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writes:hi aunts x, at dinner time me and my friends hang out but my friends lets call them lisa and fran always! get attention from all our male friends and it makes me feel really left out, i mean ill try to get noticed like taking my jumper off an stickin my chest out while doing it, or leaning forward on the desk but nothing happends they just carry on lookin at lisa an fran is there something im doing wrong and any advice on how i can improve it x Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 What you're doing wrong is taking your jumper off and sticking your chest out thinking that is what is drawing people to your friends. The people you are trying to attract are probably looking at you thinking you have some sort of back problem, and are wondering why you are pouting so oddly.
Make eye contact when you talk to people, don't look around to see what other people are doing, don't look bored, LISTEN to what the person you are having the conversation with is saying. You want that person to get the idea that you think they are the most fascinating person in the room.
Watch your body posture. Sometimes people have 'closed' body posture, such as crossing their arms and legs, turning away, keeping a hip or shoulder between you and the person you are talking to. Blatant sexual posturing just makes you look cheap and desperate, you don't want that. My mother used to say imagine that there is a string tied to the top of your head, pulling you up, shoulders away from your ears.
Be conscious of your expression too. You might need to look in the mirror or have someone tape you to see if you are doing something without realizing it.
What are you passionate about? Are you keeping up with the news and books and music? People who are interested in other things are more interesting than people who are only interested in themselves.
Hope this helps!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Leave your jumper on and stock sticking out your chest and the leaning forward stuff.
be yourself, be approachable and friendly, not over friendly, develop the knack of being able to converse on lots of different subjects, to lots of different people, so no matter what situation you are in you will be able induldge in some back and forth conversation. Find a woman in public life who has achieved (and continues to achieve) I am not talking media created stars in the news because they are druggies or whatever here, and see how they behave, develop patterns that will carry you through life, even after those perky boobs you keep trying to hang out have developed a bit of a sag.
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reader, Blod +, writes (7 December 2009):
 CaringGuy's right. Don't take your jumper off. It obviously doesn't get their attention. Talk to them and be yourself. It doesn't matter that they're not paying attention to you. Guaranteed there's someone else there who is. And don't compare yourself to your friends. At the end of the day you have just as much to offer as any other girl.
Hope I helped. X
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
By being yourself young lady. Stop taking your jumper off, and talk to them instead, even if you have to make conversation. Maybe the don't think you're interested (men get very confused). So talk to them instead.
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