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writes:My ex and I finished about 3 weeks ago. He had admitted to having feelings for another girl so I ended it with him. We still kept in contact for a couple of weeks even talking about trying again. However he started going out with her a couple of days ago. I was shocked seeing as we had only broken up for 3 weeks. We had been together over a year. Anyway I'm getting to terms with it, I deleted his phone number and removed him from my friends list on facebook. Since he found out that I'd deleted him he's been texting me asking if we can remain friends. I didn't reply and he has asked again. Why is he so bothered about remaining friends with me now that he has a new girlfriend? He says that he has told her that he is going to remain friends with me as well
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 October 2009):
If he breaks with this new girlfriend, who do you think he's going to come running to? Don't be his doormat!
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reader, totallyhollow  +, writes (1 October 2009):
Maybe hes a person that likes feeling wanted more than actually having someone. He hopes that you will miss him so when the newness of the new chick wears off and the opportunity presents itself you two can get things going again. Maybe you guys should just agree to take a break from each other rather than breaking totally. It does work.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (1 October 2009):
 He wants to keep you in case his other relationship falls through.Q is right, he wants to be able to drink from your well againremember this was over the course of three weeks that he went from you ending it(that was a positive move for you I must say), to him wanting to try to talk you into perhaps a reprise, to wanting to be friends.You took a positive step in deleting him from your facebook account. When a breakup happens, the only way you can truly7 ever move on(especially in this case) is to make him insignificant, and that was a good thing to do on your part.Now for your sake, continue to not answer his texts. The whole "lets be friends" after a breakup is tricky if not impossible.Remember, Ex's are Ex's for a reason
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Sounds like he thinks you might be plan B.your doing the right thing so far, be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): don't trust this guy. he may be trying to alleviate his own guilt. he may also want you as a back up if his new relationship fails.
people who move on very quickly cannot be trusted. this so called friendship concept is false and will only hold you back from moving on, it will keep you in the past and you may lose out opportunities in the future.
confrats in taking the first steps from removing this man out of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): He's keeping you as backup incase the new girl doesn't work out
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 October 2009):
 He may truly value you as a friend but he also may just want to string you along just in case his new relationship doesn't work out. Do what's best for YOU and YOUR best interests.
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