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In love with a meanie?

Q.   I went to homecoming last night, and it was amazing. We were dancing like crazy and the whole place was crowded. A guy in my geometry and bio class is when grade above me, and he's always been mean to me...but he's stopped since 4 weeks ago...He's ...

A.   23 February 2010: OH MY GOODNESS! You guys were right. He's a jerk! Last week he said a slew of racial slurs to me, since I'm half white half hispanic. Thank you for warning me! I'm so glad i DIDNT GO OUT WITH HIM.... (read in full...)

Who is my baby's father?

Q.   Hello.. I feel awful however I made a big mistake and I am wondering if someone can help. I am 16 weeks pregnant and I am unsure who the father of my child is. Me and my fiance have been together for 5 years and broke up on oct 2nd... I met a guy ...

A.   23 February 2010: I can't tell you and neither can anyone else. Only a DNA test can. You need to tell your fiance regardless of how you feel--if he finds out when you're married, he might want a divorce, so tell him now so that you can go through the healing process.... (read in full...)

Is it normal that he started masturbating in front of me the second time we had sex?

Q.   after my boyfriend and i had sex for the second time in our relationship, i got tired and came off him, and he started jerking himself off infornt of me. is this normal? or is this as____ish? or does he feel that confrontable with me that he did ...

A.   23 February 2010: That shows he feels he is comfortable to do that in front of you. Next time he does it...Move his hand and sayMy turn and put your hand there instead ok? Dont just watch him, even though he's probably enjoying doing it. Kiss his abs, or his lips, or ... (read in full...)

She cheated on her ex-will she cheat on me?

Q.   I am a divorced man,my career has me out of town for extended periods. I have had three serious relationships including my marriage. Each relationship ended when I caught her cheating. I have now become involved with a new lady, and I feel I have ...

A.   23 February 2010: The fact that this woman has told you about her past cheating habits is a miracle. This woman, rather than telling you she's never cheated on anyone she's been with wanted you to know the truth. That is the first step to building trust in a ... (read in full...)

Should I tell a female know about my problem, first..before we have sex

Q.   I am 27 and have never had a girlfriend and my only sexual experience equates to a string of infrequent one night stands over the last 8 years. Recently I have noticed that I have become premature to a worrying extent. My question is this, when I ...

A.   23 February 2010: Just don't tell them on the first, second, third, fourth date..Okay? Wait a month until your exclusive. Sex should only happen in a monogomous relationship..where you two are exclusive and only seeing each other. Sex also can ruin a relationship, so ... (read in full...)

In love with a meanie?

Q.   I went to homecoming last night, and it was amazing. We were dancing like crazy and the whole place was crowded. A guy in my geometry and bio class is when grade above me, and he's always been mean to me...but he's stopped since 4 weeks ago...He's ...

A.   26 October 2009: Thanks guys for your help, but I think you need to realize one thing....he's told other people he's in love with me...He asked for advice from my best friend. I would never have sex with him. He knows this too.... (read in full...)

My boyfriends addicted to porn and barley has sex with me

Q.   my bf and i have been together for years,we live together and i knew he liked porn,but now,he is putting porn under the sink,in his mp3 player,everywhere.we have sex like once a week and i tried to come on to him,he declined,later that night he is ...

A.   24 October 2009: Get into something really sexy...and play out a porn fantasy for him. Try something like dressing up as a student in ponytails, a plaid skirt, and an oxford shirt....with maybe one of his ties.....You've got to spice up your love life enough to make ... (read in full...)

I am not bi or lesbian but sometimes women can turn me on.

Q.   I am not a bi or lesbian. I have a bf and we love sex with each other. But I get turned on by female body sometimes. When I was young, me and my cousin sister used to feel each others bodies and it was a real turn on. We never continued it for two ...

A.   12 September 2009: Straight people can get turned on by the same sex. It happens to me, and I'm a ruler girl!... (read in full...)

I'm very worried because in my dream I was lesbian!

Q.   About a month ago now i had a dream i was a lesbian, before that I was perfectly straight. Now i'm really confused about my sexuality. I have a boyfriend but now i just don't know; i feel really happy when i'm around him and i really love him. But ...

A.   12 September 2009: I am not a lesbian. I had a dream like that to, but don't worry. Did you know straight people get turned on by lesbian porn. See? Our world is strange. Don't get scared.... (read in full...)

I'm getting married and she wants to be my secret love affair!

Q.   first and foremost, i am straight,engaged to a beautiful man whom i have shared my life with for the past 4 years. 2 years ago, i met this really attractive woman at a party, she is my friend's cousin and because she is working in the same line and ...

A.   12 September 2009: Don't have sex with her...Just masturbate with her...But cheating isn't a good idea. Talk to your husband. Ask him how he feels about it. Trust me, guys are pigs. He'll love the idea.... (read in full...)

I kissed my cousin 3 time.....and I liked it

Q.   right.. ermm restly i went back to zimbabwe to stay with some family who i hadn't seen in over 3yrs, and i wasn't really looking forward to going cos my counsin who i sow last and he didn' talk to me. well this time he did talk and we got really c...

A.   12 September 2009: It has happened to me several times with my girl cousin. Why do you think my icon says that? I've kissed a girl and liked it--even though i'm straight.... (read in full...)

How can I tell if my cousin feels the same about me as I do about him

Q.   SO here...goes ...its VERY long i feel as if i might be getting over my cousin but i know its only temporary. because it's almost like a cycle, i have on and off feelings for my 1st cousin (who although is adopted) i should treat like a brother. ...

A.   12 September 2009: I have had several 'lesbian'--even though I am straight--kisses/2nd base experiences with my cousin 'Dana'. We've never gone further than second base, but don't feel ashamed. It happens. ... (read in full...)

This girl makes me uncomfortable and I don't want to hang out with her anymore. What should I do?

Q.   My friend is strange. Recently I had to end our friendship. Where do I start? When I used to work, "Suzy" would glance at my work from the corner of her eye which got me annoyed - I do not like others looking at my work and then copying it. She ...

A.   12 September 2009: Oh, it looks like this girl has a lesbian crush on you. There's nothing wrong with that. I am straight, and I have had lesbian crushes before that have been on me. Don't be offended--be flattered. Thre's nothing wrong with this. Just act cool, an... (read in full...)

Do you know any married men that have managed to stay faithful?

Q.   Do you all know of any married guys who are faithful?...

A.   12 September 2009: I know so many married man who are ages 20 to 77 who all have been faithful to their wives....Come on, let's get real here. Not everyone has cheated on their partner.... (read in full...)

Does he love me after what he said?

Q.   I have a boyfriend who is almost 20 and I'm 18. we've been dating for 16 months and he says I'm the best thing ever in his life and that he'd die for me. so we watched city of angels on the couch the other day and we were talking about pregnancy and ...

A.   12 September 2009: Yes, but what you implied was that you wanted to purposely get pregnant. Talk to him about it, and ask him if he really does love you. He thinks you want to pregnant, and until you clear this issue up it'll be the 'elephant' in your relationship.... (read in full...)

I want to have a Gay relationship with my cousin. Is this ok?

Q.   Hai,I have a cousin,just call him kel,he's 21 and he is gay. Recently, he called me, telling me he liked me, and asking me, whether I want to be with him or not, I do admit I like him too,and I want to accept him, but the problem is, we are cousins. ...

A.   12 September 2009: I had a gay relationship with my cousin, so I don't see how it's that bad. Just take it slow. Don't slip into his pants right away, okay?... (read in full...)

Should I tell her about the dream as well? or should I just forget about it?

Q.   I've been a lesbian for 3 years, and when I seen this girl in my class I fell in love with her and we spoke and we've been good friends ever since. So a couple of nights ago I had a dream that me and her got married. I was just wondering if I should ...

A.   12 September 2009: Maybe you should tell her...you never know. She could feel the same way.... (read in full...)

Am I actually squirting?

Q.   Hello all I have been searching about squirting during sex. I played with myself with a toy. When I felt that pressure like I had to pee I was told to push with my muscles. So I did well needless to say warm liquid came out and even though it didnt ...

A.   12 September 2009: You have squirted, just work at it harder... You want it to make it feel amazing....... (read in full...)

He cheated on me. He doesn't know I cheated on him too. Should I tell him?

Q.   My boyfriend has cheated on me twice and I've forgiven him both times because he came out and told me I didnt have to find out or any other immature things involved. While he was cheating on me I kinda felt that something was going on so I cheated ...

A.   11 September 2009: If you want to stay with him, you need to tell him the truth. Honesty is the first step to renewing your relationship. You need to make sure that you do this if you have even the tiniest inkling that you and him could work.... (read in full...)

I kissed my lesbian teacher

Q.   right so my lezbian teacher asks me to stay after school so i did.she starts talking to me about responsibility and all that and then starts feeling and rubbing my leg.at the time it was makin me feel quite uncomfortable but then she leaned in for ...

A.   11 September 2009: First of all, whoever you are, I think you've been molested. You need to stay away from your English teacher. She's officially a pervert. It's fine if you are gay...Just make sure that you don't date your English teacher! It's against the law!... (read in full...)

I think I'm bi, but when I make out with girls it doesn't feel completely right. How can I be sure?

Q.   hey evrybody out there.i am actually fairly young but i think i am bi.i make out with girls and it doesnt feel right.i like doing it but half of my wants me to stop.is there anything i can do to find out for sure?...

A.   11 September 2009: Hey, calm down! I am bi. I kiss girls, but I'm more into guys. Sometimes I go farther, but I always feel somewhat regretful. It isn't bad to be straight and liking to make out with girls. What do you think my icon says?... (read in full...)

I've fallen hard, but can't understand the signs!

Q.   Hey i really need some help. Im a 17 year old girl, and i would consider myself quite attractive. I was with my boyfriend for 1year and a half, but things turned rather sour, i stuck it out, until i fell for someone else, he didnt even no i existe...

A.   10 September 2009: Dear anon, Don't get too ahead of yourself..attractiveness is not the only thing..you need to not be shallow too! LoveIsRough... (read in full...)

How could I find my birth father having these few details?

Q.   i am desperately trying to find my birth father. I know very little about him apart from his full name and his approximate year of birth. his details are not on my birth certificate. please help!...

A.   10 September 2009: First of all, do you know his name? If you do, then you can narrow it down. Ask your mom what your father did for a living, and if she's asking why, just say that you just wanted to know if '''wanting to be a lawyer--or something else''' was a ... (read in full...)

Why do I always think I'm pregnant?

Q.   hello everyone, im a 17 year old girl and i am on the contreceptive pill however every time i have sex im convinced im pregnant. No matter how many negative pregnancy test i have i still convince myself im getting pregnancy symptoms, even when i use ...

A.   10 September 2009: I have a feeling you feel guilty about having it in the first place. Sex is a choice, and maybe you feel guilty that you are having sex with anyone. I'm not against sex, as long as you are protected, but I think there's some guilt in the era ... (read in full...)

My friend keeps hitting on my boyfriend!

Q.   ive been going out with this boy 4 atleast a month now and my mate has a boyfriend in a diffrent school and she just flirts with my boyfriend alot and me and my b.f talk on msn and he says he doesnt like her shes a dog and stuff but it really p...

A.   10 September 2009: Dear LEH123, Just because she is really your friend, it doesn't mean that she won't follow your heart and go for the guy of her dreams. If you were in her posistion, wouldn't you follow your heart? Still, he is your boyfriend. Why don't you sit do... (read in full...)

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