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30-35,
*egpie12
writes:I keep messing up in my relationship with my boyfriend. It's over little things like not remembering things that he said he told me and forgetting too tell him thing too. It has put a serious dent in our relationship. Like tonight we got in to a fight about paying the contractor who is doing his bathroom. I forgot to tell him that I already gave him money for supplies and he told me that all I care about is myself and not about him... But I seriously do care about him.... I love him and I don't know how to make this better. I truly love this guy and I will do anything to make all of my stupid mistakes go away.
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reader, Uncle Charlie +, writes (6 October 2011):
Simple, work on your memory skills. Little things like getting into the habbit of keeping a notebook with you and writing everything down. If you are dealing with a contractor, get into the habbit of taking his business card everytime you talk to him, or take a message everytime you talk to him on the phone, therefore it could serve as a reminder. Like it or not, it is the little things that counts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 October 2011):
 I got myself a little notebook that i carry all the time. my boyfriend carries one too... we write everything down in it so we don't forget.
the front page is things to do (long term and daily)
the back page is a shopping list.
both lists are living and breathing documents and change daily...
as they get too messy I tear them out and write new ones.
we also keep notes on what to discuss with each other at the end of the day... (if we haven't emailed about it) NOT texting... emails or voice... things that can be verified as being sent said or done...
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (5 October 2011):
 I've been through this before. It's not your fault that you forget things sometimes, you're only human! Maybe invest in a communal notepad that you can use to leave him messages. When something is in your head, just scribble it down, at least then you don't have to worry about forgetting it!!!
Your fella seems a bit anal tbh, just tell him that you love him and will try your best to make notes/pass on messages to him, but remind him that sometimes you can forget things, as you have other things on your mind too. There's not much else you can do really.
Once you get into a routine of leaving a note on the counter/fridge/bathroom mirror then whenever you think about a message that needs passing on, you'll just write it down straight off. If the message doesn't reach your bf, then surely it'll be his fault for not reading the note you left for him :P
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