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Why do I have to do all the work when we're having sex?

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Question - (31 May 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi ive been getting kind of annoyed lately because in bed it seems as if im always doing all the work. I mean its fine to do it sometimes but I would like to get some pleasure back. Really hard to explain. but i dont know what to do. can someone help?

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A female reader, m698778 Canada +, writes (1 June 2007):

well, it seems that your partner is very insecure about himself during sex. he's probably worried and concerned on how you might think if he pleasures back to you. he might be concerned on how he's doing it so therefore, he wants you to give him the pleasure instead. so talk about this with your partner and help him come in to terms it's okay! practice makes perfect!!!

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (31 May 2007):

kenny agony auntYou have got to talk to him and tell him that you have needs too, and that its not fair that you do all the work. Its easy sometimes for people to fall into a pattern and become complacent. Enphasize that you are a couple, and that in a relationship its give and take.

All the best x

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2007):

love-him agony aunthia babe talk to him, its all very well u satisfyin u in the bed but you need satisfyin ur self, not ina cheeky way just drop it carefully into the convo sayin u dont wanan be the one doin all the work.. if he doesnt understand refuse until he does, =] hope i helped mail me if u wana talk x x x

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A female reader, candy00s United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2007):

candy00s agony auntSounds like you partner is lazy in bed! not good!

Talk about it explain that you feel like you are doing all the work!

He has to consider your needs too not just take.

xxx

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