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writes:please ladies, help with this one. i am extremely curious about something that happened to me. i met this wonderful girl and we became roommates, we were only aqcuitences before, but once we were together the first week i asked her out to the movies with me and the conexion was immediate. there was such good chemistry between us. the next week we were watching a movie and asked her if she wanted to cuddle. she agreed and we slept together but nothing else happened.the next day while we were talking i made my move and kissed her, we made out and took her to my room. i took her clothes off and she told me she was not going to have sex with me but i kept going and went down on her, when i tought she was ready for sex she refused. the same thing happened every night for about 8 days.the last night after going down on her i told her that if she was not going to have sex with me everything would be over because i felt like a boy in a candy store, a store where you cant touch or taste and it was frustrating me very much because i was already developing strong feelings for her. she hesitated but agreed to have sex and she said she was feeling the same way too.that night after sex i noticed my penis had some blood on it, my bed sheets had blood and my matress too ( a big stain) remember i had been going down on her everyday before for the last 8 days and she didnt smell or taste funny. we kept having sex the next days and were no blood anymore, just that night. in a game i asked her when she had lost her virginity and she said and i quote, im not going into details but it was when i was 20, ( she was still 20 when he had sex) so my question is, why did she bleed? she wasnt on her period for sure, did she bleed maybe because i was a little bit rough or because she was a virgin? i had been with a virgin before and with she was different.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (17 December 2012):
Hello again. As you first said there was only a large amount of blood after sex on that first night, but no more after that, probably means that when you penetrated her vagina, what happpened, is that the last little bit of her hymen finally broke away.
It sounds like what you would expect to happen, in the case of a young woman, very recently losing her virginity.
And as you then said, there has been no more blood since then, well then it seems to be that the hymen is now completely broken, which as I said earlier, is what can happen in some cases.
In some women, it can definitely take 2-3 times of having sex, before there is no more bleeding.
And every woman is different.
Some women will get maybe very little bleeding, and yet others will get a lot more.
Some women may only get slight bleeding on the first occasion of sex, and maybe nothing after that.
Then others, maybe 2 or 3 times. Each following time, there will be less bleeding than the time before.
That is all it is though, simply the tearing of the hymen, which is at the entrance to the vagina.
It's just a perfectly normal situation that occurs, in a woman losing her virginity.
So I promise you, there is absolutely nothing to worry about.
And always make sure that when making love, that you ask her if she is comfortable, and to check that something you do does NOT cause pain or discomfort to her in any way.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 December 2012):
 If this is common she needs to go get a check up. Bleeding profusely during sex is not the norm.
Unless of course she was on her period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncontinue.... she answered is because am afraid to love you. then she agreed to have sex and asked her twice if she was sure about it. i have asked her about her sexual life only once and she refused to answer. i know thats her business only, thats why i havent asked her again. but i really would like to know about that bleeding. so please try to not to be judgemental here and please let me know your toughts, im actually a very nice guy, not a douche, or a "charmer" or a bad guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate your comments and thank you for your feed back. however the point of my question was missed and instead i was being judged. i came to this site because i always have found the right advice. to person12345, futureauthor and honeypie i have to tell that i do care very much for this girl, in fact i love her and we are still happily together, but the whole story is long and there were certain circumstances that led me to push her for sex. im not going to ventilate the whole story here and i wanted to make it short. i admit i may have been wrong, but if none all the things i explain wouldnt have happened, we probably would not still together. just for the record i was not rough with her, while having sex she didnt show any sign of pain or to be uncomfortable otherwise i would have stopped and finally she didnt feel bad at the next day. she has never showed any regrets about that night, we both are very happy and trust each other. if i asked is because i care and im trying to find out the truth. she had broken up with her boyfriend not long ago before me, i asked her if she didnt want to have sex with me because she was still in love with him she said no, she said she didnt loved him that much and then i asked her why would she allow me to get her naked on my bed and go down on her and then refused to have sex she
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 December 2012):
Could be many reasons, but I have to say.. you come of as a major douche...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2012): Why are you asking? It's not as though you care is it? Practically forcing a girl to have sex with you? Wow. You're a real charmer.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 December 2012):
 So let me get this straight. You blackmailed her into having sex she didn't want, and then were very rough with her, AND she was almost certainly a virgin, and are surprised when she bled? She was probably in a lot of pain and probably feels very bad about what happened. She almost definitely was a virgin. Either she was hinting that when she lost it was right then, or she was lying to make it into not a big deal.
You clearly don't care about her at all, or you wouldn't do something so terrible. What kind of person blackmails another person into having sex? Why would you want to have sex with someone who clearly isn't wanting to have sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2012): It could be that you were rough on her. Or too big. I bleed often, because I m very small down there, and my husband is quite large , so I bleed often, and doctor said there is nothing wrong with me. The only thing is that I don't bleed much,its just a little tiny specks, but not like big spots.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (15 December 2012):
Hi there. If she had only lost her virginity in the last few months, it is possible that the hymen which is at the entrance to the vagina, had not completely torn during the other encounter.
So this is the most likely cause for any bleeding.
It's simply the rupture of the hymen that is most likely the main cause, for sure.
And especially, as you said it was not during her period.
It can take a couple of sexual encounters for the hymen to completely rupture, to allow for more comfortable intercourse.
It can take 2-3 times of sex for the first time, before there is no longer any blood after.
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