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*hbabycakesxx
writes:I like this guy and he's called me at three in the morning, twice. I tell him everything, and he knows that I like him, and he tells me everything too, but we're not best friends. When he calls, he doesn't talk about anything sexual, and we just make fun of each other and we talk about random stuff to serious stuff. When I ask him if he wants to sleep, he says "I don't know. You decide." and things like that.Is he interested? Or am I a fool for picking up his booty calls?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Outstanding! Good for you. Now he knows you don't appreciate being considered a booty call. I like it.
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reader, ohbabycakesxx +, writes (23 June 2010):
ohbabycakesxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAh, well I told him straight up it felt like a booty call, and he said no it wasn't. Now he's not calling that late anymore[;
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 June 2010):
Well since you're nearly 16, I'd suggest this is more of a booty call.
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reader, ohbabycakesxx +, writes (22 June 2010):
ohbabycakesxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUhh, just for everything thinking I'm 13. I'm not. I'm turning 16 this October.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Unless he works late and 3 in the morning is the ONLY time of day he can call, in which case if he was worth your time he should have EXPLAINED this detail to you and made sure it was ok with you, I think he is up to no good and I don't think he has good intentions. It sounds like he calls you at 3am because he has alot to hide. Either he has a girlfriend he is sneaking behind her back to call you. Or (assuming he is alot older than you) he is trying to be conspicuous about talking to you so that others don't find out. Or the only time in the whole day that he thinks of you is at 3am when he is really lonely. Lose this guy, he doesn't have good intentions.
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reader, romany +, writes (21 June 2010):
 How old is this 'guy'?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 June 2010):
I think DrPsych nailed this answer.
You're giving too much away. There's nothing mysterious about you if you lay it all out. Guys like a bit of a challenge, a bit of a chase. You're taking his calls at 3 am, that tells him you'd drop everything!
How old is he? Is he 13-17? I can virtually guarantee you that he tells his buddies that he calls you at 3 am. They now know that your boundaries aren't that great and that will devalue your status in their eyes, and therefore in his.
I know it's fun and exciting and a bit thrilling to be taking phone calls at 3 am, but if you like this guy, you will set some boundaries and make him work for your attention.
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reader, UncleHarris +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Ok pet, let's start with the responsible answers:-
- You're 13. Do you really want a steady or a sexual relationship so soon?
- Do you ask him to call at such a time? Otherwise, do you not think his "booty call" is a little disrespectful?
And now hun, onto the answer you will probably listen to (although I my advice is that you ask yourself the above questions first.
You and this guy obviously like eachother, which is good, as you can not only talk about random and funny things, but you also have a serious side together, and a variety is important.
As young people, it is important to go out and do fun things, so think about doing these things before inviting him over to sleep.
But by the sounds of it, him saying things like "I don't know, you decide" suggests to me that he probably wants to, but is simply nervous.
Perhaps he thinks if he tells you yes, you will think that he is just looking for sexual fulfilment and go off him, and by telling you no he may think that you are going to perceive him as being not interested at all.
Perhaps try telling him you'd really like him to, rather than asking if he'd like to, but then let him make the decision. That way, he knows you want him to and that you aren't just asking, and he also knows that he's still not pressured into doing anything.
Anyway, good luck petal, let us all know how it goes :-)
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reader, Moonserenade +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Since he's only 13, he's interested. But try having a conversation with him during normal hours. You know, when there's still light out and I don't mean when the sun is starting to rise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): i wouldnt want any boy calling my 13 year old at 3 am..just be glad you dont live at my hours. mal
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reader, lautnerlove101 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Dear ohbabycakesxx,
it sounds like he likes you....calling 3 in da mornin tht makes it look as tho he couldnt sleep cus he was thinkin bout u so much. and i do tht 2 my boyfriend all the time he asks if i wanna go to sleep..and i say it dnt matter cus i wanna stay on the phone and talk to him longer but i dnt eva tell him tht. soundas like u gnna b a couple real soon...best of luck
your friend,
lautnerlove101
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
Generally, when a guy speaks at 3 in the afternoon, he's interested in you as a girlfriend. 3 in the morning? More likely to be a bit of a booty call. That said, he's still a young guy and since he doesn't seem to go on about sex, it could be that he fancies you. The only real way to find out is to talk at him during normal hours and get to know him more over time. Midnight calls aren't the best way to measure someone's intentions.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Ok you may like the attention but what does it say when a man rings at 3am? For a start it means he is thinking of himself more than you. If he doesn't respect you enough to call at a sensible hour, what sort of a boyfriend would he make. The fact that you answer his call at 3am says to him 'I am always available to you'. That is a bad starting place for a relationship because it gives him all the power to decide what happens and when. It is entirely possible he is calling at 3am when he is drunk or unable to sleep or for random reasons unrelated to having feelings for you. There are few people you can call at 3am who will entertain you without having to ring a premium rate number first. Stop answering those calls, see if he calls back at a better time for you...
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