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writes:Ok so I haven't talked to my ex for a few years now because he is a jerk, I used to be good friends with my cousins wife or at least though we were, and recently she was talking to my parents saying how she's glad that I don't talk to my ex anymore because he's a jerk, then the next week she adds my ex to her myspace and they talk like they're so close, they actually don't even know each other but she purposely went to his work to meet him, and I know because she asked me if thats the place he works then started asking a bunch of questions about him and she goes to his work every other day. Later on myspace she sends him a birthday wish. She is married to my cousin, and my ex is married too. I feel a little betrayed by her doing those things cuz I thought she was on my side. So yesterday we had a family party and I was just going to pretend I didn't know anything about her and my ex, I said hi to her and she just looked away and walked past me, I was smiling to her and trying to make small talk and each time she would just look away ignore me, or just put on her sunglasses and she looked pissed off each time or just really angry. I couldn't figure out why she was acting that way since she's the one flirting with my ex, shouldn't I be the one thats mad? Then later that day I went home and signed onto myspace and saw that my aunt which is her mother-in-law had gotten a myspace and added her a few days ago, so I'm pretty sure my aunt and cousin saw all of her and my ex's comments and since then have given her a lecture about it, because at the family party I noticed they weren't talking. So what I don't understand is why would she be angry with me, she should have known the consequences if my aunt, uncle and cousin found out she was talking to him right?
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 well u said yourself that she was flirtig or something online and your uncle and aunt stopped her? what does that look like
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Your cousin's wife is being kind of shady here. I think she is after your ex. She tried to throw people off by mentioning he was a jerk but her words and actions after that say she is extremely interested in him. Your ex is probably badmouthing you and that's why she was so rude to you at the party. I agree that she should have known the consequences, not of talking to him, but of being rude to you and ignoring you for no reason.
Ask her what's up with her behavior at the party, but do not bring the ex into it. Just be cool and don't let yourself be dragged into any drama.
Good luck.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (4 August 2009):
 I can't say why she's upset with you: that doesn't just make sense to me at all! However I do think that her interaction with your ex is wrong on 2 accounts.
1st: being that she's married: so why the hell is she is going after him in the first place. That's dead wrong (and your ex is wrong too). I mean going to his job & all that isn't called for. And if it's nothing then she shouldn't have to act funny toward you or your aunt for that matter.
2nd: That's your ex! Maybe it's just me, but I feel that family & ex's don't go together. You don't mess with a family members love interest: past or present...period! And it's clear that she obviously wanted him at the same time that you did or she wouldn't be trying to start something with him now. And even if that's the case, it's still wrong in my eyes.
I think you should ask her why she's acting bad toward you though: cause she doesn't have a reason to. And you don't have to bring up her & your ex's commnication (unless you want to). But I mean, you deserve to know why you're being treated that way.
Hope I helped a little!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA chance for what? She and my ex don't even know each other, I thought I could trust her before so I told her my problems with my ex, she's already married to my cousin and has a baby, and my ex is married too
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (4 August 2009):
I don't think that she's mad at you, she may feel guilty about what she's doing. She knows that you aren't dumb and found out what's going on. If she really is mad and not guilty, she may be mad at you because she feels that you are a threat and that you are the one that's going to make her plan crumble.
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reader, Love is all you need +, writes (3 August 2009):
right, its probably cus she's jealous that you had him and let him go nd she never got chance... xx
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