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*yinter
writes:I just got back in contact with my ex that i was truly in love with but he cheated and left me for another women and married her. Years later I moved into a certain area and he stayed across the street from me. We talk and got caught up with one another but he wanted more and I could not do it because he was married even thought I never cared for her in the first place we have had our times. But recently we became back in touch and now I want him back would I be wrong?
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reader, Wyinter +, writes (14 September 2009):
Wyinter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i do not think i did sometimes you just need to ask I have listen to everything that everyone said but i just needed him to feel like i did even though they are married she didnt care that he was my man and he married her because she got pregant and he always said that who had his children she would be his wife so she knew what she was doing at the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): Well then, I guess you two deserve each other but his wife does't deserve this even if you don't like her...you kind of wasted our time here writing in for advice didn't you?
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reader, Wyinter +, writes (13 September 2009):
Wyinter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have won i can tell you this for sure I did what I said I was going to do but instead i got down and dirty with him once we finished I got up washed up and left his happened about two hours ago. he has called my phone about twenty times asking why did I leave he had time on his hands because she was out with her friends but I have not called him back and I will not because I got what i wanted and needed so she can have him but I tell you this by tomorrow he will b at my house i know that it is wrong but so what
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): If you continue to get angry and try to take revenge on him, then he Won because he got the reaction out of you he was looking for. If you try to hurt him, then he knows you actually care. Why give him the satisfaction?
Haven't you ever heard of turn the other cheek. If you act as if he doesn't matter to you, then he will realize he is not the all out stud muffin he thinks he is.
You won actually, because he sounds like a cheater and now he is her problem not yours. Just be satisfied with that and get on with your life. Leave the two of them alone. If he contacts you again, tell him you want him to stop contacting you, that you have better things to do with your energy than to waste it on him.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (12 September 2009):
I can understand your need for revenge. Despite what anyone on here says were all human and most of us dont like to be hurt and when we are we want to get back at the other person. As they say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. However in your case he may be talking a good one bored in his marriage and so into you blah blah blah typical player. time goes on but the game remains the same. Hes just running game on you and the fact that you think you have the upper hand boggles my mind. He married another woman you move across the street and instead of telling yourself, Im too good for him he cant even speak to me. He already won you indulged in all his b.s... In the end your going to end up looking stupid and hes not going to be hurt in the least he marrried some other chick and didnt marry you so therefore he has nothing to feel bad about. Your wasting your time. Dont you get it, he won the moment he got to speak to you again? Why even bother. Because your ego is bruised thats why... If thats fun for you than go for it, do you .
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reader, Wyinter +, writes (12 September 2009):
Wyinter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat may well all be true, but at the same time I will have fun because life is what you make it. If you take charge of it and own it the power is all mine. Who cares how he feels? Not me, he broke me down once and he will never get the second shot. It is all in war shited he needs to know how it feels and yes it may not be the moral thing to do but I get over it and he will be the loser in the end
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): So you want revenge. Isn't that kind of self desttructive, because it will just keep you hooked into him through anger and it will lead to self loathing.
Any time you reject another human being like that through vengeful actions, you disempower YOURSELF.
Get over him, tell him to get lost,
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): So you want revenge. Isn't that kind of self desttructive, because it will just keep you hooked into him through anger and it will lead to self loathing.
Any time you reject another human being like that through vengeful actions, you disempower YOURSELF.
Get over him, tell him to get lost,
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reader, Wyinter +, writes (12 September 2009):
Wyinter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, it maybe wrong but it is not about my feeling any more the only reason that I really want him back is to show him how it feels. Over the years I have gained soon knowledge about relationship. We were in our early 20's then. So I will do what he has done to me. The thing about it is that I do not call him he calls me. He asks why wont I call him and I would say why should I if you want to talk then call me when she is not around in which he dose. So he would call when he is in the bathroom or at his kids games things like that. We have planned so spent so time together and at the last minute I will not answer my phone. And wait for about a week and then talk to him, but I bet a dime to a dollar he would be upset and made but who cares it will be all about me and he would be the one getting hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): he cheated on you and you still want him back.
have you not learn anything from the past.
he actually married the woman he cheated on you with.
you deserve what you tolerate- apt saying. can you not see his cheating pattern. he is a compulsive cheat and well, if you want the cheating married man, you live with the consequences.
have you become a sucker for punishment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Yea it's wrong I know you have temptations but it's best to leave him be. It's really not worth the heartbreak and the drama that might go down.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (11 September 2009):
i gotta jump on the band wagon =(... sorry dead ass wrong. two wrongs dont make it right. as enticing as it sound nah uh dont do it. plus hes used goods he hurt you once. he will have no problem doing it again. history repeats itself. hope your listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Of course it's wrong - don't you remeber the impact it had on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I strongly feel this is bad. While the feelings are legitimate, i cant imagine why you think this time is any different from last time. He betrayed you. He cheated on you and will probably do the same in the future. He wants you to be interested in him b/c he probably cant deal with the fact that he couldnt have you while he has his wife. And now he is looking to cheat on his wife with you. Move now, far far away. I just dont want to see your heart broken again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): Married=Unavailable Man=Off Limits=why are you interested in an unavailable man=low self esteem issues He cheated on you and left you for another woman.
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