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writes:Why do women who cheat,cheat on someone they love,who gives them security,who they dont want to be without? I have seen friends lose their soulmate by cheating with someone they knew would never offer a relationship,or anything more than sex. My closest friend is going through this,but for some reason she is now laying the blame on the man she has lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): I know women, a few as it goes who are cheating right now on their lovely husbands,via work or the Net.
Their reasons vary from boredom to getting it while they still can.
None have got caught yet and would never dream of leaving their marriage because they have financial security and dont want to divorce their husband of years-they love them but aren't 'in love' I guess.They have history,children,mutual friends and a lifestyle.
I dont get involved, I don't judge,but I do think they are completely crazy risking everything for sex and thrills.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 November 2011):
In light of the fact that she's now blaming the man she 'loved' and doesn't have anymore, I'm also going to say that she must have some problems that prevent her from accepting that she was responsible for this.
Why did she cheat in the first place? Who knows - maybe she was bored with her marriage and didn't realize what she had until she was too late. Maybe she just got carried away. Maybe she thought she was one step ahead and was just plain selfish.
Whatever happens though, perhaps you need to just plain avoid people like this, or not take notice when they screw up.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 Because they don't have their heads screwed on right.
Let your friends make the mistakes they make, that is up to them to sort out. Just try to learn from their mistake and not throw away the things are that precious in your own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): she thought she was one step ahead and felt she was clever. she`s a borderline narcissist perhaps?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 I don't think anybody really knows the deep meaning of why a woman would do this, but there is obvious something lacking in a relationship when it makes someone go out and cheat on there partner. Where your friend is concerned well it sounds like she just cannot handle the fact that she messed up and she doesn't want to carry the guilt so she is blaming the innocent person in this, the guy she cheated on. She needs to take responsibility for her own mistakes. Nobody deserves to be cheated on no matter what. If her partner didn't treat her right well then she should have broke up with him and then went out looking for someone else. She made a huge mistake and I guess she is just in denial now that it was her fault and she is blaming others. She needs to be told what she done was her fault and she needs to own up and take responsibility for hurting herself and her ex partner.
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