair i dont no what to say to him to make him understand that its him i want to be with in a relationship not as a bit on the side that makes me feel cheap. what can i do/say to make him understand?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (7 January 2013):
 I would sit him down when you are BOTH kid-free and tell him how you feel and what you need, then the ball with be in his court and he can either man up or end it.
One thing though.. if this relationship is "only" a FEW ( assume 2-4) months old maybe it's a little soon for him to commit to it? And unless he is seeing others, how can you be "a bit of the side"?
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