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writes:I would really like some advice on this please if you wouldnt mind ! :) I met this lad at a party and we really hit it off. Then spoke through texts and on computer and we was getting along find until I found out he has a girlfriend! But he asked me to meet him and go cinema with a few on his friends, and a few of mine. Next day one of my friends told him that I said it was just me and him going and told his girlfriend! And now he isn't talking to me, but he sounded angry at the idea of just the two of us going, although he did ask me to go with him with friends. But I just can't figure out what's going through his head ! Sooo I would love it if people could tell me there ideas :) thank you x
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 It sounds like he was possibly tring to hide things from his girlfriend. The person who told him is not really a good friend. Ditch that one!
The fact that he invited you to come along to the theater with some of his friends as well as some of yours means he wasn't expecting to be alone with you.
It's possible that he likes you but it might not be for a perspective girlfriend. On the other hand, he could have been sizing you up to see how things went just in case.
He was either angry because he was afraid his girlfriend would be upset about you or he was angry that you made it sound like the two of you were going alone,(although you didn't say it), making him look like a cheater.
Since you know that you didn't do anything wrong don't stress over it. If he can't be mature or wise enough to see the truth don't let it bring you down. All you can do it be you and in time he will notice who you really are If he is interested in your friendship then he will let you know. If he is trying to make more of it, then you should back off completely because he has a girlfriend. Period!!!
*Just a note....Choose your friends wisely, minding to whom you tell your business.....or they will put it in the streets for you. Most guys don't like that at all. Some guys give you mixed signals and it's up to them to set things straight, letting their intentions be known. Then it's up to you to make a choice and let your consience be your guide!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Teacake +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Pepper said it very well. Both these people are not friends or people you want in your life. If your friend lied, she is not a friend. Unless she did it to get rid of him for you?
If he is angry its only because his plan to have as many women as he wants has been ruined. He would have treated you like he treats the girlfriend.
Just tell him that your friend made up the story but you are glad to see that he has low character and you aren't interested in a guy like him. Be happy he is out of your life this soon!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Your friend told him you said it was just you two going and then told his g/f...First if I got that right she aint no friend she is jealous. Right you 2 met at a party, You chatted via text and computer got to know each other, You didn't know he had a g/f, You found out this upset you as it would most girls if the guy is leading them on, He asked for you to go out with friends in a crowd...SAFETY IN NUMBERS HUN!!!!!!He did not want his g/f to find out anything, Keeping his options open maybe... He asked you to go out in a crowd to stop any talk, Your mate told him what you had presumably said plus his g/f... He has got in big shit and is angry with you...Thats it I think love, Choose your friends carefully sweetheart and don't let this piss you off he is not worth it...TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXX
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