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writes:I have a crush on my teacher. He is my guitar teacher and he is awesome and we have so much in common. He does private lessons with me and my best friend and I had a dream yesterday that my best friend was ill and he tought me on my own. He put his arms around me to help me play better but soon his breathing got heavier on my neck and he started kissing it. Them, I turned around and we started kissing. It soon got even more dirty and I won't say what happened but, I'm guessing you know what I mean.I knwo this is wrong seeing as I am only 14 and he is probably in his early to mid 30s. Also, I've noticed that, lately, I have been getting attracted to older, good-looking men. Whenever I go out and I see a older, very attractive man I stat fantasizing about them.My questions are: Is this normal that I have a crush on my guitar teacher? Why am I attracted to older men (way older than me)? Is it puberty?
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 oh, yes! i'm also mostly attracted to older men as well. in fact, there is evolutionary reasoning behind it (older men tend to be attracted to younger, more fertile girls, etc.) so have no fear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): This is very normal and very common in young girls. It's part of growing up and these feelings will soon fade. Obviously nothing could happen, so it's better to just wait until your feelings blow over. If you were to become involved with older men, it could destroy their lives and yours. You should try focusing on boys your own age and hopefully you'll grow out of this phase.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (27 September 2009):
 Hi there,Yes it is normal!Just look at all the other questions on here, very similar to yours.http://www.dearcupid.org/keyword/my%20teacherJust look at all of those.It is very normal. Most young girls go through this. You probably feel attracted to him because he's mature, and has more manly features. where as boys your age are literally boys and are still very young in their actions.So don't fret. Continue to relish in these feelings that you have when you're with your guitar teacher. They usually will feel wonderful. But it's best if nothing happens because it's against the law and you and him can get into a lot of trouble. Goodluck.
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reader, landingsight +, writes (27 September 2009):
It's perfectly normal and very common for girls to be attracted to older men. I'm a college student, and I find many of my professors attractive (we're talking people with graying or white hair here).
And, you probably already know this, but the incident with your guitar instructor could get him jailed for child molestation or statutory rape (depending on what happened). You should really stop seeing him and make a conscious effort to stay away from older men until you're legal, because if you do get involved and someone reports it, it could ruin their life.
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